How child support laws have ruined my life!

In 1984 my husband threw me out of our home to move his gay lover into our home, we had a 1 year old baby boy and I was pregnant with our daughter, I had no idea he was gay, I gave birth to our daughter prematurely from all the stress, not only was he gay but he did not give me a dime in child support,I was making 130.00 a week take home as a secretary and living in a trailer in the wintertime with no heat, I applied for food stamps,afdc,etc and was turned down because I made too much money! I was accepted into the wic program where I received a box of cereal and milk and a couple cans of juice a month! In my desperation I let my ex mother in law take temporary custody of my children until I could get back on my feet, she had begged for this arrangement,she had just remarried a man 20 years her junior, looking back I think she wanted to play happy family with my 2 beautiful children. I remarried, got "on my feet" went to court and the judge said the marriage was too new, I also had my ex in laws in the courtroom lying about me,making up stories that were unbelievable,but the judge bought them, I fought long and hard and had someone dousing my cars with gasoline and setting them on fire, I believe it was the ex in laws but the police and detectives working the cases never caught who did it. I was not allowed to see the children that often if at all and when I finally did they did not know who I was. The children were 7&8 years old when I decided not to pursue the custody battle as I was in fear for my life. I went on to have 4 more beautiful children their ages are 12,11,5,and 4. I was always a housewife, raising my children until I divorced my 2nd husband I had to get out into the work force, I went to school and learned computers and got a fairly decent job at 9.00 an hour,unfortunately half of my take home pay went for child care I wound up with 600.00 a month after nursery and taxes,I received child support from my ex husband in the amount of 600.00 a month, it was tough making ends meet, under stress I developed panic disorder, the attacks so severe my heart is damaged from beats of up to 180 a minute, I went from being a healthy 145 lb woman to 102 lbs over a 6 month period of time,I was still working and praying for a future for our family, we have lived in a 2 bedroom very small home for 7 years now, we have neither heat nor air conditioning,I was getting ready for work one day about a year ago when a sheriff knocked on my door with a supeona, I WAS BEING SUED BY THE STATE OF FLORIDA FOR BACK CHILD SUPPORT AND TO COMMENCE PAYING CHILD SUPPORT! After 14 years! My gay ex husband got himself locked up in prison right around the time I was served, it seems my ex mother in law collected afdc, and now they wanted me to repay it. At first I thought I had nothing to worry about, I mean after all I had all the paper work saying that I could not afford to have my children, I had the paperwork showing where time and again I tried to get my children back and the court decided it was in the best interest of the children to remain with their grandmother as they were there so long, I consulted an attorney who felt sorry for me and took the case for free, telling me not to worry, they could not do that to me,wel they did it to me,out of the 600.00 a month I bring home they ordered me to pay 400.00 if I minused my gasoline and dry cleaning, I was making 20.00 a week! My lawyer said he would appeal the decision, we did and lost that too,apparently I have fell into the cracks of our system with no way to get out, they refuse to consider my daycare expense! Sure if I did not have the day care expense I could pay 400.00 a month without a problem,it would hurt alot but I would do it, but with that decision I quit my job after I lost my appeal, I take a piece of cardboard, much like the homeless people do, and I stand on the street corner with my 2 little girls to pay our bills, my sign reads "The state of Florida put me here" Please help us. Quite a switch from working in a nice office where I was respected and liked by everyone. My new "job" leaves me in tears and gives me nightmares but it puts food on our table, I have written my story to newspapers and local news stations begging for help, I have written congress, I have been ignored by everyone, I always make sure to put in there that I have documentation of everything including all the auto arsons as my story seems unbelievable, recently started therapy as I felt like my children would be better off without me, I considered suicide as I felt there is no hope, my therapist has told me to keep fighting...I am trying , I just received a notice that my drivers license is suspended until I pay over 4 thousand dollars! My credit is ruined as I couldnt pay my bills and now I have judgements against me, my ex mother in law, by the way, lives in a lovely home with heat and air, she drives a cadillac, and owns rental property, my firstborn children wear the latest fashions(I am happy for that) Tommy Hilfiger and all, while my children now here with me shopped at the goodwill store for their back to school clothes. I am hoping to get someones attention,somewhere, who may be able to help me, I am not looking for charity, I want to be able to work and drive a car and give my children the life they deserve, your prayers are appreciated along with any advice or words of encouragement,perhaps your own experience with the laws of child support. Please email me @
bloopbloop@webtv.net.

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