IN MEMORY OF LEE
Lee Ronald Kenyon
20.1.70 - 23.2.85
Gone too soon like a rainbow in the sky
THIS MEMORIAL FOR LEE IS NOT MEANT TO
CREATE SADNESS BUT TO REACH OUT TO
OTHERS IN GRIEF.
LENT FOR A WHILE
I'll lend to you for a little time, a child of mine, he said
for you to love the while he lives and mourn for when he's dead
It may be six or seven years or twenty two or three
But will you, till I call Lee back, take care of him for me
He'll bring his charms to gladden you and should his stay be brief
You'll have his lovely memories as solice for your grief
I cannot promise Lee will stay, since all from earth return
But there are lessons taught down there, I wish this child to learn
I've looked the wide world over, in my search for teacher's true
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes, I have selected you
Nor will you give Lee all your love, nor think the labour vain
Nor hate me when I call to take him back again
I fancied that I heard them say dear Lord, thy will be done
for all the joy the child shall bring, the risk of grief we'll run
We'll shelter Lee with tenderness, we'll love him while we may
And for the happiness we've known forever grateful stay
And should the angels call for Lee much sooner than we've planned
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes and try to understand.
Lee Ronald Kenyon
Written for Lee by Val Kenyon (Lee's mum)
Written July 1985
Special thanks to the people of Karamea, West Coast, South Island, New Zealand for their love and support.
At 5pm on Saturday, 23 February, two very dear friends came to my home bringing my husband with them as he had been visiting them, to tell me the accident I had heard about not half an hour before was the death of my son, Lee. He had been struck by the flying limb of a falling tree as he watched the burnoff at his girlfriend's parent's farm. He had left home only two hours before so full of life and oh so happy! Life all around at that moment never felt so perfect.
And now they were telling me our Lee was dead - Oh no! - God could not do this to us! Lee was ours and God could not have him! I tried to stop everyone from telling me as there was no way I could let this happen. I defied God! How dare he do this to me, Lee is mine!
Then came the bargaining. Oh what I wouldn't do if God would just give Lee back to me! "Please don't let this happen, I'll give anything, do anything".
Then the anger - an anger like I have never known and never realised I was capable of. I was so very angry!
Finally came the tears - the realisation - and dread of the days ahead.
I think the next worse thing was seeing the pain and grief in our other boys eyes, at this time I could do nothing `to make it better'. All their lives I had lived to make them happy and if they weren't you could always make it better - but not this time. I felt so powerless, even my love for them and their dad wasn't enough.
For days I wondered in a daze, never really aware of what was happening around me, so many emotions, feelings of anger and despair until one day I heard myself thanking God for having given us Lee if only for a short 15 years, for he taught me so much. Lee taught me how to be tolerant, understanding, patient, and most of all love and friendship. I could only give thanks as I would sooner have known Lee and lost him than never have known him at all.
Twenty weeks have passed and each day feelings and emotions have been different, some days I feel so much at peace, but within the hour I can become so angry and griefstricken, I begin to wonder if I will ever become right and think rationally about life again. Because we live in a small community there is so much support from moral support to food, drink, doing housework, washing, ironing, preparing meals. It is endless what people have come forward to do, people that we don't even know. It is overwhelming when you stop and realise what people have done and after five months the support still goes on. We will never be able to repay or express our gratitude if we live here for the rest of our lives. We will always remember this very close and caring community.
Although the perfection of our lives has been shattered we owe it to Lee to live our lives to the fullest and continue to build on the love he has left us with. Lee's passing has made us realise how the material things of life are so unimportant and how precious our children's lives really are. I pray every day that he knows how much we love him and how he will always live in our hearts until we meet again.
Saturday 27 May, 2002
So life goes on and today our 5 year old grandson, Nathan
scored his first try at rugby and was awarded "Player of the
Day". You would be so proud of him Lee, he knows all about
his Uncle Lee and asks about him often, so he too loves you
as we do". LOVE - MUM AND DAD.
To those of you who have experienced the loss of a
child and feeling the hopelessness and trauma of it
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