Learn to use both in the best in the appropriate
situations
Become Bilingual Male and Female language
Female Language
Rapport talk show support, build community:
"Im glad everyone had a change to participate"
Supportive listen and respond to spoken and
unspoken conversational slues about other persons feelings. "I understand" lets
the speaker know they are not alone, and understood.
Tentative create an impression of less authority
and less self-assured: "The report is due today, isnt it?"
Conversational initiation ask questions to get
the conversation going: "Did you hear about ..?" "Are you going
to ?"
Male Language
Report talk focus less on feelings and more on
information, facts, knowledge and competence.
Instrumental report to get things done; solve
problems; define status: "Finish that proposal by Monday"
Advice when dealing with personal problems; try
to offer a solution; empathizing to show solidarity does not seem helpful or appropriate
Assertive; Certain; Direct; Authoritative use
statements of fact rather than opinion: "That deduction belongs on schedule C"
rather than "I think thats a schedule C deduction"
Dominance or Control of conversation for
gaining power