"In a way it's all a matter of time. I will not worry for you, you'll be just fine. Take my thoughts with you and when you look behind. You will surely see a face that you recognize..." -"You're Not Alone" by OLIVE
Hello to all! Thanks for stopping by the support page for the GLBT community. I am a 24 soon to be 25 year old female from the Gateway to the West, St.Louis, MO. Since I am from St. Louis, there will be some local sites dedicated to the GLBT community as well. For the past 5 years, I have classified myself as bisexual. However, as the years have gone by, I gradually have come to the realization that I sway more towards liking women. I subconsciously knew this from an early age, despite my attraction towards males as well. It isn't easy for many of us to grasp actual reality and this may be due to many factors. Societal pressures, fear of family rejection (such is the case with myself), geographic locality, work related issues, etc. may put a tremendous barrier and hidden pressure for one in such a situation. "What do I do now?" is a question that taunts many who are not completely out or not out at all (whether they be gay, les, bi, or just simply confused). This page will have its primary focus on how some of us, some in the same boat, can cope with such issues. Being "out" or wanting to come out is not always easy. I, for one, have been contemplating coming out on many occasions. Most of my immediate friends (100% supportive) know about my identity, but the fact that the other friends don't know and more importantly my family doesn't know makes it very hard for me to devise a way to say what I truly am due to fear of rejection or ridicule. Since this page will have a discussion board and a future chat room, this gives us all who are interested a chance to share experiences and maybe even some potential hints as to what to do with our situations. Most importantly, one must weigh out the pros and cons of their "coming out." In doing so, one may face the possibility of major transformations in life. In knowing when to say when is dependent upon the individual's own sense of judgement.
For now, here are some great "coming out of the closet" links:
Read This Before Coming Out to your Parents This is probably something that I need to read over and over and over. Even though this is geared mainly for younger generations, I think it can apply to basically anyone who is considering taking such actions (like myself at Age 24)
Resource Guide to Coming Out Read this optimistic pamphlet created by the Human Rights Campaign entitiled "A Guide to Coming Out."
Mike's Letter to his Parents Here is a copy of a letter that some guy wrote to his parents. This may work for some, and for others, not.
Ring of Friendship (ROF) ROF is an online support group for families and friends experiencing feelings of isolation during the neverending process of coming-out.
and some important bisexual links...
Myths and Realities of Bisexuality
Bisexuality: Rhetoric and Reality This is a good page with a Sarah McLachlan quote at the beginning as follows: "I find people in general sexually attractive. But then, I find trees sexually attractive too."
The Identity Question Here is an article taken from an online magazine (Feb '98 issue).
Bisexual Options
Your Internet home for everything bisexual.
A Brief History of the Bisexual Movement
Bisexuality: What's It All About?
Soc.bi The Bisexual Usenet Group
and this fun link:
Famous Queers, Dykes, and Queens Here is a list of famous individuals who have come out of the closet as being gay or bisexual. Hmmmm, maybe some of us can join them sometime...
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