This is a selection of notes from over two years of behavioral intervention sessions with a young child who ultimately recovered completely from autism. It includes many curricula ("drill sheets"), therapists' notes, and parents' notes, covering (in part) the development of social skills to an age-appropriate level. The notes are by the parents, Megan and Jim Sumlin (pseudonyms), who feel strongly that this information should be freely available to all who might benefit from it. They ask only that these notes belong in the public domain, and are not to be claimed or copyrighted by any person who is or will in the future be seeking monetary gain for wide distribution of same. Feel free to re-distribute this document, but please include this entire preface.

These notes are just one part of a comprehensive program guided by a behavior analyst; there were other parts of the total program, not included here, that were necessary to the child's development and eventual recovery. They are specific to one individual child. Use them as a resource to help you plan your child or student's curriculum. What works for one child will not work for all. While much of the material here addresses problems common to many or most children with an autism spectrum disorder, you will want to select carefully based on individual needs, learning style, and personality.

A few notes on terminology:

SD stands for "discriminative stimulus," the instruction given to the child.
R is the child's (expected) response.
NNP ('no-no-prompt') is one specific technique for presenting the "SD," then prompting (providing the "R") if the child responds incorrectly.
T.O. is "time out," a (brief) removal of all reinforcement (the child must sit and do nothing). This is meant to reduce certain unwanted behaviors but it has no moral or emotional overtones; it is not a punishment for "being bad."
Reinforcement is a reward for a correct response, which may be anything the child loves: a bit of chocolate, a piggy-back ride, an enthusiastic "You're so great!"

Proper reinforcement is the key to learning. Much more common in these notes is DRO, which stands for "differential reinforcement of other behavior." In addition to reinforcement for "getting the right answer," the child was frequently praised for unprompted appropriate behaviors (in place of undesirable, 'stereotypical' behaviors). For example, when playing with dolls, the therapist may say, "I'm glad you're not banging the characters together," or as the notes say in many places, "DRO'd flexibility"--unprompted spontenaity. Remembering to "catch 'em being good" takes a lot of practice, but it is essential to the development of a truly natural repertoire of age-appropriate skills.

Introduction
Social sentences
How social stories work
The stories: Original A | Original B | Original C | Set 1A | Set 1B | Set 1C | Set 2A | Set 2B | Set 2C | Set 3A | Set 3B | Set 3C | Master list A | Master list B | Master list C
Notes by parents and teachers

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Everything after this point was written by Megan and Jim Sumlin. Please note there is no connection between this document or its authors and Carol Gray or her books entitled Social Stories.

Introduction

Although there may be a few repeats in the stories that follow, most of the time there will be slight differences in stories w/the same name (i.e., all Social Stories Originals 1, 2, 3 & Masters look the same, but there are differences in the wording of the stories within each letter under those). We did this b/c we realized right from the start that our son was memorizing the words too well and would criticize us if we'd change any of them in the slightest. They were kept unpredictable in this way and it helped him key into the words and what they meant instead of whether or not WE were doing them correctly.

Even if all of this is confusing (it is to me as well), if you have a child who is ready, I hope that you could glean from these since so many of the "residual" problems these kids have seem, at least from correspondence we've had with parents, to be fairly universal.

The graph sheets at the beg of some of the series were for check off/initialing by therapists (so we could keep track that they're all getting done and sometimes could assign specific ones that weren't worked on enough within the notes). This was in a small print font. In notes (loose-leaf sheets after the graph, at the end of this document) they'd write which "set" (a, b, or c) of the story we were currently using (Social Stories: Originals, 1, 2, 3, or Master) that they'd used, though the graph was the same no matter which letter they were using. We of course preferred that whoever was there did not use the same "set" the previous therapist did.

Here is an abbreviated version of the graph we used throughout the programs to keep track of how many times each story had been taught:

	Week 4/17	Week 4/24	Week 5/1	… (etc.)
1. Time out
2. No answer from others
3. Asking questions you know the answer to
4. Other's property
… up to 24.

To clarify: We didn't do CAROL GRAY'S social stories but rather something our consultant showed us that was loosely based on these. As with everything we post, these were tailor-made for our son and may or may not be appropriate for every child. There were many, MANY pre-requisites for these stories related to the degree of language and ability to reason that he had before we even engaged him in the very simplest forms of these stories. We also had been working with our son on self-control, pride and confidence statements (we'd had signs on every wall months before to alert us to continuously do this) and TONS of scripted language (i.e., FULLY prompted conversational language) well before we started these, so he was quite accustomed to repeating large, complicated sentences and hearing similar language even before he really understood any of it. Our stories obviously did contain negatives but we were instructed to balance anything we'd write with pride and self control statements and, as I think we mentioned in brackets in one of our stories posts, we wished we'd had done even more of these (not that we could see that he suffered ANY for lack of -- again, we and our therapists constantly did these in life & therapy before, during and since).

Certainly, there are other ways to create and deliver stories like these. We're posting the ones we wrote because they worked for our son and more and more became the primary focus of our endgame.

These interventions should of course be discussed with your consultants &/or team to determine whether or not they (or some variation) would be appropriate either at the point of therapy you're at, at some future time, or at all.

Social Sentences

1. TIME OUT - Sometimes grown-ups send me to a timeout when I don't listen.

What are you supposed to do in a timeout?
What do grown-ups think if you don't listen? A: They think I don't know how to listen.
I can control myself so I don't get timeouts
I can listen to grown-ups

2. NO ANSWER FROM OTHERS - Sometimes people don't answer when you talk to them

Maybe they didn't hear you.
Maybe they weren't paying attention.
Maybe they were busy.
Maybe they just didn't want to talk to you.
It's not my job to make people answer me.
I can just forget about it, maybe they'll talk to me later.

3. ASKING ?s YOU KNOW THE ANSWER TO - It's not good to ask questions that I know the answer to.

It's boring to others.
People might think I can't remember the answers.
People might think I'm dumb.
People might think I'm testing them & that will make them feel angry.
If I want to talk to someone I can ask a question that I don't know the answer to.

4. TOUCHING OTHER'S PROPERTY - I should not touch other people's things.

I might break it & that would upset people and make them mad at me.
If someone did that to me I'd be upset.
When [brother] takes my toys, I worry he'll break them.
[Brother] does it because babies don't know better.
I know better; I can remember not to touch people's things.

5. CIRCLE TIME - In circle time I listen to the teacher.

If I talk to the other kids, the teacher will be upset because I'm not paying attention to her.
The other kids might think I'm a bad boy who doesn't listen to rules.
When I listen to the teacher, I learn.
Learning is fun; I can remember to listen to the teacher.

6. LEAVING ACTIVITY - I talk to the kids that I'm playing with.

It's important not to talk to kids playing with other kids
If I talk to kids playing other games, my friends will be sad, they'll think I'm ignoring them.
They might not want to play with me next time.
If I only talk to my friends we have fun together
Next time they'll play with me again.

7. TUNING IN TO PEOPLE - I only think about what people are saying or doing.

When I remember to do this, I make friends and I know what's going on.
If I think about other things I can get distracted, I might even get stuck.
People will think I'm weird and they won't want to play with me.
I will always think about what people are saying and doing.

8. PREDICTING - I should not try to guess what's going to happen later

Surprises are fun.
If I try to guess, I miss out on good things.
I might even miss a surprise.
I'll remember not to predict.

9. CALLING OUT - Whenever I want to talk to someone, I need to walk over & speak to them.

That's the polite thing to do.
When people call out, they disrupt the whole room; everyone gets distracted.
If I call out, people might think I don't understand the way to do things.
I'll be able to walk over to people when I want to talk to them.

10. NOT LISTENING - It's important to look at people and stop what I'm doing when they have something to tell me.

Sometimes grown-ups tell me very important things that I need to know.
If I don't look & listen I might miss something important and make the grown-ups angry.
I know it's wrong to keep doing what I'm doing when grown-ups want me to listen.
I will listen to grown-ups when they talk to me.

11. RULES - I'm not allowed to make up rules.

Only grown-ups I know can make up rules for me.
Children don't know how to make up rules; they make up silly rules.
I can learn a lot from the rules grown-ups make.
If I make up rules, grown-ups will be upset with me.
They will think I'm trying to boss them around.
I'll act like a little boy, that's what I am.

12. LEAVING OBJECTS WHEN GROWN-UP CALLS - When a grown-up calls me I need to immediately stop what I'm doing and go to them.

They might have something to tell me that I need to know right away.
If I don't go right away I won't hear what I need to know.
Grown-ups don't like children who don't listen.
I will listen to grown-ups.

13. STEPPING ON THINGS - When I'm walking someplace I need to look everywhere in front of me.

That's important for everyone's safety.
If I don't look, I might step on something and break it.
I might trip and hurt myself.
I might bump into someone or something.
I don't like breaking things or getting hurt so I'll always look where I'm going.

14. INTERRUPTING - I can't interrupt when others are having a conversation or are busy with something.

It's not polite
If it's extremely important, I can tap the person on the shoulder and say excuse me, otherwise I must be patient and wait until they're finished.
Interrupting makes people angry because you stop them from talking and they might forget what they were talking about.
Everyone deserves to talk without being interrupted.
Grown-ups like polite children
They're especially proud of children who do not interrupt.
Sometimes I might think it's important and the grown-up will tell me it's not. If that happens, I need to wait patiently.

15. PERSONAL SPACE - When I talk to people I need to give them their space and stay away from their faces.

When people come too close it makes other people uncomfortable.
Everybody needs space.
When I make people uncomfortable, they want to get away from me.
They might not want to ever talk to me again.
When I give people enough space, I get to play with and talk to people, I make friends and have fun.

16. WALKING FROM CONVERSATION - I never turn away from anyone when I'm in a conversation.

Looking at people is an important part of talking to them.
If I turn away I will hurt their feelings.
They will think I don't care about them.
It's impossible to understand what someone is saying when you're not looking at them.
People like me better when I look at them, it makes them want to talk to me more.
I promise to look at everyone who talks to me.
I want to be a good friend.

17. LISTENING THE FIRST TIME - It's important to listen to grown-ups the first time.

Grown-ups know when I'm getting stuck.
I can't always tell them about myself.
The worst thing I can do is ignore grown-ups, even for a second.
When I listen, grown-ups are proud of me and I'm proud of myself.
If I don't listen grown-ups might think I'm a baby who doesn't know how to listen.
Big boys listen the first time.
I'm a big boy.

18. TASK LAZINESS / DOING BEST - It's important to do my best in everything I do.

I need to make everything I do as good as it can possibly be.
When I do my best, I'm really proud of myself and other people say good things about my work.
Doing my best means ________ (pressing hard, doing it quietly, coloring in the lines...)
When I don't do my best it's because I'm being lazy.
Lazy people finish things last, miss things and lose games.
People aren't proud of other people when they don't try their best.
I'll always try to do my best and work hard, that way I'll get the most out of everything.

19. I MUST TALK - Sometimes I want to say things very badly, it feels like I have to say it right that second.

It's important to wait until the other person is finished talking.
Even though it feels important, it can wait.
They will listen to me better if I wait patiently.
When I interrupt, it just angers people.
People wonder, "what's wrong with him?", "why can't he wait?"
If I can wait, I can tell them later.

How social stories work

Each story consists of three sections:

1. The OPENING STATEMENT

(keep this as close to the original as possible).

[You can tell from the following -- Bullet Pts. -- that these notes were written with the original Social Sentences in mind, but it was hard for all the therapists to put the stories in their own words until they had many stories, probably even different versions of same stories, memorized well. This is probably an additional reason why it was good to go with our "three-version" method (additional to that he was memorizing them)]

2. BULLET POINTS

[Our original stories were titles w/bullet points. Our team had to improvise around these. Later, we created three versions of full-blown stories.] Each social story contains several bullet points for you to touch upon. You've got leeway to improvise here since these are general themes that are put into your own words.

3. Always end with a CONFIDENCE STATEMENT ("I can do it.", etc.)

These stories give a rationale for "why" you do things in certain situations.

These stories also work hand in hand with perspective taking.

EXPANDED EXPLANATIONS OF BULLET POINTS

1. After reading the OPENING STATEMENT (as close to verbatim as possible), look at each BULLET POINT and read it from any perspective (his, yours, ours, people's...)

e.g., "People like me better when I look at them; it makes them want to talk to me more."

The bullet point above can be delivered several ways (be sure to keep shifting the POINT OF VIEW):

a. As a statement read to him (exactly as above) b. As a scripted answer delivered by him to the question, "Do you ever walk away from someone when they're talking to you?" c. Ask him, "How would YOU feel if I walked away from you when you spoke to me?" and script the above answer as "I would like you better if you looked at me."

2. Remember, each BULLET POINT is a THEME that you can play with as above. Take some time to discuss some of these themes and return to them more than once as you cover each topic. DO NOT ZIP THROUGH THESE WITH HIM. Make sure he's attentive and is trying to comprehend what you're saying. These are to be treated as stories/conversations. Pause here and there to give him a space to comment in between your scripting.

3. Other themes can bleed across boundaries ("getting stuck" fits in many places).

***ALWAYS CLOSE WITH A CONFIDENCE STATEMENT

TO GET A COMPLETE PICTURE OF THE VARIATIONS ON DELIVERING THE BULLET POINTS, CHECK OUT THE VIDEO WHERE WE WORK "LISTENING TO A GROWN UP THE FIRST TIME" TO DEATH THROUGHOUT THE TAPE. [this was probably a videotape from a follow-up workshop w/our consultant]

METHODS OF DELIVERING STORIES

Here are some of the ways we recall that we presented the Social Stories.

1. Read them to him.

2. Acted out with dolls and puppets (with him only as an observer). When we got to the "behavior" we would stop and de-brief him about what happened.

e.g., SD: "Why did they walk away?"

Then we would re-enact the scene (or crime!) without the offending behavior and have a positive outcome and de-brief again.

e.g., SD "Why did they stay and play with him?"

3. Once he could handle it, we had him join in the doll/puppet play with his doll or puppet being the one reacting to the weird/ inappropriate behavior. Then we would ask him why his doll/puppet was nice/mean to the offending doll/puppet. This was very reinforcing to him and gave him a chance to contemplate someone else's perspective of his behaviors (empathy).

4. We acted out stories on a flannel board (similar to dolls/puppets) and later had him join in (again de-briefing...we ALWAYS de-briefed, no matter what method we used for the stories).

5. Since he was able to read we would have him read the stories to us or trade lines from the stories with us.

6. Since he was writing we would sometimes write questions (as part of the de-briefing) and have him write the answers.

7. We used the Grolier "Help Me Be Good" Books extensively, either reading them to him or having him read them to us. Or sometimes making up stories using the pictures. We ALWAYS de-briefed (e.g., "why is that boy making that face?", etc.).

8. Sometimes we did "overlapping sessions" where the last half hour of one therapist's session overlapped with the first half hour of the next. The two therapists could then overlap and role play various social stories and de-brief. Even if only one therapist were available, they could role play one of his behaviors and then de-brief him ("How do you feel when I ignore you?", etc)

9. Whenever we could (rare for us but it happened), we would get an older NT child to play with him. We would let them play and then prompt (whisper in the NT kid's ear) a response that was a negative reaction to any inappropriate behavior ("I'm not playing with you; you're making weird faces"; "If you don't look at me it makes me upset"). This was critical since it was an early phase of transferring stimulus control to other kids. As mean as it sounds, we wanted other children to get upset with him when he behaved inappropriately so we could de-brief him later. This had a tremendous impact and made him really WANT to play with others appropriately.

The Social Stories have specific topics (Personal Space, Acting Weird, Interrupting, etc.). Once we were rolling with all the previous things mentioned, we were able to use many of the familiar expressions we created in these stories in real life to deal with these situations. (e.g., "Who gets good things?" "Good boys get good things"). So we constantly generalized these stories and de-briefed in real life when the situations came up. We also created new Social Stories all the time as new situations arose (and added them into the many ways we used them mentioned previously).

The stories

Set Original A

1. NO ANSWER FROM OTHERS

I like talking to people, ESPECIALLY other children.
Sometimes they don't answer when I talk to them.
Maybe they didn't hear me or maybe they weren't paying attention
Maybe they were busy or maybe they just didn't want to talk to me.
It's not my job to make people answer me.
I can just forget about it, maybe they'll talk to me later.

2. WAITING MY TURN

I LOVE doing great work in school.
When I'm REALLY proud of what I do, I'm in a hurry to show all of my teachers.
SOMETIMES the teacher is busy with ANOTHER child and I walk over, stick my work in her face and say, "HERE!"
THIS makes the teacher VERY uncomfortable and annoyed and MAD at me.
I don't blame her -- I would feel the same way if someone did that to ME!
It would be better if I WAITED my turn and then gave it to her.
When I stand PATIENTLY and WAIT my turn, I still get to show off my great work and nobody will be MAD at me.
I KNOW that good things happen to people who wait patiently.
I CAN wait for my turn.

3. NOT LISTENING

When people talk to me, it's usually something I need to hear.
It's important to look at people & stop what I'm doing when they have something to tell me.
Sometimes grown-ups tell me VERY important things that I need to know.
If I don't look & listen I might miss something important and make someone mad.
I know it's wrong to keep doing what I'm doing when grown-ups want me to listen.
When people talk to me, I will STOP what I'm doing and look & listen to them.

4. TOUCHING OTHER PEOPLE OR THEIR THINGS

I should NEVER touch other people's things without asking permission first.
I might break it and that would upset people and make them mad at me.
NOBODY likes people who touch their property.
If someone did that to me I'd be upset.
I also shouldn't touch people in a weird way.
[Brother] does it because babies don't know any better.
But I know better and I can remember not to touch people's things or touch them in a weird way.

5. LEAVING ACTIVITY

I LOVE playing with other kids.
I talk to the kids I'm playing with.
If I talk to kids playing other games, MY friends will be sad and think I'm ignoring them.
They'll think I don't like them.
They might not want to play with me next time.
If I ONLY talk to my friends we'll have fun together
Next time they'll play with me again.

6. TIME-OUTS

Sometimes grown-ups send me to a time-out when I don't listen.
When I'm in a time-out, I'm VERY quiet.
I think about what I did wrong and I feel VERY sad.
I don't want anyone to think I don't know how to listen.
I CAN be good and control myself so I WON'T get time-outs.
I CAN listen to grown-ups.

7. STANDING AND SITTING STILL

It's important to sit still when I'm sitting and stand still when I'm standing.
When I don't sit or stand still I get distracted and have trouble following what's going on.
The other problem is that everyone else gets distracted too since they start staring at the way I'm moving and forget to listen to me.
I hate when people don't listen to me and I know I can get them to listen to me by staying in one place.
Even though I get excited when I talk to people, I can control myself and stay still.
This way I'll have more friends pay attention to me.

8. BELL RINGS

I know when I'm in school there are many rules that I have to follow.
When I follow the rules in school I make my teachers proud and the other kids know I'm a good boy.
One of the rules in my new school is that when the teacher rings the bell, I have to stop whatever I'm doing.
When the bell rings it means the teacher has something important to say so I know I better look at her and listen carefully.
If I'm good when the bell rings, I can earn a star.
It's easy to stop what I'm doing and listen to the teacher when the bell rings.
That's because I know how to follow rules and listen to grown-ups.

9. MY HANDS

Sometimes I think about my hands and the weird things I can do with them.
The problem is, I can't think about ANYTHING else when I'm playing with my hands.
The best thing to do is to keep my hands QUIET and on my lap.
If I'm in school I can also fold them quietly.
I can NEVER pick them.
I can NEVER play with my fingers.
These are the things that make me TOTALLY stuck.
I CAN remember to keep my hands quiet on my lap.
It's NOT that hard, I CAN control myself.
When I stop thinking about my hands, I can concentrate on other things.
I'm proud when I'm NOT thinking about my hands.

10. TASK LAZINESS / DOING MY BEST

It's SO important to do my best in EVERYTHING I do.
I need to make everything I do as good as it can possibly be.
When I do my best I'm REALLY proud of myself & others say good things about my work.
When I DON'T do my best it's because I'm being lazy.
Lazy people finish things last, miss out on things and lose games.
NOBODY'S proud of me when I don't try hard.
I'll always try to do my best and work HARD so I'll get the most out of everything.
That will make ME very happy.

11. RULES

Rules are important for EVERYONE.
I'm not allowed to make up rules.
Only grown-ups I know can make up rules for me.
Children don't know how to make up rules -- they make up silly rules.
I can learn A LOT from the rules grown-ups make.
If I make up rules, grown-ups will be upset with me.
They'll think I'm trying to boss them around.
I won't make up rules because that's a grown-ups job.

12. EARNING STARS

One thing I love about my new school is that good boys and girls get good things.
When I do something good in school, the teacher gives me a star.
If I stop what I'm doing and put my things away when the bell rings I can get a star.
Helping to clean up gets me stars as long as I don't throw things and put it away nice.
At the end of the day I can exchange my stars for good things like stickers or candy.
Earning stars and getting stickers and candy is a special part of my new school that I like a lot.

13. WEIRD THINGS

All the strange things I do are NOT a good idea.
People stare at me and laugh AT me (and not WITH ME) when I act weird.
I get stuck on these things whether its my hands, my feet, my mouth or my eyes.
Sometimes when grown-ups tell me to stop doing a weird thing, I think of ANOTHER weird thing I can do instead.
Instead of thinking about OTHER weird things to do, I SHOULD think of ways to be good.
When I'm GOOD I can get lots of good things.
It's hard, but I CAN do it.

14. I MUST TALK

Sometimes I want to say things VERY badly.
It feels like I HAVE to say it RIGHT THAT SECOND.
It's important to wait until the other person is finished talking.
Even though it FEELS important, it CAN wait.
They will listen to me BETTER if I wait patiently.
When I interrupt, it just ANGERS people.
People wonder, "what's wrong with him?" and "why can't he wait?"
If I can wait, I can STILL tell them later and EVERYONE will like me MORE.

15. CALLING OUT

Sometimes I want to get the attention of someone who is far away.
Whenever I want to talk to someone, I need to walk over and speak to them.
That's the polite thing to do.
When people call out, they disrupt everything and everyone gets distracted.
If I call out, people might think I'm rude.
I KNOW how to be polite and walk over to people when I want to talk to them.

16. LISTENING THE FIRST TIME

It's IMPORTANT to listen to grown-ups the first time.
I don't know when I'm getting stuck, but grown-ups always KNOW when I am.
I can't always talk about myself.
The worst thing I can do is ignore grown-ups, even for a second.
When I listen, grown-ups are proud of me and I'M proud of myself.
If I don't listen, grown-ups might think I'm a baby who doesn't know HOW to listen.
Big boys ALWAYS listen the first time.
I'm a big boy because I ALWAYS listen the first time.

17. LOOKING WHERE I'M GOING

When I'm walking someplace I need to look EVERYWHERE in front of me.
That's important for EVERYONE'S safety.
If I DON'T look, I might step on something and break it.
Something might come crashing into me and hurt me bad.
I might trip and hurt myself.
I might bump into someone or something.
I don't like breaking things or getting hurt so I'll always look where I'm going.
When I look, I can get out of the way if something dangerous is coming at me.
I'm SO proud when I remember to watch where I'm going.

18. PACING

Sometimes I do things for a VERY long time.
I know that I have to save up my energy so I don't get tired later.
I always have to pace myself and NOT get TOO wild or I will get tired and have trouble paying attention later.
If I have trouble paying attention, my friends will think I'm ignoring them and they will look for other people to play with.
If I stay calm and pace myself, I'll be able to do great for a VERY long time.

19. GROWN UPS ARE DIFFERENT FROM KIDS

Grown-ups are in charge and make the rules and decide things.
Grown-ups have different sets of rules than kids.
They make up the rules for grown-ups and kids.
Kids never make up rules for anyone.
It seems unfair since kids can't do all the things that grown-ups can.
It's important to respect what grown-ups say and do, they know best.
I can learn a lot from grown-ups especially if I follow their rules.

20. WALKING FROM CONVERSATION

I LOVE to hear what other people have to say.
I NEVER turn away from anyone when I'm in a conversation.
Looking at people is a VERY important part of talking to them.
If I turn away I will hurt their feelings.
They will think I don't care about them.
It's impossible to understand what someone is saying when you're not looking at them.
People like me better when I look at them, it makes them WANT to talk to me.
I promise to stay still and look at everyone who talks to me.
I'm want to be a good friend and I'm PROUD to be a good friend.

21. DAYDREAMING

I LOVE hearing what other people say and WATCHING what other kids & people do.
When I'm with other people, I pay attention and ONLY think about what they are saying or doing.
When I remember to do this, I'm proud to make friends and know what's going on.
If I daydream and think about other things, I can get distracted and might even get stuck.
People will think I'm weird and won't want to play with me.
I never daydream and ALWAYS think about what people are saying and doing.

22. CIRCLE TIME

I like circle time because I learn and have fun at the same time.
In circle time I always listen to the teacher.
If I talk to other kids, the teacher will be upset because I'm not paying attention to HER.
And if I DON'T pay attention to her, I might miss something fun.
Other kids may think I'm a bad boy who doesn't listen to rules.
When I listen to the teacher, I learn new things and have a GREAT time.
Learning is fun...I'm so proud to always remember to listen to the teacher.

23. ANSWERING THE FIRST TIME

People ask me things ALL the time.
I KNOW when someone asks me something it's because they want me to answer.
When I DON'T answer, grown-ups and other kids might think I don't like them.
I hate when people don't answer MY questions so I KNOW how THEY must feel when I don't answer them.
I know I have important things to say and that's why people ask me things.
I will ALWAYS answer EVERYONE the FIRST time so I can have lots of friends.

24. DOING THINGS QUICKLY

Part of pacing yourself is learning to do things quickly.
Dawdling and stalling isn't good because you can finish things last.
When I finish last, I miss out on playing games with other kids.
If I take to long to join an activity I might miss something.
I'll have less time to play with other kids.
I want to be part of the group and be part of the action.
I won't stall, I'll do things quickly and always know what's going on.
I'm very proud of myself when I do things quickly

Set Original B

1. TIME-OUTS

Sometimes grown-ups send me to a time-out when I don't listen.
When I'm in a time-out, I'm VERY quiet.
I think about what I did wrong and I feel VERY sad.
I don't want anyone to think I don't know how to listen.
I CAN be good and control myself so I WON'T get time-outs.
I CAN listen to grown-ups.

2. NO ANSWER FROM OTHERS

I like talking to people, ESPECIALLY other children.
Sometimes they don't answer when I talk to them.
Maybe they didn't hear me or maybe they weren't paying attention.
Maybe they were busy or maybe they just didn't want to talk to me.
It's not my job to make people answer me.
I can just forget about it, maybe they'll talk to me later.

3. ASKING ?s YOU KNOW THE ANSWER TO

I know it's not good to ask questions that I know the answer to.
When I do that people may think I'm dumb or can't remember the answer.
It's SO boring to others to talk about things we already know.
People might think I'm testing them & that will make them feel angry.
If I want to talk to someone, I can ask a question that I DON'T know the answer to.
I only ask questions when I DON'T know something and I want to learn.

4. TOUCHING OTHER'S PROPERTY

I should NEVER touch other people's things without asking permission first.
I might break it and that would upset people and make them mad at me.
NOBODY likes people who touch their property.
If someone did that to me I'd be upset.
When [brother] takes my toys, I worry that he'll break them.
[Brother] does it because babies don't know any better.
But I know better and I can remember not to touch people's things.

5. CIRCLE TIME

I like circle time because I learn and have fun at the same time.
In circle time I always listen to the teacher.
If I talk to other kids, the teacher will be upset because I'm not paying attention to HER.
And if I DON'T pay attention to her, I might miss something fun.
Other kids may think I'm a naughty boy who doesn't listen to rules.
When I listen to the teacher, I learn new things and have a GREAT time.
Learning is fun...I can always remember to listen to the teacher.

6. LEAVING ACTIVITY

I LOVE playing with other kids.
I talk to the kids I'm playing with.
If I talk to kids playing other games, MY friends will be sad and think I'm ignoring them.
They'll think I don't like them.
They might not want to play with me next time.
If I ONLY talk to my friends we'll have fun together
Next time they'll play with me again.

7. TUNING IN TO PEOPLE

I LOVE hearing what other people say and WATCHING what other kids & people do.
When I'm with other people, I ONLY think about what they are saying or doing.
When I remember to do this, I'm proud to make friends and know what's going on.
If I think about other things, I can get distracted and might even get stuck.
People will think I'm weird and won't want to play with me.
I ALWAYS think about what people are saying and doing.

8. PREDICTING

Surprises are FUN!
I should NEVER try to guess what's going to happen later.
If I try to guess, I may RUIN a surprise and miss out on it.
I'll remember not to predict. That way it's MUCH MORE FUN!

9. CALLING OUT

Sometimes I want to get the attention of someone who is far away.
Whenever I want to talk to someone, I need to walk over and speak to them.
That's the polite thing to do.
When people call out, they disrupt everything and everyone gets distracted.
If I call out, people might think I'm rude.
I KNOW how to be polite and walk over to people when I want to talk to them.

10. NOT LISTENING

When people talk to me, it's usually something I need to hear.
It's important to look at people & stop what I'm doing when they have something to tell me.
Sometimes grown-ups tell me VERY important things that I need to know.
If I don't look & listen I might miss something important and make someone mad.
I know it's wrong to keep doing what I'm doing when grown-ups want me to listen.
When people talk to me, I will STOP what I'm doing and look & listen to them.

11. RULES

Rules are important for EVERYONE.
I'm not allowed to make up rules.
Only grown-ups I know can make up rules for me.
Children don't know how to make up rules -- they make up silly rules.
I can learn A LOT from the rules grown-ups make.
If I make up rules, grown-ups will be upset with me.
They'll think I'm trying to boss them around.
I won't make up rules because that's a grown-ups job.

12. LEAVING OBJECTS WHEN A GROWN-UP CALLS

Sometimes I'm busy with something and a grown-up calls me.
When grown-ups call me I need to IMMEDIATELY stop what I'm doing & go to them.
They might have something to tell me that I need to know right away.
If I don't go right away I WON'T hear what I need to know.
Grown-ups don't like children who don't listen.
I will listen to grown-ups IMMEDIATELY when they call me.

13. STEPPING ON THINGS

When I'm walking someplace I need to look EVERYWHERE in front of me.
That's important for EVERYONE'S safety.
If I DON'T look, I might step on something and break it.
I might trip and hurt myself.
I might bump into someone or something.
I don't like breaking things or getting hurt so I'll always look where I'm going.
I'm SO proud when I remember to watch where I'm going.

14. INTERRUPTING

Sometimes other people are having a conversation without me.
I CAN'T interrupt when others are having conversations or are busy.
It's not POLITE to interrupt.
If it's EXTREMELY important, I can tap their shoulder and say "excuse me".
Sometimes I still have to wait a little longer, even if I say "excuse me."
And SOMETIMES they won't even excuse me!
Interrupting makes people angry because you stop them from talking and they may forget what they were talking about.
EVERYONE deserves to talk without being interrupted.
Grown-ups like polite children.
They're ESPECIALLY proud of children who do not interrupt.
I make EVERYONE proud when I don't interrupt.

15. PERSONAL SPACE

I love talking to people, especially my friends.
When I talk to people, I need to give them their space & stay away from their faces.
EVERYBODY needs space.
When I get too close, it makes other people uncomfortable.
When I make people uncomfortable, they want to get away from me.
They might not want to ever talk to me again.
When I give people enough space, they want to talk with me and be my friend.

16. WALKING AWAY FROM CONVERSATION

I LOVE to hear what other people have to say.
I NEVER turn away from anyone when I'm in a conversation.
Looking at people is a VERY important part of talking to them.
If I turn away I will hurt their feelings.
They will think I don't care about them.
It's impossible to understand what someone is saying when you're not looking at them.
People like me better when I look at them, it makes them WANT to talk to me.
I promise to stay still and look at everyone who talks to me.
I'm want to be a good friend and I'm PROUD to be a good friend.

17. LISTENING THE FIRST TIME

It's IMPORTANT to listen to grown-ups the first time.
I don't know when I'm getting stuck, but grown-ups always KNOW when I am.
I can't always talk about myself.
The worst thing I can do is ignore grown-ups, even for a second.
When I listen, grown-ups are proud of me and I'M proud of myself.
If I don't listen, grown-ups might think I'm a baby who doesn't know HOW to listen.
Big boys ALWAYS listen the first time.
I'm a big boy because I ALWAYS listen the first time.

18. TASK LAZINESS / DOING BEST

It's SO important to do my best in EVERYTHING I do.
I need to make everything I do as good as it can possibly be.
When I do my best I'm REALLY proud of myself & others say good things about my work.
When I DON'T do my best it's because I'm being lazy.
Lazy people finish things last, miss out on things and lose games.
NOBODY'S proud of me when I don't try hard.
I'll always try to do my best and work HARD so I'll get the most out of everything.
That will make ME very happy.

19. I MUST TALK

Sometimes I want to say things VERY badly.
It feels like I HAVE to say it RIGHT THAT SECOND.
It's important to wait until the other person is finished talking.
Even though it FEELS important, it CAN wait.
They will listen to me BETTER if I wait patiently.
When I interrupt, it just ANGERS people.
People wonder, "what's wrong with him?" and "why can't he wait?"
If I can wait, I can STILL tell them later and EVERYONE will like me MORE.

20. ANSWERING THE FIRST TIME

People ask me things all the time.
I know when someone asks me something it's because they want me to answer.
When I don't answer, grown-ups and other kids might think I don't like them.
I hate when people don't answer my questions so I know how they must feel when I don't answer them.
I know I have important things to say and that's why people ask me things.
I will always answer everyone the first time so I can have lots of friends.

21. PACING

Sometimes I do things for a very long time.
I know that I have to save up my energy so I don't get tired later.
I always have to pace myself and not get too wild or I will get tired and have trouble paying attention later.
If I have trouble paying attention, my friends will think I'm ignoring them and they will look for other people to play with.
If I stay calm and pace myself, I'll be able to do great for a very long time.

22. WEIRD THINGS

All the strange things I do are not a good idea.
People stare at me and make fun of me when I act weird.
I get stuck on these things whether its my hands, my feet, my mouth or my eyes.
Sometimes when grown-ups tell me to stop doing a weird thing, I think of another weird thing I can do instead.
Instead of thinking about other weird things to do, I should think of ways to be good.
When I'm good I can get lots of good things.
It's hard, but I can do it.

23. WAITING YOUR TURN

I love doing great work in school.
When I'm really proud of what I do, I'm in a hurry to show all of my teachers.
Sometimes the teacher is busy with another child and I walk over and stick my work in her face and say, "here!"
This makes the teacher very uncomfortable and annoyed.
I don't blame her, I would feel the same way if someone did that to me.
It would be better if I waited my turn and then gave it to her.
When I stand patiently and wait my turn, I still get to show off my great work and nobody is mad at me.
I know that good things happen to people who wait patiently.
I can wait for my turn.

24. MY HANDS

Sometimes I think about my hands and the weird things I can do with them.
The problem is, I can't think about anything else when I'm playing with my hands.
The best thing to do is to keep my hands quiet and on my knees.
If I'm in school I can also fold them quietly.
I can never pick them.
I can never play with my fingers.
These are the things that make me totally stuck.
I can remember to keep my hands quiet on my lap.
It's not that hard, I can control myself.
When I stop thinking about my hands, I can concentrate on other things.

Set Original C

1. TIME-OUT

I ALWAYS try to behave.
Sometimes when I don't listen, grown-ups send me to a time-out.
I'm VERY quiet when I'm in a time-out.
I feel VERY sad and I THINK about what I did wrong.
I want EVERYONE to think I know how to listen.
I CAN behave and control myself so I don't get time outs.
When I listen to grown-ups, everything is great!

2. NO ANSWER FROM OTHERS

I enjoy talking to people, ESPECIALLY other children.
They don't always answer when I talk to them.
Maybe they weren't paying attention or they didn't hear me.
Maybe they just didn't WANT to talk to me or they were busy.
I SHOULDN'T try to FORCE people to answer me.
I can just walk away and forget about it and be happy anyway.
I'm PROUD of myself when I can just walk away.

3. ASKING ?s YOU KNOW THE ANSWER TO

It's not good to ask questions that I know the answer to.
People might think I can't remember the answers or that I'm not smart.
People get bored when you talk about things we already know.
People might think I'm teasing them & that will make them mad.
I should only ask questions that I DON'T know the answer to.
That's what questions are for!
I'm VERY smart & want to learn new things, so I ONLY ask questions I don't know the answer to.

4. TOUCHING OTHER'S PROPERTY

I like to look at other people's things.
The best way to do this is to ask permission first.
Nobody likes people who TOUCH their property without asking.
I don't like it when someone touches MY things without asking first.
I worry they might break my things if they're not careful.
When someone asks permission first, I KNOW they'll be careful because they're acting grown-up.
Only BABIES grab things without asking first.
But I'm NOT a baby -- I ALWAYS ask before touching someone's property.

5. CIRCLE TIME

Circle time is FUN!
When the teacher talks, I pay close attention.
The teacher likes it when I ONLY pay attention to her & don't talk to the other kids.
I know if I talk to the other kids, I might miss something the teacher said.
OTHER kids will be upset with me if I ruin circle time.
When I listen to the teacher, circle time is MUCH more fun!

6. LEAVING ACTIVITY

I LOVE having friends!
I have GREAT conversations with the kids I play with.
I would be hurt if MY friends walked away from ME!
If I see other kids playing something else, I NEVER walk away from my friends.
If I did walk away, I'd hurt my friends' feelings.
They would ALWAYS remember that I walked away & would NEVER want to play with me again.
If I stay with my friends they'll always stay with me and be my friends.

7. TUNING IN TO PEOPLE

I love people MORE than anything else!
People are VERY interesting.
I ALWAYS pay careful attention to what people say and do.
I don't want to miss anything so I always look and listen when people are talking.
If I stop paying attention, I will miss things.
When I DON'T pay attention, people have to repeat themselves.
NOBODY likes to repeat themselves.
I want to make people happy so I ALWAYS listen and look when people are talking and doing things.

8. PREDICTING

I NEVER know what's going to happen later.
I know it's better to wait and see what will happen instead of trying to guess.
If I wait, I MAY get a big surprise.
I'd hate to ruin a good surprise.
When I try to predict what will happen later people get annoyed with me.
There's NOTHING better than a big surprise and I know if I DON'T predict I'll get more surprises!

9. CALLING OUT

Sometimes I want to talk to someone who's far away.
When this happens, I NEVER yell across the room.
It's more polite to just walk over and talk to them.
Yelling across the room is rude -- it interrupts everyone else.
I'm GLAD and PROUD that I always walk over to people when I have something to say.

10. NOT LISTENING

People want to talk to me a lot of the time.
I ALWAYS stop what I'm doing and look at whoever is talking to me.
I need to pay attention and hear ALL the important things that grown-ups tell me.
If I don't stop what I'm doing when people talk to me, I'll lose all my friends.
I like when people stop doing stuff when I talk to them.
So when someone talks to me, I can stop everything & pay attention to them.

11. RULES

I make sure to follow rules.
Only grown-ups I know can make up rules for me.
The rules they make help me learn how to be a better person.
I make up silly rules and get stuck & that can make a grown-up mad.
I'll let grown-ups make the rules so I can be great when I grow up.

12. LEAVING OBJECTS WHEN GROWN-UP CALLS

I like concentrating on what I'm doing.
Sometimes a grown-up calls me over when I'm busy.
When this happens, I IMMEDIATELY stop what I'm doing and walk over to them.
I know if a grown-up calls me when I'm busy, it MUST be something very important.
If I don't go right away, I can miss something important.
No one likes children who don't listen.
When a grown-up calls me, I stop what I'm doing and walk over to them.
I'm SO glad that I stop what I'm doing to listen.

13. STEPPING ON THINGS

Sometimes I'm in a hurry when I walk.
When I'm walking I need to LOOK where I'm going so I don't step on things.
When I don't look where I'm going, I could trip or bump into things.
I'm ALWAYS very careful when I walk, even if I'm in a hurry.

14. INTERRUPTING

Sometimes I see other people talking with each other.
Sometimes I notice people who are very busy with something.
When someone is busy or in a conversation with someone I NEVER interrupt.
It's not polite to interrupt.
I can tap the person on the shoulder and say excuse me ONLY if what I have to say is EXTREMELY important.
Even then I might have to be patient and wait longer.
People get mad when I interrupt because they can forget what they were going to say.
NOBODY likes to be interrupted -- I don't like when people interrupt me!
That's why I don't interrupt people -- I'm sensitive to how other people feel.

15. PERSONAL SPACE

I love talking to people, and when I do I give them enough space.
When I talk to people TOO close they get very uncomfortable.
I don't like it when other people talk too close to MY face!
My friends like me better when I give them enough space.
I ALWAYS make sure to give people enough space when I talk to them.

16. WALKING AWAY FROM CONVERSATION

I talk to people all the time.
When I'm in a conversation, I NEVER turn away from whoever I'm talking to.
If I turn away I will hurt their feelings.
My feelings are hurt when people walk away from me when I'm talking to them.
When I talk to people and don't look at them, they have trouble hearing me.
I know if I STAND STILL & LOOK at whoever I'm talking to, I'll have lots of friends.

17. LISTENING THE FIRST TIME

When a grown-up tells me to do something, I listen the FIRST time.
I shouldn't talk back, I should just listen.
When I talk, I want other people to listen to me the first time.
When I listen the first time, grown-ups know that I respect them.
Babies talk back or don't listen the first time and that's o.k.
Big boys ALWAYS listen the first time they're told to do something.
I ALWAYS listen the first time -- that's what big boys do.

18. TASK LAZINESS / DOING BEST

It's important to ALWAYS try hard to do my best.
I must concentrate on what I'm doing and not be distracted by anything.
When I do my best, people tell me what a GOOD job I did and I feel proud.
Lazy people don't do their best -- NO ONE likes lazy people.
Lazy people finish last -- they miss things and are losers.
I LOVE to finish first and be a winner!
I LOVE to do my best and work hard so I'll get the MOST out of EVERYTHING and always feel happy and proud.

19. I MUST TALK

Sometimes I want to say things very badly and it feels like I have to say it RIGHT that second.
It's important to control myself and WAIT until the other person is finished talking.
People will pay MORE attention to me if I wait my turn.
When I interrupt, it makes people very mad. I don't like it when someone interrupts ME!
If I wait patiently, I can STILL tell them later and everyone will like me more.

20. ANSWERING THE FIRST TIME

I'm very smart so a lot of people want to ask me things.
I love it when people ask me questions because I know it means they find me interesting.
Sometimes when grown-ups ask me things, I don't answer them the first time.
This makes them think I'm dumb.
I get frustrated when grown-ups don't answer me the first time.
The only way anyone will know how smart I am is if I answer their questions as soon as I hear them.
Part of being smart is answering questions quickly.
I want everyone to know how smart I am so I will always answer everyone the first time.

21. PACING

Some things I do last for a few hours.
School goes on for a few hours and so do a lot of games and sports I play.
I like to finish everything I start.
I'm always good when I start things but sometimes it's hard for me to stay good for a long time.
I know if I stay good for a long time I'll get something special.
The best way to stay good for a long time is to pace myself.
Pacing means not running too fast or talking too much in the beginning.
If I pace myself when I start things, I'll probably still be good at the end.
I want to make you proud of me and I know the best way is to be good for a long time.

22. WEIRD THINGS

There are a lot of weird things I can do.
When I stop doing one weird thing I can always think of another.
The only problem with this is that when I do one weird thing after another, everyone wants to get away from me.
If everyone keeps running away from me, I'll be very lonely.
I would rather be with lots of people than be all alone.
I better work really hard at controlling all the weird things so I can always have friends.

23. WAITING YOUR TURN

I see people waiting on line all the time.
Sometimes I have to get on line at a store or in school.
I know that when I'm on line, I have to stay there and not wander off.
If I don't stay on line in school, other kids will think I have no self-control.
Their parents won't want me to go to their house or to their birthday parties.
Parents don't let their children play with children who can't control themselves and wait on a line.
If I don't stay on line in a store, my mom and dad won't buy me things I like.
I always wait on lines patiently wherever I go.

24. MY HANDS

There are a lot of strange things I can do with my hands.
When I look around me I notice that almost nobody else does these things but me.
The people who I notice that do strange things with their hands are all alone.
Nobody wants to be their friend because of the weird things they do.
I like having a lot of friends.
I don't want to be alone.
I can keep my hands in my lap when I'm sitting and at my side when I'm standing.

Set 1 A

1. NO ANSWER FROM OTHERS

I enjoy talking to people, ESPECIALLY other children.
They don't ALWAYS answer when I talk to them.
Maybe they weren't paying attention or they didn't hear me.
Maybe they just didn't WANT to talk to me or they were busy.
I SHOULDN'T try to FORCE people to answer me.
I can just walk away and forget about it and be happy anyway.
I'm PROUD of myself when I can just walk away.

2. WAITING MY TURN

I see people waiting on line all the time.
Sometimes I have to get on line at a store or in school.
I know that when I'm on line, I have to stay there and not wander off.
If I don't stay on line in school, other kids will think I have no self- control.
Their parents won't want me to go to their house or to their birthday parties.
Parents don't let their children play with children who can't control themselves and wait on a line.
If I don't stay on line in a store, my mom and dad won't buy me things I like.
I always wait on lines patiently wherever I go.

3. NOT LISTENING

People want to talk to me a lot of the time.
I ALWAYS stop what I'm doing and look at whoever is talking to me.
I need to pay attention and hear ALL the important things that grown-ups tell me.
If I don't stop what I'm doing when people talk to me, I'll lose all my friends.
I like when people stop doing stuff when I talk to them.
So when someone talks to me, I can stop everything & pay attention to them.

4. TOUCHING OTHER PEOPLE OR THEIR THINGS

I like to look at other people's things.
The BEST way to do this is to ask permission FIRST.
Nobody likes people who TOUCH their property without asking.
I don't like it when someone touches MY things without asking first.
I worry they might break my things if they're not careful.
When someone asks permission first, I KNOW they'll be careful because they're acting grown-up.
Only BABIES grab things without asking first.
But I'm NOT a baby -- I ALWAYS ask before touching someone's property.

5. LEAVING ACTIVITY

I LOVE having friends!
I have GREAT conversations with the kids I play with.
I would be hurt if MY friends walked away from ME!
If I see other kids playing something else, I NEVER walk away from my friends.
If I did walk away, I'd hurt my friends' feelings.
They would ALWAYS remember that I walked away & would NEVER want to play with me again.
If I stay with my friends they'll always stay with me and be my friends.

6. TIME-OUT

I ALWAYS try to behave.
Sometimes when I don't listen, grown-ups send me to a time-out.
I'm VERY quiet when I'm in a time-out.
I feel VERY sad and I THINK about what I did wrong.
I want EVERYONE to think I know how to listen.
I CAN behave and control myself so I don't get time outs.
When I listen to grown-ups, everything is great!

7. STANDING AND SITTING STILL

I talk to a lot of people and a lot of people talk to me.
When I'm in a conversation it's always good to stay in one place.
When I move back and forth or fidget in my chair it makes people stare at me and stop paying attention to me.
I can forget what I was going to say and my friends will walk away from me.
When I stand and sit still everyone pays attention to me because there are no distractions.
I know the best way to keep my friends is to stay still when we're talking.

8. BELL RINGS

The most important people in my classroom are my teachers.
They're important because they're the grown-ups who make the rules in school.
Every school has different rules that children have to follow.
Sometimes in school, the teacher needs me to stop what I'm doing and pay attention.
In my old school the rule was that when the lights flashed I had to stop what I was doing and pay attention to the teachers.
In my new school, when the teacher rings the bell I have to stop whatever I'm doing and pay attention.
Whenever I hear the bell that's exactly what I do because I can earn a star for following the rules.

9. MY HANDS

There are a lot of strange things I can do with my hands.
When I look around me I notice that almost nobody else does these things besides me.
The people who I notice that DO strange things with their hands are ALL alone.
Nobody wants to be their friend because of the weird things they do.
I like having a lot of friends.
I don't want to be alone.
I CAN keep my hands in my lap when I'm sitting and at my side when I'm standing.

10. TASK LAZINESS / DOING MY BEST

It's important to ALWAYS try hard to do my best.
I must concentrate on what I'm doing and not be distracted by anything.
When I do my best, people tell me what a GOOD job I did and I feel proud.
Lazy people don't do their best -- NO ONE likes lazy people.
Lazy people finish last -- they miss things and are losers.
I LOVE to finish first and be a winner!
I LOVE to do my best and work hard so I'll get the MOST out of EVERYTHING and always feel happy and proud.

11. RULES

I make sure to follow rules.
ONLY grown-ups I know can make up rules for me.
The rules they make help me learn how to be a better person.
I make up silly rules and get stuck & that can make a grown-up mad.
I'll let grown-ups make the rules so I can be great when I grow up.

12. EARNING STARS

In my new school the teachers reward good behavior with stars.
When I follow their rules I know I can earn a star because grown-ups want to give good things to children who follow their rules.
One way I can earn a star is to clean up quickly and quietly when I'm finished with something.
I can also earn stars by stopping what I'm doing and paying attention to the teachers when the bell rings.
Getting stars makes me want to be really good and follow all the rules and listen to all the grown-ups.
I know that at the end of the day, I can get lots of good things with my stars.

13. WEIRD THINGS

There are A LOT of weird things I can do.
When I stop doing ONE weird thing I can ALWAYS think of another.
The only problem with this is that when I do one weird thing after another, EVERYONE wants to get away from me.
If EVERYONE KEEPS running away from me, I'll be very lonely.
I would rather be with LOTS of people than be all alone.
I better work really hard at controlling all the weird things so I can always have friends.

14. I MUST TALK

Sometimes I want to say things very badly and it feels like I have to say it RIGHT that second.
It's important to control myself and WAIT until the other person is finished talking.
People will pay MORE attention to me if I wait my turn.
When I interrupt, it makes people very mad. I don't like it when someone interrupts ME!
If I wait patiently, I can STILL tell them later and everyone will like me more.

15. CALLING OUT

Sometimes I want to talk to someone who's far away.
When this happens, I NEVER yell across the room.
It's more polite to just walk over and talk to them.
Yelling across the room is rude -- it interrupts everyone else.
I'm GLAD and PROUD that I always walk over to people when I have something to say.

16. LISTENING THE FIRST TIME

When a grown-up tells me to do something, I listen the FIRST time.
I shouldn't talk back, I should just listen.
When I talk, I want other people to listen to me the first time.
When I listen the first time, grown-ups know that I respect them.
Babies talk back or don't listen the first time and that's o.k.
Big boys ALWAYS listen the first time they're told to do something.
I ALWAYS listen the first time -- that's what big boys do.

17. LOOKING WHERE I'M GOING

Sometimes I'm in a hurry when I walk.
When I'm walking I need to LOOK where I'm going so I don't step on things.
When I don't look where I'm going, I could trip or bump into things.
Not looking where you're going is dangerous, something can bump into you.
When I look where I'm going and something is coming at me, I can duck or get out of the way.
I'm ALWAYS very careful when I walk, even if I'm in a hurry.

18. PACING

Some things I do last for a few hours.
School goes on for a few hours and so do a lot of games and sports I play.
I like to finish EVERYTHING I start.
I'm always good when I start things but sometimes it's hard for me to stay good for a long time.
I know if I stay good for a long time I'll get something special.
The best way to stay good for a long time is to pace myself.
Pacing means not running TOO fast or talking TOO much in the beginning.
If I pace myself when I start things, I'll probably still be good at the end.
I want to make you proud of me and me proud of me and I know the best way is to be good for a LONG time.

19. GROWN-UPS ARE DIFFERENT FROM KIDS

Sometimes I see a grown-up do things that I'm not allowed to do.
It's seems unfair but I know it's OK since I realize that grown-ups make the rules, not kids.
One day I'm going to be a grown-up and I'll be able to make rules too.
The only way I'll learn is if I follow grown-ups rules while I'm still a kid.
When I don't follow a grown-ups rules, they get angry at me and sometimes yell at me.
I don't like when grown-ups get mad at me.
I'm a good boy who follows all the rules that grown-ups make.

20. WALKING AWAY FROM CONVERSATION

I talk to people all the time.
When I'm in a conversation, I NEVER turn away from whoever I'm talking to.
If I turn away I will hurt their feelings.
My feelings are hurt when people walk away from me when I'm talking to them.
When I talk to people and don't look at them, they have trouble hearing me.
I know if I STAND STILL & LOOK at whoever I'm talking to, I'll have lots of friends.

21. DAYDREAMING

I love people MORE than anything else!
People are VERY interesting.
I ALWAYS pay careful attention to what people say and do and NEVER daydream.
I don't WANT to miss anything so I ALWAYS look AND listen when people are talking.
If I daydream I STOP paying attention, and I miss things.
When daydream, people have to repeat themselves.
NOBODY likes to repeat themselves.
I want to make people happy so I ALWAYS listen and look when people are talking and doing things, I never daydream.

22. CIRCLE TIME

Circle time is FUN!
When the teacher talks, I pay close attention.
The teacher likes it when I ONLY pay attention to her & don't talk to the other kids.
I know if I talk to the other kids, I might miss something the teacher said.
OTHER kids will be upset with me if I ruin circle time.
When I listen to the teacher, circle time is MUCH more fun!

23. ANSWERING THE FIRST TIME

I'm very smart so a lot of people want to ask me things.
I love it when people ask me questions because I know it means they find me interesting.
Sometimes when grown-ups ask me things, I don't answer them the first time.
This makes them think I'm dumb.
I get frustrated when grown-ups don't answer me the first time.
The only way ANYONE will know how smart I am is if I answer their questions AS SOON AS I hear them.
Part of being smart is answering questions quickly.
I want everyone to know how smart I am so I will ALWAYS answer everyone the first time.

24. DOING THINGS QUICKLY

When something is really easy to do I should do it quickly instead of stalling.
When I get distracted and stall, everyone else moves onto the next thing except for me.
I want to be included in what everyone else is doing.
If I take to long to finish something I know how to do, everyone will think I don't want to do the next thing and they'll start without me.
Even if I yell, "wait for me" nobody will.
Nobody wants to wait for someone who is slow and takes a long time to move on to the next thing.
That's why I try hard to do things quickly. I want to be a part of everything.

Set 1 B

1. TIME-OUT

The BEST way to make grown-ups happy is to behave.
Sometimes when I misbehave, grown-ups give me time-outs.
A time-out is a QUIET time to think about what I did wrong.
I never get mad or hit anybody in a time-out because that would stop me from thinking about what I did and then I can't learn.
After a time-out, I've learned how to control myself & I WON'T do the wrong thing again.
When I do the wrong behavior again, grown-ups get madder at me and will punish me.
I CAN behave and control myself so I WON'T NEED to get time-outs.
I KNOW that good things happen to good boys.

2. NO ANSWER FROM OTHERS

I LOVE to talk to people all the time.
Sometimes I don't get an answer.
I don't FORCE people to answer me because I know maybe they're busy or they weren't paying attention.
When people don't answer me, I just forget about it and walk away.

3. ASKING ?s YOU KNOW THE ANSWER TO

Asking questions I know the answer to is NOT necessary.
When I do THAT, it just wastes everyone's time and gets them upset.
I should ONLY ask questions if I'm trying to find out something I don't already know.
I wouldn't want people to ask me question if they knew the answer already.
There are lots of things I don't know, but WANT to know.
I can ask questions and find out.
I'm a big boy -- I don't have to ask questions I know the answers to!

4. TOUCHING OTHER'S PROPERTY

Sometimes I notice things that belong to other people.

If I want to touch these things, I KNOW I should ask if it's OK first.
I can only touch it IF they say it's OK, otherwise I better not!
If someone tells me NOT to, it's because they're afraid I might break it.
Big boys respect other people's property.
I'm a big boy and ALWAYS ask permission BEFORE I touch someone's property.

5. CIRCLE TIME

Circle time is one of my FAVORITE activities at school.
I follow the teacher's instructions because I don't want to miss anything.
When I talk to other kids, I might miss something that the teacher is saying.
When that happens, I might mess up circle time which will make everyone mad at me.
I wouldn't want someone else to mess up circle time for ME!
I love circle time so much, that's why I always pay attention to the teacher and never talk to the other kids.

6. LEAVING ACTIVITY

I LOVE playing with my friends!
When I'm playing a game or sport, I stay with my friends the WHOLE time.
I don't leave them even if something else that's interesting is happening nearby.
If I did that, I would ruin the game for everyone and nobody would want to play with me.
I wouldn't someone to ruin the game for ME!
Friends are too important to lose, so I'll stick with them the WHOLE time.

7. TUNING IN TO PEOPLE

I learn a lot by watching and listening to other people, ESPECIALLY other kids.
When I'm with other people, I pay close attention to what they're saying and doing.
People LOVE being with someone who pays attention to them.
If I stop paying attention I might not learn new things.
I always think about what people say and do so I can learn.

8. PREDICTING

I love to experience NEW things.
I never can tell what's going to happen next.
It's more interesting to wait and see what will happen instead of predicting.
Surprises are a LOT of fun!
When I try to guess what will happen next, it gets people mad.
I'm NOT going to predict anymore because I'd rather have more surprises.

9. CALLING OUT

Sometimes someone I want to talk to is far away.
I know it's best to walk across the room to talk to them instead of yelling.
Only people who don't CARE about other people yell across rooms.
I care about other people so I'll ALWAYS walk over to people I want to talk to.

10. NOT LISTENING

People want to talk to me all the time.
When someone talks to me I stop what I'm doing and pay total attention to them.
I would not like if someone did not listen to ME!
Only people who look and listen hear EVERYTHING there is to hear.
If I don't stop what I'm doing when people talk to me, I won't HAVE any friends.
Friends are VERY important, so I always pay attention when people talk to me.

11. RULES

Grown-ups make rules to help me learn.
I'm too young to make up rules.
The rules I make up are ridiculous and make grown-ups mad.
I'll follow the rules grown-ups make and learn how to be a big boy.

12. LEAVING OBJECTS WHEN GROWN-UP CALLS

I enjoy getting busy with things.
Even if I'm busy, when a grown-up calls me, I know it's time to stop what I'm doing and go to them.
Boys who aren't good DON'T stop what they're doing and go to grown-ups when they're called.
I'm GOOD so when a grown-up calls me, I stop what I'm doing and walk over to them.

13. STEPPING ON THINGS

Sometimes I have to go someplace in a hurry.
No matter how much of a hurry I'm in, I know I HAVE to watch where I'm going.
If I don't look where I'm going I could get hurt.
I always look where I'm going when I walk or run.

14. INTERRUPTING

People have lots of conversations with each other.
When I see people who are busy or in a conversation I let them finish before I talk.
It's NEVER polite to interrupt -- I don't like when someone interrupts ME!
If what I have to say is an emergency, I say "excuse me" and tap them on the shoulder.
Sometimes a grown-up will tell me to wait anyway and I know I have to listen or they'll get mad at me.
I love being a good boy so I NEVER interrupt anyone.

15. PERSONAL SPACE

I LOVE talking to my friends!
I NEVER get too close when I'm in a conversation.
Nobody likes to have someone in their face when they're having a conversation.
I have LOTS of friends because I always give them their space when I talk to them and they give me my space when they talk to me!

16. WALKING AWAY FROM CONVERSATION

I enjoy having conversations with my friends.
My friends like me because I don't walk away from them when they're talking to me.
I would never like it if people walked away from me when I talked.
I know it would hurt my feelings if they did that.
So I never walk away from them when they are speaking to me!
I stand still and pay full attention whenever I'm in a conversation.
I LOVE practicing to act grown-up so I never walk away from conversations.

17. LISTENING THE FIRST TIME

I do what I'm told the first time without talking back.
When I DON'T listen the first time it's usually because I'm stuck.
When I get stuck, I can't learn and I frustrate everyone.
I'm VERY proud of myself when I listen the first time and the grown-ups are proud also.

18. TASK LAZINESS / DOING BEST

I always work hard on everything I do.
I do the BEST job when I try REALLY hard and that makes everyone proud, especially ME!
When I DON'T work hard and concentrate, I do terrible work & people call me lazy.
When I work hard I ALWAYS do great work.
I LOVE doing my best!

19. I MUST TALK

Sometimes I feel like I can't STOP myself from talking!
When that happens, I give EVERYONE a headache!
Nobody likes someone who always has to talk.
I don't like people who are that way!
I like to only talk when I REALLY have something to say.

20. ANSWERING THE FIRST TIME

When someone calls my name, I know I better answer them immediately.
That way they know I'm paying complete attention.
All kids and grown-ups like it when I pay attention to them.
When someone calls me and I don't answer the first time they think I'm not friendly.
I am friendly, so it bothers me when people think I'm not.
I wouldn't like someone who didn't answer me when I called them.
I will always answer people the first time so everyone will know how friendly I really am.

21. PACING

Sometimes I have to pay attention for a very long time.
Only a strong person can last a long time at something.
I know I'm strong but sometimes I forget to pace myself in the beginning and I get tired later.
When I'm tired I have a hard time paying attention.
When I don't pay attention, other kids get asked the fun questions and get to do interesting things while I end up getting bored.
I want to do interesting and exciting things all day so I know I have to pace myself.

22. WEIRD THINGS

Weird things stop me from doing my best.
When I do something that's weird it gets in the way of everything else.
When I do weird things I never get to do fun things or play with other kids.
Playing with other kids and doing fun things is what I like the most.
It's just not worth it to do weird things anymore.
I better just control myself so I can do all the things I like.

23. WAITING YOUR TURN

Good things happen for people who know how to wait their turn.
When I wait for something I'm always happier when I get it.
When I don't wait patiently for my turn to come I get the people in front of me very mad.
It's not fair to cut in front of someone when it's their turn.
I've seen a lot of people have fights because they were cut off by someone who didn't wait their turn.
I don't like when people want to fight with me.
I'm going to keep everyone happy especially myself and always wait my turn.

24. MY HANDS

Look, I'm controlling my hands!
I know when I control my hands I can concentrate on other things that are much more important.
I can read books, play games or have a great conversation with my friends.
When I think about my hands I can't think about anything else and everyone thinks I'm strange.
That makes me sad.
I'd rather be happy so I keep controlling my hands.

Set 1 C

1. NO ANSWER FROM OTHERS

I LOVE to talk to people all the time.
Sometimes I don't get an answer.
I don't FORCE people to answer me because I know maybe they're busy or they weren't paying attention.
When people don't answer me, I just forget about it and walk away.

2. WAITING MY TURN

Good things happen for people who know how to wait their turn.
When I wait for something I'm always happier when I get it.
When I don't wait patiently for my turn to come I get the people in front of me very mad.
It's not fair to cut in front of someone when it's their turn.
I've seen a lot of people have fights because they were cut off by someone who didn't wait their turn.
I don't like when people want to fight with me.
I'm going to keep everyone happy especially myself and always wait my turn.

3. NOT LISTENING

People want to talk to me all the time.
When someone talks to me I stop what I'm doing and pay total attention to them.
I would not like if someone did not listen to ME!
Only people who look and listen hear EVERYTHING there is to hear.
If I don't stop what I'm doing when people talk to me, I won't HAVE any friends.
Friends are VERY important, so I always pay attention when people talk to me.

4. TOUCHING OTHER PEOPLE OR THEIR THINGS

Sometimes I notice things that belong to other people.
If I want to touch these things, I KNOW I should ask if it's OK first.
I can only touch it IF they say it's OK, otherwise I better not!
If someone tells me NOT to, it's because they're afraid I might break it.
I shouldn't touch other people in a strange way either.
When you touch other people in a weird way or if you touch their things they get mad.
Big boys respect other people and their property.
I'm a big boy and ALWAYS ask permission BEFORE I touch someone's property.

5. LEAVING ACTIVITIES

I LOVE playing with my friends!
When I'm playing a game or sport, I stay with my friends the WHOLE time.
I don't leave them even if something else that's interesting is happening nearby.
If I did that, I would ruin the game for everyone and nobody would want to play with me.
I wouldn't someone to ruin the game for ME!
Friends are too important to lose, so I'll stick with them the WHOLE time.

6. TIME-OUT

[Parent's note: WE DON'T LIKE USING WORD "BAD", THOUGH I SUPPOSE (with some embarrassment) WE DID USE IT HERE FOR AT LEAST A WHILE. WE LIKE TO USE "INAPPROPO BEHAV" OR "NOT GOOD" INSTEAD]

The BEST way to make grow-ups happy is to behave.
Sometimes when I misbehave, grown-ups give me time-outs.
A time-out is a QUIET time to think about what I did wrong.
I never get mad or hit anybody in a time-out because that would stop me from thinking about what I did and then I can't learn.
After a time-out, I've learned how to control myself & I WON'T do the bad thing again.
When I do the bad behavior again, grown-ups get madder at me and will punish me.
I CAN behave and control myself so I WON'T NEED to get time-outs.
I KNOW that good things happen to good boys.

7. STANDING AND SITTING STILL

I love to talk to people.
No matter how exciting it is to have a conversation it's best if I sit or stand still when talking.
If I keep moving the people I'm talking to will stare at what I'm moving instead of looking into my eyes.
When other people don't look into my eyes they can't understand what I'm saying.
When I sit or stand still people will hear everything I have to say and I like that.

8. BELL RINGS

In my new school when my teacher wants all the children to stop what they're doing and pay attention, they ring a bell.
That reminds me of how they flashed the lights in my old school to get everyone's attention.
When I hear the bell ring I stop what I'm doing and look and listen to all of my teachers.
That's what all the other children do and I want to be good just like them.
I know that the teachers are the grown-ups in my class that make the rules so I have to listen to them.
That's why whenever I hear the bell ring I pay attention to what the teachers have to say.
I love being a good boy.

9. MY HANDS

LOOK...I'm controlling my hands!
I know when I control my hands I can concentrate on other things that are much more important.
I can read books, play games or have a great conversation with my friends.
When I think about my hands I can't think about anything else and everyone thinks I'm strange.
That makes me VERY sad.
I'd rather be happy so I keep controlling my hands.

10. TASK LAZINESS / DOING BEST

I always work hard on EVERYTHING I do.
I do the BEST job when I try REALLY hard and that makes everyone proud, especially ME!
When I DON'T work hard and concentrate, I do terrible work & people call me lazy.
When I work hard I ALWAYS do great work.
I LOVE doing my best!

11. RULES

Grown-ups make rules to help me learn.
I'm too young to make up rules.
The rules I make up are ridiculous and make grown-ups mad.
I'll follow the rules grown-ups make and learn how to be a big boy.

12. EARNING STARS

I'm so proud of myself when I'm good in school.
When I listen to the teachers I get stars.
I know at the end of the day, I can buy candy and stickers with my stars and that makes me happy.
Another great thing about getting stars is I can tell mommy and daddy how good I was by showing them the candy and stickers I got with my stars.
I like to put the stickers on my shirt and give the candy to [Brother].
I know if I'm really good I can get lots of stars.
If I get a lot of stars I can get a lot of candy for [Brother] and a lot = of stickers for me.
When I get a lot of stickers and candy I make everyone happy, especially me.

13. WEIRD THINGS

Weird things stop me from doing my best.
When I do something that's weird it gets in the way of everything else.
When I do weird things I never get to do fun things or play with other kids.
Playing with other kids and doing fun things is what I like the most.
It's just not worth it to do weird things anymore.
I better just control myself so I can do all the things I like.

14. I MUST TALK

Sometimes I feel like I can't STOP myself from talking!
When that happens, I give EVERYONE a headache!
Nobody likes someone who always has to talk.
I don't like people who are that way!
I like to only talk when I REALLY have something to say.

15. CALLING OUT

Sometimes someone I want to talk to is far away.
I know it's best to walk across the room to talk to them instead of yelling.
Only people who don't CARE about other people yell across rooms.
I care about other people so I'll ALWAYS walk over to people I want to talk to.

16. LISTENING THE FIRST TIME

I do what I'm told the FIRST time WITHOUT talking back.
When I DON'T listen the first time it's usually because I'm stuck.
When I get stuck, I can't learn and I frustrate EVERYONE!
I'm VERY proud of myself when I listen the first time and the grown-ups are proud also.

17. LOOKING WHERE I'M GOING

Sometimes I want to go someplace in a hurry.
No matter how much of a hurry I'm in, I know I HAVE to watch where I'm going.
If I don't look where I'm going I could get hurt or something could knock into me.
That's dangerous, and I wouldn't know if I should duck or get out of the way if I'm not looking.
I always look where I'm going when I walk or run.

18. PACING

Sometimes I have to pay attention for a very long time.
Only a strong person can last a long time at something.
I know I'm strong but sometimes I forget to pace myself in the beginning and I get tired later.
When I'm tired I have a hard time paying attention.
When I don't pay attention, other kids get asked the fun questions and get to do interesting things while I end up getting bored.
I want to do interesting and exciting things all day so I know I have to pace myself.

19. GROWN-UPS ARE DIFFERENT FROM KIDS

When a grown-up tells me to do something I better listen.
They make the rules for the grown-ups and the kids.
I have to have respect for what they say since they're older and know better than I do.
The rules they make up are for my own good.
I don't know how to make up good rules yet so I better pay attention to the grown-ups rules so I can learn.
Someday I'm going to be a grown-up but since I'm still a kid I can't make up any rules yet.
I can learn by paying attention to all the grown-ups rules.

20. WALKING AWAY FROM CONVERSATION

I enjoy having conversations with my friends.
My friends like me because I don't walk away from them when they're talking to me.
I would NEVER like it if people walked away from me when I talked.
I know it would hurt my feelings if they did THAT.
So I NEVER walk away from them when they are speaking to me!
I stand still and pay FULL attention whenever I'm in a conversation.
I LOVE practicing to act grown-up so I never walk away from conversations.

21. DAYDREAMING

I learn a lot by watching and listening to other people, ESPECIALLY other kids.
When I'm with other people, I pay close attention to what they're saying and doing.
People LOVE being with someone who pays attention to them.
If I stop paying attention I might not learn new things.
When I daydream, I can't pay attention.
I always think about what people say and do so I can learn.

22. CIRCLE TIME

Circle time is one of my FAVORITE activities at school.
I follow the teacher's instructions because I don't want to miss anything.
When I talk to other kids, I might miss something that the teacher is saying.
When that happens, I might mess up circle time which will make everyone mad at me.
I wouldn't want someone else to mess up circle time for ME!
I love circle time so much, that's why I always pay attention to the teacher and never talk to the other kids.

23. ANSWERING THE FIRST TIME

When someone calls my name, I know I BETTER answer them IMMEDIATELY!
That way they know I'm paying COMPLETE attention.
All kids and grown-ups like it when I pay attention to them.
When someone calls me and I don't answer the first time they think I'm not friendly.
I am friendly, so it bothers me when people think I'm not.
I wouldn't like someone who didn't answer ME when I called THEM!
I will ALWAYS answer people the first time so EVERYONE will know how friendly I REALLY am.

24. DOING THINGS QUICKLY

Sometimes I have to finish one thing before I move on to another.
If I stall or dawdle, I won't finish what I'm doing and it will take me a long time to get started on the next thing.
If I'm not quick, other kids will move on to other things without me.
I don't want to get left behind.
I want to be part of the group and have lots of friends.
I know I can do things quickly and still do a good job.
If I do things quickly, I will always be part of whatever's happening right from the start.

Set 2 A

1. NO ANSWER FROM OTHERS

I like talking to people, ESPECIALLY other children.
Sometimes they don't answer when I talk to them.
Maybe they didn't hear me or maybe they weren't paying attention.
Maybe they were busy or maybe they just didn't want to talk to me.
It's not my job to make people answer me.
I can just forget about it, maybe they'll talk to me later.
That's what I see the other kids do.

2. TEACHER TALKS

When I'm in school, I know that the teacher is in charge.
The teacher makes all the rules for the classroom.
The teacher also makes sure that all the children obey the classroom rules.
That's why when the teacher talks, I always stop what I'm doing and listen RIGHT AWAY.
When the teacher says something, all the other children listen immediately.
I know, because I watch the other children and I see them always listen when the teacher talks.
Whenever a teacher says to do something, I do exactly what the other children do.
I don't wait for the teacher to repeat herself, I listen the first time.
If a teacher has to tell me something twice, I know I'll make her mad.
I'm a good boy in school, I follow the teacher's directions just like I see the other kids do.

3. NOT LISTENING

When people talk to me, it's usually something I need to hear.
It's important to look at people & stop what I'm doing when they have something to tell me.
Sometimes grown-ups tell me VERY important things that I need to know.
If I don't look & listen I might miss something important and make someone mad.
All the other kids look and listen when people talk to them.
I know it's wrong to keep doing what I'm doing when grown-ups want me to listen.
When people talk to me, I will STOP what I'm doing and look & listen to them.

4. LEAVING ACTIVITY

I LOVE playing with other kids.
I talk to the kids I'm playing with and I notice that the other kids do the same thing.
If I talk to kids playing other games, MY friends will be sad and think I'm ignoring them.
They'll think I don't like them.
They might not want to play with me next time.
If I ONLY talk to my friends we'll have fun together
Next time they'll play with me again.

5. STANDING AND SITTING STILL

It's important to sit still when I'm sitting and stand still when I'm standing.
When I sit, my hands should be in my lap and my feet in front of me.
When I don't sit or stand still I get distracted and have trouble following what's going on.
The other problem is that everyone else gets distracted too since they start staring at the way I'm moving and forget to listen to me.
I hate when people don't listen to me and I know I can get them to listen to me by staying in one place.
Even though I get excited when I talk to people, I can control myself and stay still.
When I look around me I notice that all the other kids know how to sit and stand still.
I want to be like them, this way I'll have more friends pay attention to me.

6. TASK LAZINESS / DOING MY BEST

It's SO important to do my best in EVERYTHING I do.
Sometimes I'm given something too easy to do.
That doesn't matter, I'm still going to do my best and show everyone how smart I am.
I need to make everything I do as good as it can possibly be.
When I do my best I'm REALLY proud of myself & others say good things about my work.
When I DON'T do my best it's because I'm being lazy.
Lazy people finish things last, miss out on things and lose games.
I don't want to finish last because when I look around me at the other kids I see how proud they are when they try their best.
NOBODY'S proud of me when I don't try hard.
I'll always try to do my best and work HARD so I'll get the most out of everything.
That will make ME very happy.

7. RULES

Rules are important for EVERYONE.
I'm not allowed to make up rules.
Only grown-ups I know can make up rules for me.
Children don't know how to make up rules -- they make up silly rules.
I can learn A LOT from the rules grown-ups make.
If I make up rules, grown-ups will be upset with me.
They'll think I'm trying to boss them around.
I won't make up rules because that's a grown-ups job.

8. WEIRD THINGS

All the strange things I do are NOT a good idea.
People stare at me and laugh AT me (and not WITH ME) when I act weird.
I get stuck on these things whether its my hands, my feet, my mouth or my eyes.
Sometimes when grown-ups tell me to stop doing a weird thing, I think of ANOTHER weird thing I can do instead.
Instead of thinking about OTHER weird things to do, I SHOULD think of ways to be good.
None of my best friends do weird things and I want to be just like them.
When I'm GOOD I can get lots of good things.
It's hard, but I CAN do it.

9. BULLYING

Sometimes I see another kid doing something that they're not supposed to.
When that happens I know that I should tell a grown-up but sometimes I forget and yell at them.
This makes the other kid very upset and can make him cry.
When that happens I know that I made a mistake and I better back off and let him have his space.
The last thing I should do is keep yelling at him or I might lose a friend.
I'm better off saying I'm sorry so I can keep a friend.
It's not funny when I made someone cry because people might think I'm mean.
I'm not a bully; I'm a nice boy who doesn't want to hurt anyone else's feelings.

10. I MUST TALK

Sometimes I want to say things VERY badly.
It feels like I HAVE to say it RIGHT THAT SECOND.
It's important to wait until the other person is finished talking.
Even though it FEELS important, it CAN wait.
They will listen to me BETTER if I wait patiently.
When I interrupt, it just ANGERS people.
People wonder, "what's wrong with him?" and "why can't he wait?"
If I can wait, I can STILL tell them later and EVERYONE will like me MORE.

11. LISTENING THE FIRST TIME

It's IMPORTANT to listen to grown-ups the first time.
I don't know when I'm getting stuck, but grown-ups always KNOW when I am.
I can't always talk about myself.
The worst thing I can do is ignore grown-ups, even for a second.
A grown-up shouldn't have to tell me something more than once.
When I listen the first time, grown-ups are proud of me and I'M proud of myself.
If I don't listen, grown-ups might think I'm a baby who doesn't know HOW to listen.
My friends will also think I'm a baby because they're not babies and they listen the first time.
Big boys ALWAYS listen the first time.
I'm a big boy because I ALWAYS listen the first time.
Nobody ever has to ask me something more than once because I listen quickly.

12. LOOKING WHERE I'M GOING

When I'm walking someplace I need to look EVERYWHERE in front of me.
That's important for EVERYONE'S safety.
If I DON'T look, I might step on something and break it.
Something might come crashing into me and hurt me bad.
I might trip and hurt myself.
I might bump into someone or something.
I don't like breaking things or getting hurt so I'll always look where I'm going just like all the other kids.
When I look, I can get out of the way if something dangerous is coming at me.
I'm SO proud when I remember to watch where I'm going.

13. PACING

Sometimes I do things for a VERY long time.
I know from watching other kids that I have to save up my energy so I don't get tired later.
I always have to pace myself and NOT get TOO wild or I will get tired and have trouble paying attention later.
If I have trouble paying attention, my friends will think I'm ignoring them and they will look for other people to play with.
If I stay calm and pace myself, I'll be able to do great for a VERY long time and I'll fit in great in my class.

14. GROWN UPS ARE DIFFERENT FROM KIDS

Grown-ups are in charge and make the rules and decide things.
Grown-ups have different sets of rules than kids.
They make up the rules for grown-ups and kids.
I never see kids making up rules for anyone.
It seems unfair since kids can't do all the things that grown-ups can.
It's important to respect what grown-ups say and do, they know best.
I can learn a lot from grown-ups especially if I follow their rules.

15. WALKING FROM CONVERSATION

I LOVE to hear what other people have to say.
I NEVER turn away from anyone when I'm in a conversation.
Looking at people is a VERY important part of talking to them.
If I turn away I will hurt their feelings.
They will think I don't care about them.
It's impossible to understand what someone is saying when you're not looking at them.
People like me better when I look at them, it makes them WANT to talk to me.
I promise to stay still and look at everyone who talks to me.
I'm want to be a good friend and I'm PROUD to be a good friend.

16. DAYDREAMING

I LOVE hearing what other people say and WATCHING what other kids & people do.
When I'm with other people, I pay attention and ONLY think about what they are saying or doing.
When I remember to do this, I'm proud to make friends and know what's going on.
If I daydream and think about other things, I can get distracted and might even get stuck.
People will think I'm weird and won't want to play with me.
I never daydream and ALWAYS think about what people are saying and doing.

17. ANSWERING THE FIRST TIME

People ask me things ALL the time.
I KNOW when someone asks me something it's because they want me to answer.
When I DON'T answer, grown-ups and other kids might think I don't like them.
When I don't answer people have to repeat themselves and that makes them mad.
Nobody should have to ask a question more than once.
All the other kids answer questions the first time.
I hate when people don't answer MY questions so I KNOW how THEY must feel when I don't answer them.
I know I have important things to say and that's why people ask me things.
I will ALWAYS answer EVERYONE the FIRST time so I can have lots of friends.

18. DOING THINGS QUICKLY

Part of pacing yourself is learning to do things quickly.
Dawdling and stalling isn't good because you can finish things last.
When I finish last, I miss out on playing games with other kids.
If I take to long to join an activity I might miss something.
I'll have less time to play with other kids.
I want to be part of the group and be part of the action.
When I see the other kids are going faster than me I know it's because they want to be ready for what comes next.
I won't stall, I'll do things quickly and always finish up.

Set 2 B

1. NO ANSWER FROM OTHERS

I enjoy talking to people, ESPECIALLY other children.
They don't ALWAYS answer when I talk to them.
Maybe they weren't paying attention or they didn't hear me.
Maybe they just didn't WANT to talk to me or they were busy.
I SHOULDN'T try to FORCE people to answer me.
I can just walk away and forget about it and be happy anyway.
I'm PROUD of myself when I can just walk away.

2. TEACHER TALKS

I love to watch the other children in my class because I learn from them.
One thing I noticed is that whenever the teacher talks, all the other children follow her directions the FIRST TIME.
Our teacher doesn't have to tell anyone anything twice.
She's in charge and everyone respects her and listens the FIRST TIME.
They know and so do I, that the teacher makes all the rules for the class.
That's why it's so important to follow the teacher's direction's just like everyone else.

3. NOT LISTENING

People want to talk to me a lot of the time.
I ALWAYS stop what I'm doing and look at whoever is talking to me.
I need to pay attention and hear ALL the important things that grown-ups tell me.
When someone talks to me, I better listen the first time.
If I don't stop what I'm doing when people talk to me, I'll lose all my friends.
My friends listen to other people and they want me to be the same way.
I like when people stop doing stuff when I talk to them.
So when someone talks to me, I can stop everything immediately & pay attention to them.

4. LEAVING ACTIVITY

I LOVE having friends!
I have GREAT conversations with the kids I play with.
I would be hurt if MY friends walked away from ME!
If I see other kids playing something else, I NEVER walk away from my friends.
If I did walk away, I'd hurt my friends' feelings.
They would ALWAYS remember that I walked away & would NEVER want to play with me again.
If I stay with my friends they'll always stay with me and be my friends.

5. STANDING AND SITTING STILL

I talk to a lot of people and a lot of people talk to me.
When I'm in a conversation it's always good to stay in one place.
When I move back and forth or fidget in my chair it makes people stare at me and stop paying attention to me.
In my chair I should keep my hands in my lap and my feet in front of me.
I can forget what I was going to say and my friends will walk away from me.
All my friends know how to sit and stand still.
When I stand and sit still everyone pays attention to me because there are no distractions.
I know the best way to keep my friends is to stay still when we're talking.

6. TASK LAZINESS / DOING MY BEST

It's important to ALWAYS try hard to do my best.
Even if something is easy I need to do my best and show everyone how smart I am.
If it's too easy, I can always tell a grown-up that I need something harder to do.
I must concentrate on what I'm doing and not be distracted by anything.
When I do my best, people tell me what a GOOD job I did and I feel proud.
Lazy people don't do their best -- NO ONE likes lazy people.
Lazy people finish last -- they miss things and are losers.
I LOVE to finish first and be a winner!
I LOVE to do my best and work hard so I'll get the MOST out of EVERYTHING and always feel happy and proud.

7. RULES

I make sure to follow rules.
ONLY grown-ups I know can make up rules for me.
The rules they make help me learn how to be a better person.
I make up silly rules and get stuck & that can make a grown-up mad.
My friends don't make rules either, they're really cool.
I'll let grown-ups make the rules so I can be great when I grow up.

8. WEIRD THINGS

There are A LOT of weird things I can do.
When I stop doing ONE weird thing I can ALWAYS think of another.
The only problem with this is that when I do one weird thing after another, EVERYONE wants to get away from me.
If EVERYONE KEEPS running away from me, I'll be very lonely.
I look at a lot of popular kids and I notice they don't do weird things.
Popular kids have lots of friends.
I would rather be with LOTS of people than be all alone.
I better work really hard at controlling all the weird things so I can always have friends.

9. BULLYING

When I see someone playing with something that's mine I know I should let them.
It's not a good idea to fight with someone when they're playing with my things.
If I share, I know grown-ups will know that I'm a big boy.
It's really nice to share because it gives other kids a chance to enjoy my toys.
That makes other kids happy which makes me happy.
If someone is playing with something that's mine I just back off and let them play.
If I yell and don't back off, then other kids will think I'm a bully.
I don't want that, I want kids to like me so I always give them a chance if they want to play with my things.

10. I MUST TALK

Sometimes I want to say things very badly and it feels like I have to say it RIGHT that second.
It's important to control myself and WAIT until the other person is finished talking.
People will pay MORE attention to me if I wait my turn.
When I interrupt, it makes people very mad. I don't like it when someone interrupts ME!
If I wait patiently, I can STILL tell them later and everyone will like me more.

11. LISTENING THE FIRST TIME

When a grown-up tells me to do something, I listen the FIRST time.
Nobody should ever have to tell someone something more than once.
When I talk, I want other people to listen to me the first time also.
When I listen the first time, grown-ups know that I respect them.
Babies talk back or don't listen the first time and that's o.k.
Big boys ALWAYS listen the first time they're told to do something.
I know this because I notice other kids listening.
I ALWAYS listen the first time -- that's what big boys do.

12. LOOKING WHERE I'M GOING

Sometimes I'm in a hurry when I walk.
When I'm walking I need to LOOK where I'm going so I don't step on things.
When I don't look where I'm going, I could trip or bump into things.
Not looking where you're going is dangerous; something can bump into you.
When I look where I'm going and something is coming at me, I can duck or get out of the way.
I'm ALWAYS very careful when I walk, even if I'm in a hurry.

13. PACING

Some things I do last for a few hours.
School goes on for a few hours and so do a lot of games and sports I play.
I like to finish EVERYTHING I start.
I'm always good when I start things but sometimes it's hard for me to stay good for a long time.
I know if I stay good for a long time I'll get something special.
The best way to stay good for a long time is to pace myself.
Pacing means not running TOO fast or talking TOO much in the beginning.
If I pace myself when I start things, I'll probably still be good at the end.
I want to make you proud of me and me proud of me and I know the best way is to be good for a LONG time.

14. GROWN-UPS ARE DIFFERENT FROM KIDS

Sometimes I see a grown-up do things that I'm not allowed to do.
It's seems unfair but I know it's OK since I realize that grown-ups make the rules, not kids.
One day I'm going to be a grown-up and I'll be able to make rules too.
The only way I'll learn is if I follow grown-ups rules while I'm still a kid.
When I don't follow a grown-ups rules, they get angry at me and sometimes yell at me. [we TRIED not to lose it....]
I don't like when grown-ups get mad at me.
I'm a good boy who follows all the rules that grown-ups make.

15. WALKING AWAY FROM CONVERSATION

I talk to people all the time.
When I'm in a conversation, I NEVER turn away from whoever I'm talking to.
If I turn away I will hurt their feelings.
My feelings are hurt when people walk away from me when I'm talking to them.
When I talk to people and don't look at them, they have trouble hearing me.
I know if I STAND STILL & LOOK at whoever I'm talking to, I'll have lots of friends.

16. DAYDREAMING

I love people MORE than anything else!
People are VERY interesting.
I ALWAYS pay careful attention to what people say and do and NEVER daydream.
I don't WANT to miss anything so I ALWAYS look AND listen when people are talking.
If I daydream I STOP paying attention, and I miss things.
When daydream, people have to repeat themselves.
NOBODY likes to repeat themselves.
I want to make people happy so I ALWAYS listen and look when people are talking and doing things, I never daydream.

17. ANSWERING THE FIRST TIME

I'm very smart so a lot of people want to ask me things.
I love it when people ask me questions because I know it means they find me interesting.
Sometimes when grown-ups ask me things, I don't answer them the first time.
This makes them think I'm dumb.
They have to ask me over and over and that gets them frustrated.
I know because I get frustrated when grown-ups don't answer me the first time.
The only way ANYONE will know how smart I am is if I answer their questions AS SOON AS I hear them.
Part of being smart is answering questions quickly.
I want everyone to know how smart I am so I will ALWAYS answer everyone the first time.

18. DOING THINGS QUICKLY

When something is really easy to do I should do it quickly instead of stalling.
When I get distracted and stall, everyone else moves onto the next thing except for me.
I want to be included in what everyone else is doing.
If I take to long to finish something I know how to do, everyone will think I don't want to do the next thing and they'll start without me.
Even if I yell "wait for me", nobody will.
Nobody wants to wait for someone who is slow and takes a long time to move on to the next thing.
That's why I try hard to do things quickly. I want to be a part of everything.

19. PERSONAL SPACE

I love talking to people, and when I do I give them enough space.
When I talk to people TOO close they get very uncomfortable.
I don't like it when other people talk too close to MY face!
My friends like me better when I give them enough space.
I ALWAYS make sure to give people enough space when I talk to them.

Set 2 C

1. NO ANSWER FROM OTHERS

I LOVE to talk to people all the time.
Sometimes I don't get an answer.
I don't FORCE people to answer me because I know maybe they're busy or they weren't paying attention.
When people don't answer me, I just forget about it and walk away.

2. TEACHER TALKS

Sometimes when I'm in school, the teacher gives the classroom instructions on how to do things.
When I look around me I notice that all the kids are paying attention to the teacher's words.
All the kids follow the teacher's instructions because, like me, they know that when a teacher talks they have to listen the first time.
Teachers are very smart and they know how to do a lot of things better than I can.
I can learn a lot from teachers so I always pay attention when they talk.
If I don't listen the first time I might miss something and fall behind the rest of the class.
I love fitting in with the rest of my class so I listen to the teacher and follow her directions, just like the rest of the kids. […and of course when he found out the OTHER kids really DON'T listen, he used it against us and they we use their example, and how THEY'RE always getting into trouble to convince him to be a good boy and how proud of himself he could be then if he's better than that]

3. NOT LISTENING

People want to talk to me all the time.