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* We've all been hurt in love before, but I refuse to quit and shut the door.

* I believe that life offers more than just heartache, sorrow and loneliness.

* With who can I make a brand new start? Who can I trust with my broken heart?

~ ~ COMPUTER FANTASIES ~ ~

For some strange reason people think that when they meet someone on the computer and exchange a few e-mails that this is the person for them…. Then they meet and are disappointed and angry that this person is not who they perceived them to be or they like the person, but the feelings are not returned so they get very hurt and upset.. You could meet thousands of e-mail friends and not enjoy being with any of them..

~ ~ GET REAL ~ ~

How many people in your real world life have you met and totally fallen in love with and they felt the same feelings back? Now! How do you expect to E-mail with someone and really believe this is the love of your life?

~ ~ REALITY ~ ~

It is honestly almost impossible to just find just a real good friend to only hang out with. Oh Yes! So many enjoy doing the same things that you do, but most are not really looking for just a good friend.

It takes two people for any type of relationship to work, so don't think because you enjoy their company that they will enjoy yours.

~ ~ THE COLD FACTS ~ ~

Out Of 20,000.00 People Meetings Through E-mail In Person

* One actually gets married.

* Two become lifelong friends.

* Six after the first or second meeting become just a good shoulders to cry on over the phone only.

* Nine leaves their spouse or lover to move in together and end up hating each other and loosing their old love.

* Fourteen really care for each other, but they won't leave their spouses.

* Eighteen go out on a few more dates and then it ends.

* Twenty Three care a lot for each other, but because of family, jobs or distance can't be together.

* Sixty Seven e-mail each other a couple more times after they meet and then the mail stops.

* Eighty Four e-mail each other one time after the meeting and you never hear from them again.

* Two Hundred and Twenty get their hearts hurt because they are just used for sex, money or until something better comes along.

* Three Hundred and Thirty are where one person really likes the other person and wants to continue seeing them, but the feelings are not mutual.

19,219.00 Never Talk or E-mail Each Other Again After The First Meeting

~ INTERNET ADDICTION ~

If you spend more then an hour a day of your free time on the computer, You Are Addicted!

Internet Addiction = If when your not at work you spend more time on the computer then you do doing other things.. If you spend 60 minutes a day writing e-mail, sending instant messages, surfing the Internet for information, playing games or are in chat rooms you are getting very near to being addicted to your computer.. Compulsiveness to anything is not good, but the computer is the worst, because you start to depend on your computer fantasy world for your happiness and slowly you start to withdrawn from reality and become a recluse.

~ THE CURE ~

The only way to stop this addiction is by Staying Off your computer and going out into the Real World.. Call a friend up and invite them over for coffee.. Ask a friend out to a movie.. Take a class at night school.. Start reading a good long book.. Rent some videos.. Go visit family or friends.. Join a club or Offer to help someone fix things around their house.. Another good idea is when you get on the computer, put a timer on for 60 minutes and no matter what you are doing when the time is up you Log Off and Stay Off for the rest of the day.

I totally understand that not many things if any are fun doing alone in the real world, but if you really try God will see you through and who knows who you might meet standing in that line at the checkout counter at the book store or who might be in the new class you just started or who might stop in to visit that friend you are helping : )

It Takes Both Rain and Sunshine To Make A Rainbow

Money Can't Buy Love

Money Can't Buy Trust

Money Can't Buy Respect

Money Can't Buy Happiness

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When using chat and e-mail you will find all types of Bullsh*t, Games, Lies, Deception and sometimes Love, Friendship and Trust.. Some people think the anonymity of talking via a keyboard and using a fake name gives them the right to polish their ego by lying to unknowing people and playing games with their hearts and minds.. Yes! This is very sick, but there are some real sick people out here.

If you feel happy, sad or just need someone to listen to you or someone to talk to you, you can go into any chat room and find that or maybe you just want to be with a new soul from the other end of the world or to have a chat about how your day was.. No problem! Someone will listen to you and maybe even help show you the way out of your troubles.. We are all humans and to me every person is a wonderful piece of this great and beautiful puzzle called humanity.

Yes! I do believe that you can find True Real Forever Love on the computer, but you must be Very Careful who you let steal your heart.. Around 70% of the people on the computer become game players.. Yes, there are some very kind, sweet, sincere people out there, but Beware of the Game Players, those are the ones who play with your heart and emotions like a toy.. How can you tell who they are? Well, the sad fact is that you sometimes can't until it's to late.

The only things I can recommend is that if you start feeling a very close attachment to someone and they seem to share those same feelings get their home phone number and call them.. Talk on the phone with them a few times and then if the feeling are good meet them right away.. The game players are the me, me, me people in real life, they are users who only know how to take, take, take and the unfortunate thing is that they don't care who they hurt and they are very good at their games.

One of the other problems with chat and e-mail is that people can become attached to someone very fast and then they fantasize about who this person is, but in reality they are more then likely Not Anything Like What You Pictured Them As Being.

* BEWARE OF THE POOR ME, ME, PEOPLE *

The Takers, Users and Me, Me, People: They usually have a very sad story about how they are all alone with no friends and have lost everything they had worked so hard for and they lost it all, usually due to their X taking them to the cleaners.. They talk about how their partner cheated and lied to them and they did nothing, but give them everything.. ( The Old Poor Me Stories ) I bet if you talk to the X you would really find out who was the liar and cheater.. Everything bad that happened to them is Never Their Fault, unless it is to say that they gave to much to their partners.. No one every really loved them.. Words to them are just tools they use to get what they want and they always seem to say just the things you want to hear.. The word love to them means self, self, self.. They say how important communication is, but you will hear a lot of ( I'm not sure right now, Let me think about it, Lets talk about it later ) and they rarely ever give you a direct yes or no answer to any important questions.. They tell you their X never trusted them so be forewarned, don't ever ask them where they were or who they were with and last but not least when you find out they were lying and/or cheating on you.. Remember! It Was Your Fault For Not Trusting Them! You Made Them Do It. The Reward For Caring for a User is: They are never there when You Need Them.. They take until you have nothing else to give and then move on to their next victim, but never totally get out of your life, just for fear that they might someday need to use you again.

* * * THE GIVERS * * *

These are usually people with big hearts who trust and believe that there is good in everyone.. Even though they are what some call fools, they are in reality persons that believe in God and never give up believing that there is some good in all people.. Yes, You can use and abuse them, take away their material possessions and pride, but you can never take away their beliefs in God and mankind. Don't allow the me, me, people to make your heart bitter, They Don't Know What Love Is.. Don't let then take away the love and goodness you have in your heart for others.

Don't loose your faith or trust.. True Real Forever Love or A Forever Friendship is worth some hurt.. Your Soul Mate is out there and someday your hearts will connect and find each other and you will finally know the real meaning of Forever Together as One.

Love is what Holds People Together! Nothing, Not even your job should ever be more important then those you claim you love.. If a Thing is more important then a person, then all I can say is.. When your alone and dying I hope your job is there to tenderly hold and comfort you.

I myself know that sometimes even family can be a pain, but in the end, most of the time, they are always there for us if they are aware that we really need them.. Call someone today who you had harsh words with and just tell them you miss having them in your life and even if they are not happy to hear from you, You Will Be Happy You Did.

Don't send me flowers, Shed your tears or Tell me tender words after I am gone. I need them in my life now when I am still alive.


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~ ~ BELOW ARE LETTER FROM REAL PEOPLE JUST LIKE YOU ~ ~

STORY # 1

I was into a heavy online relationship with a guy who gave me his phone number and after the one time I called him he changed the number! He had given me his pager number, but changed that too and though he promised to give me the new numbers I never got them. He used to get angry if I asked him details about his life and said I should respect his privacy. He changed his server E-mail every month. He disappeared frequently and then said he was testing me to see if I was going to get angry. Yes, I know I was a fool. Warning bells had been ringing in my head for a long time. Once I went to meet him and he didn't show up. He called the next day and said he loved me and he would come meet me if I came the next weekend, he didn't show up. He said he had been working for 16 hours straight and fell asleep. A week later he again asked if I would meet him. I then got mad and said, " Are you going to be there? " He said yes and then he disappeared again. He wrote again after three months begging for one more chance and like an idiot, I again agreed to meet him, only again, to be stood up. He still writes and says he will never let me go from his heart. I have not answered his mail and pray he just leaves me alone. I don't know whether I will ever recover from the damage his games have done to me.

STORY # 2

I MET A GUY ONLINE SEVEN MONTHS AGO ON MY BIRTHDAY. WE USED TO TALK EVERY NIGHT ONLINE. HE SENT ME HIS PICTURE AND AFTER THAT WE GOT REALLY CLOSE, HE GAVE ME HIS HOME NUMBER, WORK NUMBER AND CELL PHONE NUMBER. WHEN I FINALLY DECIDED TO MEET HIM DURING THE SUMMERTIME. THAT FIRST MEETING WE SPENT A WHOLE NIGHT TOGETHER KISSING. THEN I WENT BACK TO SEE HIM FOR A SECOND TIME AND WE MADE LOVE. NOW HE SAYS HE JUST WANTS TO BE FRIENDS AND THAT HE DOESN'T HAVE ANY FREE TO SEE ME. HE CLAIMS THAT HE MISSES ME AND LOVES ME STILL. YET HE FEELS HE WILL MAKE A BETTER FRIEND THAN A BOYFRIEND. I AM SINCERELY CONFUSED AND LOST ALL TRUST IN MEN.

STORY # 3

I had a very good marriage with my wife, until she got caught in the Internet trap. Before she got hooked on the Internet the we had a trust which was so strong. Slowly all trust disappeared. She ended up turning to a man on the Internet and pushed me away and she would sneak off to meet him. She called me and told me our marriage was over. It only took a month or two before she found out that this man was a liar and an abusive person, nothing like he was on the Internet. But for some reason she cannot leave him or should I say she has left him at least 6 times and gone back each time after he has coaxed her. The last time she left, she came here, not the first time, but this time we spent over a week together and we both loved it and had a great time, I could still see the love in her eyes for me, but again he coaxed her back. He is a man obsessed and I feel that he is hurting her and threatening her, but anyway, I just wanted to write and say that a lot you said on your page held a lot of truth to me. I miss my wife dearly and knowing she is unhappy and with a brute only makes it worse. I often speculate if I will ever trust anyone again.

STORY # 4

I have been there myself and still suffering from the hurt I found through E-mails, Chatting on the Internet and Computer Dating in searching for love. I should have read your page sooner and gotten some insight into how cruel and heartless some people can be. Thank you for the tips and I will use them when talking in the future to try to spare myself any further hurt and lies.

STORY # 5

I E-mailed a man for three months and we talked on the phone a few times a week for two months. We met and really fell for each other. He met my entire family and we dated every weekend for a couple of months. One day I asked him why I never met any of his family and after fumbling for words, he admitted he was unhappily married, not really single and wanted to make sure we were going to stay together before he left her. I asked him why she never answered the phone when I called. He said the times he gave me to call was when she was working. No one will ever know how dirty and used I felt. I told him not to call or write me again until he left her. Needless to say I never heard from him again. Now I am the one who holds all this anger inside me, now suspicious of everyone. I keep wondering how people can just destroy another persons life and just go on like nothing happened.

STORY # 6

Don't give up! I met my husband on AOL.. I went into a chat room and we started talking.. He was 36 and I was 35 when we met.. I was from Michigan and he was about 720 miles away.. We didn't talk via phone much due to my hearing loss, but we "talked" every night thru IM's. We met for a date about a month later. I already had a trip planned near the area where he lived and he met me and my friend at the airport. We all went out to dinner. After dinner my friend and I got a rental car and continued our trip further south.. We did have a few minor problems concerning the distance.. But we knew we were doing the right thing and we still know it.. A year and a half later I moved to his state and we were married.. That was nearly two years ago.. My husband is my soul-mate from God for sure!

From A Man's Point Of View

So far all of the stories that I've read are mainly of women meeting manipulative and deceiving men over the Internet. Well, what about the lying and manipulative WOMEN? I am from Vancouver, British Columbia Canada and of the three women who've told me that they loved me (not all at once of course), one stood out as clearly the biggest liar of all. She told me that she was working as a bartender/manager at a local bar and grill, drove an older car, single and was of certain look. Because of the distance I avoided getting too serious. It was a good thing because when such time came that I'd decided to go on a little vacation in USA and visit her, she started making excuses about not being able to have any time for me. So I tested her by saying that I'd already bought my tickets and was going to fly down there in a month's time. To my astonishment she begged me to cancel my flight. I decided to do some investigative work. First, I called up the bar and grill where she told me she was working at and they said they've never heard of her. Then her friend came online and told me that this lady has a bad habit of lying to men about herself. For starters, she was Not single and she was living with a man who bought the PC for her just so that she'd like him. She was unemployed and definitely didn't have a car. The stupid thing was that this lady was still trying to cover her tracks and begged me time and time again after to forgive her. She claimed that she loved me so much and she wanted me to like her, so she made up all those lies. But by that time I had already lost any trust in her. Last I heard she had already gotten the heart of some other guy on the Internet... God help the poor s.o.b.

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