Living with ADHD



Last Updated 10/22/99


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In November 1997 I was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and Depression. This was not much of a surprise to those who knew me well, especially my family and close friends who had lived with my chaotic behavior for 27 years. There are many different theories and ideas about what causes ADHD and how it works on the mind of the person who has it, what we do know is that it tends to run in families, and that there seems to be more of it in places like the U.S. Canada, and Australia (places where large groups of "nonconformists" immigrated to). The idea that seems to make the most sense is that there is a decreased neurotransmitter activity in the frontal lobe of a person having ADHD creating behavior patterns that are difficult to deal with whether you are the person who has it, or the person who lives around someone with it. Some general behaviors associated with ADHD are:

It is important to not that most people have some of these traits from time-to-time people with ADHD never get relief from them.Unless they learn to cope with their brain chemistry or take medication, they often spend their lives hearing the same things from parents, teachers, friends, and loved ones:

After years of hearing these words, I felt worthless, inept, and stupid about everything I did. I was often frustrated and openly defiant of people in authority because both they (and I) assumed the worst about me. I was a constant target of ridicule by my peers and I would give up trying things because I was sure I was going to fail. Elementary and middle school were exercises in futility for me. I was often sitting on my own in the back of the room or being yelled out for being out of my seat. I made impulsive decisions and then got myself in trouble for "going off half cocked." By the time I was in high school, I was into drinking, sex, drugs and other high-risk behaviors that kept me on the edge all the time. The booze and the drugs helped me quiet the "noise" in my head that often drowned out my thoughts, even if only for a little while. I graduated high school with a 1.8 GPA, and since I had no direction or future, I enlisted in the U.S. Navy. The structured environment of the Navy was a blessing and a curse for me. I had trouble following orders, but I desperately needed the structure. I got into trouble on several occasions, but not quite enough to get me busted. I did lose a promotion because a superior didn't think I deserved it. In college I found myself in big trouble because all of the sudden, nobody was telling me when to get up, when to go to where I needed to be, even when to fill out necessary paperwork. I nearly fell apart in college but I did manage to graduate with a teaching degree and get accepted to grad school. Graduate school was an entirely different ball of wax. After my first summer of classes, my grades plummeted. In grad school its practically a SIN to get anything less than a "B" but I managed to get 3 "C"s 2 "D"s and 2 "F"s. I simply could not hold everything together. Within a year of graduate school, I was hired to teach computers at a nearby high school. I found myself in a veritable nightmare of disorganization and confusion. I have spent much of my first year learning how to conform to what the district wanted me to do and be. I've been spoken with a few times about inappropriate remarks and my general demenor, and I've had other minor problems learning to get along. However, with proper medication and counseling, I have made incredible progress. I love being a school teacher! Recognizing my problem and doing everything within my power to correct it every single day has made all the difference in my life. What a long strange trip it has been so far, and the adventure continues...

I know there are those who believe ADHD is a myth, that it is an "excuse" for some people to behave inappropriately. ADHD is an explaination, not an excuse. ADHD explains and describes why I and others like me have trouble conforming to the "norms" of society. Some people believe that people who have ADHD should be able to correct the problem themselves by just working harder and not acting lazy all the time. ADHD is REAL, it exists. It is not an excuse for bad parenting, in fact, many parents of children who have ADHD discover they too have it. People who believe ADHD is a hoax are often people who have never had any experience with it, or they simply cannot accept it because ADHD seems too convenient of an excuse. ADHD is difficult to diagnose, hard to prove, and is different both in severity and variety of symptoms. Add to this the fact that most people show some of the symptoms occasionally, but don't actually have ADHD. The sad fact is that ADHD is no myth and these naysayers often make our lives more miserable by insisting our problems are imaginary excuses.

I do know people who use their ADHD as an excuse to stay screwed up rather than finding a way to turn it around. I ask them the same question I ask myself in the mirror every day: "Ok, you've got ADHD, big deal. What are you going to DO about it?" Remember, ADHD is an explaination, not an excuse. ADHD can be turned around and become an extremely positive force in life. I wouldn't trade my ADHD for any amount of money. It confers on me gifts that most people would never imagine possible. People like Benjamin Franklin, Thomas Carlyle, Thomas Edison, and Albert Einstein who changed the world forever with their ideas, these are some people thought to have had ADHD.



ADHD LINKS

The following links are about ADHD. I haven't checked them lately, so if you find a dead one, Mail me and I'll check it. I also included information on Individuals with Disabilities Education Act(IDEA), and Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). Look at these sites with a grain of salt, some of them are better than others. Some sites call it ADD, some call it ADHD, but its the same thing in reality. PLEASE NOTE: I assume no responsibility for the content contained in these links!

  1. A MASSIVE page of ADD Links
  2. A Report I wrote on ADHD (Please note that its not up to date)
  3. Bimini's Personal Experiences with ADD page
  4. ADHD Electronic Textbook
  5. Children and Addults with Attention Deficit Disorder (C.H.A.A.D.)
  6. National Attention Deficit Disorders Association Page
  7. Yahoos ADHD search page
  8. ADHD/ADD
  9. ADHD Alley
  10. Fdisk's ADHD Page
  11. Balance Check's ADD Home Page
  12. All about ADD
  13. ADHD: Understanding the Problem
  14. What Every Parent Needs to Know about ADHD
  15. ADHD and Children Who are Gifted
  16. Problems in Identification and Assessment of ADHD
  17. How to Teach Children with ADHD
  18. ADHD Special Needs Resources for Misunderstood Kids: Outside the Box
  19. Joseph's Story: ADD/ADHD Links
  20. One Step at a Time: ADHD
  21. Test of Variables in Attention TOVA
  22. Problem Child: ADHD and other disorders
  23. ADHD in the UK
  24. At Health journal on ADHD
  25. Neurological Issues with ADHD
  26. THE WWW A.D.D. F.A.Q. SITE
  27. ADDERS.org
  28. ADHD in Europe
  29. Addult ADD College Site
  30. Forgotten Kids Homepage
  31. Thinking Differently about ADHD
  32. Born to Explore: The Other Side of ADHD
  33. The Interactive Guide to Learning Disabilities for Parents, Teachers, and Chidlren
  34. A series of articles about Ritalin
  35. Internet Mental Health Page on ADHD
  36. Symptoms of ADHD
  37. Diagnosis ADD/ADHD: Now What?
  38. Hyperactivity, ADD or ADHD ? What's the Difference?
  39. ADD/ADHD: What Does It Mean for Parents and Families?
  40. Internet Slide Show on ADHD
  41. What is AD/HD?
  42. ADHD,What is it?
  43. ADHD, What are the signs?
  44. ADD/ADHD: What Does It Mean for Parents and Families when Their Child is Diagnosed with This Condition?
  45. What Causes ADHD?
  46. What is Typical ADHD Behavior?
  47. Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD/ADHD) is not a Disease
  48. What is Inattention?
  49. What is ADD/ADHD???
  50. What is the Difference between ADD and ADHD?
  51. Now What Do I Do? or Parenting Your ADHD Child (Part 1)
  52. The Other Side of ADHD: ADHD and Creativity
  53. Stef's ADHD Page
  54. ADHD Books and Resources
  55. ADHD Links
  56. ADHD Links
  57. Some Books on ADHD you can buy online
  58. An Adult ADHD Page
  59. The Living with ADD Webring page
  60. Melinda White's Adult ADHD page
  61. ADHD.html
  62. A brief description and resource page on ADHD
  63. Family Education Network Page on ADHD
  64. Astroldy's ADHD Page
  65. ADD Medical Treatment Center in Santa Clara California: What's New/FAQ
  66. ADD/ADHD Information Library
  67. Australian ADHD Treatment Page
  68. Office of Disability Services
  69. Symptoms of ADHD
  70. Healthguide Online: ADHD
  71. What is it like to have ADHD?
  72. The Mining Company Page on ADHD
  73. Special Education Resources: ADHD
  74. Asking the right questions about ADHD
  75. Taking the first steps: ADHD
  76. The ADHD Bill of Rights
  77. A site dedicated to claiming ADHD is a Hoax
  78. Dispelling the Myth: ADHD is REAL
  79. International Mental Health Page: ADHD
  80. Mercural Madness!
  81. Medical Information on ADHD
  82. How to Reach and Teach a Child with ADHD
  83. Taking Control of ADHD through Knowledge
  84. Attention Deficit, Hyperactivity and Associated Disorders
  85. The Hyperactive Children's Support Group Online
  86. ADD Warehouse
  87. Brain Circuit Abnormalities discovered in People with ADHD
  88. The 10 core symptoms at the heart of ADHD
  89. Kim's ADHD page
  90. ADHD Resources for Parents
  91. ADHD and other Parent Challenges
  92. ADHD Special Needs Page
  93. The Hyperactive Teacher: ADHD
  94. An Austrailian ADHD site
  95. ADHD is NOT just for kids!
  96. A Summer Treatment Program as SUNY Buffalo
  97. More books on ADHD
  98. Children talk about ADHD and Medication
  99. The Center for New Discoveries in Learning
  100. ADHD Support Groups
  101. A Mother speaks about her son with ADHD
  102. Various alternative treatment methods for ADHD
  103. Sunbury ADHD Support Group Page
  104. Balance Check's ADHD Page
  105. Sherry's ADD/ADHD Resource Page
  106. ADDULT ICQ Chatroom
  107. ADDULT Homepage
  108. An ADHD Mother's Page
  109. Lisa's funky AD/HD Page
  110. My Life with ADHD
  111. Women with ADD
  112. Dealing with a child who has ADHD
  113. How to tell if your child has ADHD
  114. Teaching Students with ADHD
  115. Medications and ADHD
  116. Natural Treatments for ADHD
  117. Subtle Brain Circuit Differences in People with ADHD
  118. What the DEA has to say about ADHD and Meds
  119. What is ADD/ADHD?
  120. Psychotherapy, or Medication, or both?
  121. Various Links to ADHD sites
  122. Shane's Place
  123. Young Joseph's Story
  124. Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Page
  125. Hyperactivity and ADHD
  126. ADD/ADHD in the UK
  127. A Guide for Educators on ADHD and Medication
  128. Educational Resources Index Citation on ADHD and Gifted children
  129. Multiple Resources for ADHD
  130. The ADHD Owner's Manual
  131. ADHD Researcher Page
  132. The ADHD Library for Parents and Teachers
  133. ADHD Interventions for Teachers
  134. Family Education Network Focus on ADHD
  135. ADHD, A Teacher's Story
  136. Exceptional Kids Page
  137. Private Schools for Kids with ADHD
  138. Adult ADHD
  139. The ADDULT Listserv
  140. ADDULT Message Board
  141. The U.S. Department of Education ADHD page
  142. A Canadian ADHD Page
  143. Another Austrailian ADHD (and other things) Page
  144. A Non-Drug Approach to ADHD from New Zealand
  145. Austrailian Fact Sheets for Health Professionals: ADHD
  146. An Austrailian Press Release conserning ADHD
  147. Child Health Fact Sheet
  148. When it looks like ADHD, But it isn't
  149. Badham Clinic
  150. Kiwi Explorer: ADHD
  151. Attention Deficit Disorder Archive
  152. A Publication about Treatment of ADHD with Stimulants
  153. Teaching and Managing Students with ADHD
  154. Results of a study conducted on brainwaves and effects of Medications
  155. ADHD in the Adolescent
  156. A Sociological Study of ADHD in Schools
  157. Americans With Disabilties Act Information
  158. Americans With Disabilities Act Document Center
  159. ADA Home Page: U.S. Department of Justice
  160. ADA Ohio Page
  161. ADA Disability Information
  162. Americans with Disabilities Act
  163. Association of Disability Advocates
  164. ADA Info Center
  165. Job Accommodation Network
  166. An Introduction to the ADA for Employers
  167. Americans With Disabilities Act Resources
  168. ADA latest Compliance Requirements
  169. The Instant Access Treasure Chest
  170. ADA resources on the Web
  171. Ocean View Consulting: ADA Compliance
  172. The Disability Discrimination Act (UK)
  173. The College Student with ADHD's Legal Rights
  174. Legal Rights and Services for Children with ADHD
  175. Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA)
  176. ADHD in the Workplace
  177. The Top 10 ADHD traps in the Workplace
  178. Career Challenges and ADHD
  179. Adult ADHD Groups
  180. Suggested Further Reading

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