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Power Quiz
1. When we have an argument do I:
a. Always have to win?
b. Have a bit of flexibility, but find that I am usually right?
c. Try to look for a solution that suits both partners?
d. Find my partner usually knows best?
e. Agree to anything to keep the peace?
2. A successful leader in a family is one who:
a. Makes all the decisions without consultation and has the
control.
b. Is responsible for making the final decision.
c. Gains the views of all concerned before making a decision.
d. Puts everything to the vote.
e. Never makes a decision.
3. In our relationship, I feel that I:
a. Have complete control of my partner.
b. Am the leader of our relationship.
c. Have equal rights and responsibilities with my partner.
d. Am the junior member in our relationship.
e. Am dominated and never able to have my own say.
4. If I am not winning a disagreement, I generally:
a. Get emotional and teary.
b. Bring up and old hurts and try to manipulate my partner
to give in.
c. Yell and throw as many insults as I can.
d. Work out a solution sensibly and kindly.
e. All of the above!
5. I feel the amount of time I get to spend on my own is:
a. Never enough.
b. Seldom as much as I would like.
c. About right for me.
d. A bit lonely sometimes.
e. Far too much.
6. I feel the amount of energy and commitment I contribute
to our marriage is:
a. As much as I ever could.
b. A lot.
c. About the right amount.
d. Could be improved.
e. Next to nothing.
7. I feel the amount of energy and commitment my partner
contributes to our marriage is:
a. As much as they ever could.
b. A lot.
c. About the right amount.
d. Could be improved.
e. Next to nothing.
Project
1. Complete the power quiz and discuss the results.
2. Sit down together with a pen and paper. Talk about the areas
you feel responsible for, and where you would like your partner
to make more decisions. Make a list of your specialist areas.
3. Are you a people-person or do you prefer some time out
alone? Talk together about how much space you need. Are you
both satisfied with the amount of time you spend together,
and apart? Work on ways you can improve the situation.
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