HEALING YOUR HEART
My name is Janie Kidder-Clemens. I have a Ph.D in Metaphysics.I am a Certified Healing Practitioner I am Trained in Reiki Level III,Advanced Pranic Healing and do Intuitive Energry Balancing.
My life has been more like a soap opera. From the time I was little until later on in my life I was taught,don't think,don't feel,and don't express yourself. My Story.If you have read my story you know I used everything I could find to get through my Cancer,Cemotherapy and Surgeries. This was a starting point for me.
I picked this title because,it reminds me to stay focused on my hearts desire. Which for me is helping others learn how to help in there healing process.
It is my hope to include on this page simply things I have discovered that have helped me. In turn I hope the information may be of use to you and yours. As I said in my story one of the first things I did that started helping me see things differently was to notice what I was saying to myself. If I am not talking loving and kind to myself how can I expect others to. This may sound simply for some to do but if you were raised like I was it will take time to forum a newer and better pattern. Two other simply things that most of us somewhat know about. They are Music and Color. You know yourself when you hear a sad song it affects how you feel. Some can even make you want to cry. Happy and upbeat songs put us in a happy and fun mood. Colors ah we all have our favorite color(s),and they do make us feel better about ourselves when we wear them. So if we know certain music makes us feel good. And what color make us feel good, why not use them as often as we can? When I went through Cemotherapy the day of treatment I wore the same blouse. It was pink with silver and turquarise checked. Yup! You could see me coming! But it made me feel good so I wore it. The music I used was fun music during the treatments and surgeries. Some where old kids songs and others where fast and upbeat. This kept my mind off of what was going into my body and helped me relax sorta. I don't mean for this to sound like I was not scared or worried because I was. What I am trying to say is that I used what I intuitvely felt was right for me. I know in my heart if I had not followed what I felt was right for me. I would of been more afraid and in more pain.
One of the biggest things and simpest things we can do to keep ourselves healthier is to watch what we are saying to ourselfs. I didn't say easy but simple if we can remember what we think and say about ourselfs projects out to others. So if I am in a uckie mood I am not going to be telling myself how loved Iam and I sure am not going to give a stranger a smile. But if I am in a good mood and feeling well then I could be saying nice things to myself and most likly would give a stranger a smile. So how do we change what we are saying inside to ourselfs. Or get out of a blue mood that has griped us for a time. No easy answer but again a simple one. Try and do something fun,or nice for yourself. When I first started trying to re-birth the way I think. I didn't even know what I liked. Or what was fun. I had to make a list and then go out and try it. Sometimes it didn't work but I learned what I wouldn't do again. I'm not saying all blue moods or down moods can be gotten rid of this way. Sometimes they just have to work there way through. But heck way not try to do something different just to see if it would help. I doesn't have to cost money to have fun. Sometime just a change of screnery helps. As I would start to feel better from the cemotherapy, one of my greatest joys was to sit and look at the sunflowers growing and notice there golden huges. Another time I bought a little stuffed lamb chop(lamylu) who is still with me today. If it makes you smile inside that is the key. Do not let society or anyone tell you what you need for yourself to make you happy. They do not live in your skin. You are the only one who knows what makes you happy.
If you knew this was your last day on this planet. The last 24 hours here with you family and friends. Your last moments to do or say what is hidden deep inside your heart. What would you do differently? What would you change? What would you say differently? Or not say at all? Would you quit your job? Go live in the county somewhere? Call a loved one and tell them how much they have meant to you? Would you go on a shopping spree and buy everything you never had?
The reason I ask these questions is that, if you would rather be doing something other then what you are doing now. Your heart is not happy it is sad and feels left all alone by you. Please listen to your heart that spark of you inside that is crying to be heard! One of the things you will see me write or hear me say over and over again.Is Follow Your Heart it will not lead you wrong.It has taken me a long time to come to this awareness. If you start with the heart, physically, mentally or spiritually everything else will start healing.
HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF AND START HEALING YOUR HEART
1.STOP ALL CRITICISM.
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to critize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you critize yourself your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
2. DON'T SCARE YOURSELF.
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure and immediatly switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
3. BE GENTLY AND KIND AND PATIENT.
Be gently to yourself. Be Kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as tyou learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you REALLY LOVE.
4. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND.
Self haterd is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change the thoughts.
5. PRAISE YOURSELF.
Critizism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
6. SUPPORT YOURSELF.
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is bieng strong to ask for help when you need it.
7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES.
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new positive was to fulfill these needs. So lovingly release old negative patterns.
8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY.
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel dose your body need to have optimum energy and vitality. Learn about exercise.What kind of exerciese can you enjoy. Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
9. MIRROR WORK.
Look into your eyes often. Express the growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say; I LOVE YOU, I REALLY LOVE YOU.
10. DO IT NOW.
Don't wait until you get well, or lose weight, or get that new job or the new relationship. BEGIN NOW-DO THE BEST YOU CAN.
I believe these ten things where from one of Louse Hays or Melody Beadie books if you know which one please let me know. So I can give them credit. *:)
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