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Online Romance! Lovers over the internet! How can this
happen?? Can a person seek & find love on the internet? What's your
opinion? I've been doing some extensive research on this controversial
phenomenon. You might be surprised at how many online lovers there
are on here. It happens, a person meets someone in the chat rooms,
they begin to talk, get to know one another from communicating. They
open up to each other by expressing they're emotions, desires,
wants, needs, etc. They begin to meet each other at certain times in
the chat rooms. Over a period of time, they fall in love over the
internet. I've read numerous true stories about this internet love.
Some of the lovers have taken their relationship further & have met
one another in person. Many of those lovers continued their relationship & married.
  
According to Dr. Sherree Motta & Dr. Michael Adamse, two Boca, FL.
Clinical Psychologists, who call themselves Cybershrinks say that the
anonymity of the online world is a perfect setting for the mystery
that begets romance. Most online relationships start as friendship &
develop into romantic liaisons. Online relationships progress step by
step, and with each step, you should expect more openness from the
other person.
Cybershrinks describe online romance as:
- Mystery
- Intrigue
- Anticipation
 
The three components that thrive in the online atmosphere where your
identity can remain secret. The randomness of online encounters adds
to the excitement of meeting new people and being able to get intimate
with them quickly.
Dr. Motta thinks women can express their sexuality & fantasies online
without being seen as loose. Online intimacy often keeps momentum
in a relationship that may not have had an immediate spark in person.
Dr. Adamse says that men become more in touch with their feelings by
having to type them out. Dr. Adamse states: "There's an enormous
amount of creativity around" he adds, "The art of letter writing is
enjoying a revival."
Dr. Motta said she has been fascinated by the development of intense
relationships between two people who have never met face-to-face.
Dr. Motta states "It's like getting to know someone from the inside
to outside, instead of the other way around." she said "When people
first meet online, they don't have that real spark like they would
have in real life, but they are more likely to stay with the
relationship" she added "These things aren't phony relationships.
They are very real relationships. A lot of people are enjoying
online affairs who would never have affairs in real life".
"It's also very easy to think you've fallen hard for someone you
haven't even met. Don't do this! Meet first! ... Many online
relationships happen very quickly and very fast, and it's easy to
sucker the other person, OR YOURSELF, into believing you have
something here that you don't." The main rule? Patience.
But be forewarned -- just like in real life, there's a lot of
heartbreak out there.
Kate Wachs, a Chicago Psychologist who serves as an
online Dear Abby under the monitor as "Dr. Kate", says "Some
people in extended online relationships build fantasies. They believe they know their companions
better than they do themselves (the soul-to-soul, mind-to-mind idea)
because the online medium breeds an usual sense of intimacy. People
sitting alone at home, often hiding behind the screen names, tend to
open up much more than in real life".
I started this research on online romance for many reasons. Mainly, I was very curious. Secondly, I too questioned how this online romance could take place, so naturally I assume there are many others who question this as well. I wanted to share with others what information I'd gathered and collected. I chat in yahoo chat and over a period of time, I've met lots of people online from all over the world. Many are lonely, looking for a relationship. Some are married & their spouses don't show them enough, if any affection. Or they are just very unhappy with their spouse. I've met many couples in the chat rooms, who have met someone online & fell in love. I've always asked them questions as to how they met? How long they've known one another? What their plans are?, etc. I found their responses overwhelming & wanted to learn more. I've met some wonderful friends from chatting, some are closer to me than others. I've learned that by chatting we all find out more about ourselves by having to type out what we are feeling. You have to think about what you are saying & how you wanna say it. You have the opportunity to re-read what you've typed before you click on the send button. You are free to say things you probably wouldn't say, reveal things about yourself that you may be too self conscious to reveal in real-life conversations. You don't know the other person so you willingly give more true details, really true details about yourself, things you normally wouldn't say because you are protecting your self image from those who know you in real-life.
If Just This Night
written by: Connie Elkins
If just this night, you take my hand
and lead me to the stars
Forever it will be with me
To cherish what was ours
Not knowing what tommorrow brings
Or where our lives may go
I'll hear your whispered words of love
As gentle breezes blow
I'll give to you myself this night
My passion, love, and heart
Knowing that the time will come
When we will have to part
Tapestry
written by: Jacqueline Bower
I've found a world of fantasy
Where fact and fiction weave
What's real and make believe
'Twas there I met a special friend
Who stole away my heart
What started as a simple game
Now tears my soul apart
Where this may lead, I cannot say
But know these words are true
Each day I count the hours until
I'm once again with you
During my research, I found numerous sites on couple's who met online & fell in love. They have devoted a site, telling about their meetings & share them with us. Listed are some links that I think you will find very interesting & quite enjoyable. I hope you will take the time to visit some of their sites. Reading their stories was like reading a fairy tale that came true, even with the happy ending *S*.
If you have a online relationship you'd like to share or know of anyone that has a site devoted to online romance, please email me the url so I can add it to my list. Thanks!
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