Rock Steady Mother
By Tim Bullard
Puffs of white stack smoke from mills, cloud the
azure sky at First Steps Day Care Center near South Island Road in Maryville,
S.C. This is where children usually play, read and learn. Chris Rock's
mother, Rose, has closed the center for the day because it is Martin Luther
King's birthday.
Staff members have stuck
through thick and thin, but now good days are on the horizon for Rose and
her son, America's hottest comedian.
She's just recently
finished an interview with Ed Bradley.
"Officially, we opened
a year ago. We are just open for business now because last January when
we acquired the building, there were so many things going on. My mother
was sick with cancer. That kind of put a lull on everything. My mom died
about two months ago. So now we're in and getting it together. She lived
in Andrews until she was really ill, and then I moved her in Belle Isle
with me."
Rose now lives in a
home that Chris purchased for her.
"I was living in Belle
Isle. When he came down to visit me, he said to me, 'Why did you buy this
house? It's not big enough.' They stayed at a hotel when they came. He
didn't even tell me. He went back, and then I got a call one day. I think
I was here. I got a call from Realty World. Debra O'Neil says to me, 'Well,
we can go and look for a house.' And I said, 'Listen, I'm really busy,
and I don't have time for foolishness'; and I hung up. And then she called
back, and said, 'I would not kid you about something like this.'"
The real estate agent
explained that she had been on the telephone with Rock's manager and named
his attorney.
"She said 'they said
you can go and look for a house.' And then she gave me the price range,
and we started house-hunting. That was a great feeling, and the fact that
I could have lived wherever I wanted. I could have moved to Debordieu or
any place I wanted to go. That was a really a good feeling. I liked Belle
Isle. I'm not a Debordieu person. I'll say it like that. It's really nice.
It's a fabulous place. If you came now, you would have to go through the
gatekeeper and all that kind of stuff to get to me. I'm not here to impress
anybody or anything. I'm just me. So I moved two blocks away, right around
the corner, just a little bit of extra space, no big deal."
"I had been working
with Rose for several months," said O'Neil at work." The phone rang one
day. I had a message. He said, 'This is Chris Rock.' I said, 'Oh, you decided
to buy your mom a house.' And he said, 'Yeah'. And he said, 'I want you
to go out, and I want her to have a nice home. You know what she's looking
for. I just want to make sure that she finds a nice home in a nice area.'
As soon as I saw the house, I knew it was for Rose. I was shocked. I really
was. You know about people, but you don't know them. After the sale, Chris
came by with his mother and his wife. He is a terrific, terrific young
man. I told him, 'You don't know how happy you have made your mother.'
He's very humble about it. He's just a really neat guy."
************
"From Andrews, to Brooklyn
and Georgetown, Rose Rock has watched as her son has rocketed into America's
mainstream and will soon be inducted as the youngest member of the S.C.
Music and Entertainment Office Hall of Fame.
"The ceremony will be
held in Charleston with actress Andie MacDowell and country music singer-songwriter
Rob Crosby", according to office spokesman David Godbold.
"Oh my goodness," Rose
said. "I think that's great. I think that's absolutely fantastic. I tell
you, this year, going to the Emmys, going in expecting nothing and to see
him win two Emmys with the type of people he was up against, I don't think
I have ever experienced anything like that. The day we flew up, they were
saying, 'Oh, he's good and a newcomer, but he couldn't possibly win.' When
they called the nominees, and the girl said, 'And the winner is,' and they
said Chris Rock, we all cried. So everyone who saw me, they said, 'Well,
Rose, you cried the whole show.' I really did. I didn't expect him to win
for comedy, but I did expect somewhere along the line an Oscar, and I know
that's imminent because if you saw him a year ago, he did a little walk-in
in 'I'm Gonna Get You Sucka,' that is the only thing people remember about
that movie. He was on screen maybe 10 minutes. In 'New Jack City' he was
really great. That I expect."People still sometimes confuse Rock with newcomer Chris Tucker ("The 5th
Element" "Even when Chris Farleydied, someone thought that they said Chris Rock had died," she said. Her
son attended the funeral. "He called me right away because I've known Chris
and his mom since 90-what? When Chris went on 'Saturday Night Live,' he
and Chris Farley shared a dressing room at first. They did several skits
together that they wrote. We did the Mother's Day Special. I met Chris'
mom. We have this 'Saturday Night Live' mom thing, so we stay in touch
pretty much.When Ed Bradley of CBS's "60 Minutes" interviewed Rock's mother
recently, her daughter-in-law had a decorator arrange their household to
warm it up for the taping, but when Bradley talked with his mother, the
entire session took place in the kitchen.
There was a phone interview
first for two hours, and the next day Bradley called and said he wanted
to meet her, so she flew in on a Wednesday.
"It was great. He asked
me some things. I'm going to say, now when I was in school, what happened
was that in a lot of black communities, you got teachers who grew up in
the community. Yet when they came back, they treated the kids that grew
up in the same circumstances that they grew up in, they treated them really
badly. I always said, and I don't know why, and I never planned to teach
- it never was a concrete thing - but I used to say, when I'm a teacher,
I'm going to like all the kids, whether they dress nice, whether their
hair is done or they have money, I'm going to like all the kids.
"I didn't see that when
I was going to school. We had very few teachers who cared for all of the
children. They always picked the kids with the long hair, the brown skin,
the nice starched clothes - those were the kids that got the attention.
I always felt like the little dirty kids in the corner were the ones who
really needed the attention. That was the one thing I always said. I never
said 'if.' I always said that when I become a teacher, that's who I was
there for."
"I've always made that
my thing. I always went to school with the underwear in a bag and the washcloth
and the soap and whatever, for the little dirty ones who I knew were going
to get teased, I'd pull aside when they'd come in and [say] 'Come over
here, and we'll wash you off, and come back in.' Because I've never met
a child who asked for their circumstance. I just believe that as adults,
that God put us here to look out for those who can't look out for themselves."
Just before Christmas
you saw Rock and her son on "The Oprah Winfrey Show."
"That was great. Oprah
was just like the girl next door," she said. "Then when my mom died, she
actually wrote me a handwritten letter, and I was really shocked. Some
of the people who wrote me, I couldn't believe it."
At Caroline's Comedy
Club in New York City, she worked on "Comic Relief," and she has a menu
item at the club.
"If you want smothered
chicken and gravy, go to Caroline's. She had a group of moms come in, myself,
Conan O'Brien's mom, David Schwimmer's mother, Phil Hartman's mother...we
go back because Phil Hartman and Chris were on 'Saturday Night Live' together,
so we did some specials for NBC. We all did a dish. This year we did 'Ricki
Lake,' so they added L.L. Cool J's mom. She did banana pudding." Rock's
recipe is her son's favorite: "With biscuits. I just brown the chicken
with scallions, onions and celery. Then I put the chicken back and let
it simmer. You thicken it up and make a gravy. I make hot biscuits, and
you can serve it with potatoes, like they do in New York, but Chris liked
the gravy over the biscuits."
Ms. Rock chose teaching
as a profession, coming from a large family.
"I have always loved
children," she said. "We fostered about 17 children through the years."
She loves to read.
"Right now I guess this
day care is my hobby. I read a lot. I am a voracious reader. And I write.
Eventually, I probably will be published. I'm working on it. I already
have the title to the book, but I don't have the words yet. It's 'From
There To Here,' and it's really about my life. I read everybody, but I've
always liked James Baldwin. I like Maya Angelou. I even like Dean Koontz,
but it's just that he's so intense that it scares me. You read it, and
you're too scared to go to sleep. I read 'Intensity,' and then they did
a movie. I don't know how they could do that movie because I was so scared
reading that book."
Martin Luther King's
birthday is Edgar A. Poe's birthday too. "I used to love Poe," said Rock.
Andrews, S.C. is 15 miles from Georgetown.
"I was born in Andrews.
I left when I was 17. I moved to New York, Brooklyn. I met my husband and
never came back. My husband died four or five years ago. That's why I came
back," she said. Her father passed away the same year her husband succumbed.
Rock is a member of Mount Lebanon Church in Andrews, and she also attends
services at different churches.
"You have to know that
the South when I grew up is much different from now. I don't even want
to get into what Andrews was like during that time. It was not a nice place.
I mean, it was a nice place, the community. I had nice friends. It just
wasn't a nice place to live."
"Chris was born in Andrews,
believe it or not. We were here visiting my mother. The first baby, they
say is always early or late. He was supposed to be born the first of March.
That was my due date. And he was born Feb. 7 in Georgetown. It was a Sunday
night."
Rock's "Ease The Pain"
HBO special was dedicated to his father, Julius.
"He dedicates everything
to his daddy, even his wedding. On his wedding invitations, the ceremony
was in memory of his daddy."
Her son is much different
than his stage persona, according to his mother.
"People see Chris on
TV, and they think he is like that. Chris is very quiet. He does not talk
at all. As a kid, he was a thoughtful person. He's always been fun-loving
and that kind of thing, but he was a really good child. He went to school
in Brooklyn. He went first to the Garrison Beach school. That was elementary.
He went to James Madison High School in Brooklyn."
"In Brooklyn, Rock taught
special education classes in the public schools. "I did 17 years in Brooklyn,"
she said. "I moved back here in March of '93."
*******
The last movie she saw
was "Soul Food," and she can't wait to see her son's new movie.
"Right now, as we speak
he is in L.A. filming 'Lethal Weapon IV' with Mel Gibson and Danny Glover.
You remember Danny Glover's daughter in the movie? I don't know if he's
going to marry her, but I know he gets her pregnant. He is the love interest.
I never read the script. It will be finished by the summer. They are filming
from the first week of January to the end of May. Then June 1 he goes back
on tour, touring all over the U.S. until the end of August. 'The Chris
Rock Show' will be back on the first week of September, and hopefully this
year it will be longer. Each year it gets a little longer. This is his
third season. All the networks want him for a nightly show, but he hasn't
considered it yet."
Rock was home for Thanksgiving,
staying for four days, and he usually calls her about once a week. Martin
Luther King's birthday is a special day for Ms. Rock.
"I think it was a really
significant thing that they finally recognized him and gave us this day,"
she said.
On Jan. 15 S.C. Gov.
David Beasley's press secretary was with his boss at the Myrtle Beach Hilton
for a S.C. Department of Natural Resources conference. When he was told
of the interview with Rock's mother, he suggested a question about her
feelings about Rock's language in his act.
"I don't like it." said
Ms. Rock. "To me, you know who I think is the funniest comedian to me?
Sinbad. Because he is so funny, and he never says a bad word. Now with
Chris, I could do without the language. And he knows that. But at first,
I didn't really listen to what he was saying because I got turned off with
the language. And just in the past two years, I have really gotten the
message. I see the message now. I'm really proud of what he is doing in
those terms. I'm really proud of that. He would have never won an Emmy
if it had not been for the message, and there is a great message there.
"When I go to his shows,
and I see the people there, and they are like, you know...when he was in
Columbia (S.C.), last year he did a show, and I went, and I mean, he had
sold out, and they had to bring another show. It was 85 percent white upper-middle
class. I sat there, and I couldn't believe it, you know, because I'm thinking
this is South Carolina. I always do that. Success is one thing. I never
measured success in money and that type of stuff because that's just superstition,
and it can be gone like that. The one thing that's always gratified me
with Chris, when he does a show, and people come up to me later, and they
say, 'He is so polite,' or 'He is the nicest guy I have ever met.'"
Atlanta, Georgia: an
HBO special - "They had a problem with the lighting. He had bought this
shirt. He paid a lot of money for it. He bought a blue shirt, Versace.
He said, 'I'm wearing this shirt.' He said, 'I may never ever get to buy
another shirt for $2,000. I'm wearing this shirt.' The guy would try and
get the light, and the light would keep glaring on this shirt. So finally,
I think we went out, and we bought a vest, and he wore the shirt. But we
were in the limos leaving, and he said (snapping her fingers), 'I've got
to do something.' He ran back in there, and he thanked every one of those
guys for working on the lights."
"And the man said, 'People
generally treat us like we're just a part of the fixtures,' and he was
naming different stars who came in and really cursed at them and what not
because they didn't do something."
(Jerry Lewis proved
he could use the Lord's name in vain in Myrtle Beach last year during a
"Damn Yankees" press conference at Fantasy Harbour, showing his boorish,
profane side while answering questions from the press.)
"That's the one thing
about Chris too, is he does not use profanity - at all. That's a stage
thing. When he walks off-stage, it's a different thing."
She said that after
a taping of "The Chris Rock Show" for HBO, his mother said someone used
profanity, and Chris said, "Hey, my mom's in the audience!"
"I would prefer him
not to use the language. I have said to him that I think you're at a point
now where you don't really need to. You've got everybody listening now,
so you don't really need to. And he has started to drift away from it."
Filthy monologues by
legends like Richard Pryor and Eddie Murphy eventually were phased out
by the comedians after a national dialogue began over the use of "the "n"
word."
Should the Confederate
flag come down from the Statehouse?
"You know, I don't have
a problem with the flag because that's the history of the South," said
Ms. Rock. "I don't know, maybe I shouldn't say, oh gosh, I'll get in trouble,
but I don't think the flag is our biggest issue. I don't think the flag
is the issue. Because I know where I live, some guys were driving with
the Confederate flag on their license plates, and someone said, 'You're
going to live out there? Those guys are the Klan.' You know, blah-blah-blah.'
That's the Klan.' My thing is, people in the Klan, you will never know
who is really 'The Klan.' We have this issue now, and if they air this,
a lot of people are going to be mad with me about the 'the "n" word' word.
He asked me about Chris using the word 'the "n" word.'
"See, I don't think
of 'the "n" word' as a color. People with this black thing, 'I can't do
this because I am black' - black is a color not a condition. 'the "n" word'
is an action. He (Bradley) was saying, 'How can Chris say the word?' I
said, 'Well, he can say it. You can't say it because white people made
it a dirty thing and a bad thing and a hurtful thing. My thing is ... how
can I say this? Chris said something - well, it was the theme of his show.
He said, 'I love black people, but I hate 'the "n" word.' They said, 'How
do you separate it?' He said, 'Welfare reform is not worrying black women.
Black women are the ones that tie their babies to their backs and work
two or three jobs to support a family.' That's a black woman. He said,
'But the (n-word) are shaking in their boots 'cause they don't want to
work. They want to wait till you work and collect on your taxes.' My thing
is that when I see a girl, 16 or 17, I don't care what color, a baby on
the hip, a baby in the belly, and they're talking about 'what kind of sneakers
I'm going to buy when I get my check,' that's a nigger. It doesn't have
anything to do with what color you are."
Rock is the voice of
"Little Penny" on the shoe commercials on television, and recently Spike
Lee bashed Quentin Tarantino for the bountiful use of the word in "Jackie
Brown," Pam Grier's comeback motion picture. Samuel L. Jackson spouted
the word so many times in the opening 30 minutes that it seemed like he
owned the copyright, so Lee thrashed Tarantino, saying that he was trying
to become an honorary black man. "Spike is against everything," said Rose.
She read newspaper accounts
of the baby in South Carolina who had died in a hot car while the mother
played video poker.
"It's the person. The
poker machine didn't kill the baby. A stupid mother left a baby in a car
to go play poker. I don't gamble, so it doesn't bother me, and if bringing
it in is going to bring revenue and is going to fix these potholes and
get rid of this water, then bring the poker on - if it's going to do something.
But if it's just going to be there as entertainment, then you don't need
it. They brought Lotto to New York, and it was supposed to help education.
We have given millions of dollars away, and you go, and the schools are
still falling down. If you're not going to do anything with it, you don't
need it. I would love to know where all that Lotto money is going. So if
they're going to bring poker to South Carolina, and we're going to be able
to drive down the street without your car flooding out, and they're going
to put some recreation for the kids who are hanging out in the streets,
then sure."
How would you feel if
O.J. Simpson left a message on your answering machine like he did to his
son? It didn't bother Rock's mom.
"O.J. did call. Chris
was dogging him out so bad. I think O.J. just wants...he's so afraid of
getting out of the limelight, and even if it's a negative thing, he wants
to be in the mix, you know?" she said. "It was a joke. It was funny to
me that he would call."
"Rock's new book is
funny," his mom said, adding, "He dogs me out, but it's funny."
On the stoop in Brooklyn,
she said, "He would do raps, like, 'Your momma's butt is so big you can
show movies on it. Your momma's got so much hair under her arm, it looks
like she has Buckwheat in a headlock.' He could make them up so people
would come to listen. He had a normal childhood.
"The only thing I always
tell people is Chris is so caring. He's always had a job since he was 12
years old doing something. My husband worked two jobs, and he got his work
ethic from his father and his grandfather too. When he would work, $2 a
week, he would come home and put a dollar in his pocket, and he would give
his two brothers, there were only three of them at that time, each of them
fifty cents." Now she has six boys and one girl in the family. Chris cleaned
yards, swept, shoveled snow in the winter and delivered papers in Sundays
as a child. She characterized her childhood as normal in Andrews. "I was
into a lot of activities in school," she said.
Did she ever run into
overt racism in Andrews? It wasn't until a few years ago that "the "n"
word" was erased from a lake's title on maps in nearby Marion County.
"Oh yeah. I always tell
my kids, and I think black people have gotten away from it, I let my children
know that 30 years ago, not 50 years ago, not 100 years ago, you could
not try on clothes in a department store in South Carolina. You could not
go to a soda shop and sit down on a hot day and have a soda. I remember
so vividly going into Reynolds Drug Store, and the white kids would be
sitting at the counter, and you would have to go in the corner. They had
a corner where you'd go and order your soda, and you had to walk out."
"But the thing I remember
most, and I often say it, and I'm not bitter about it because it made me
what I am now, I used to clean this lady's house, and I won't say her name.
I had to clean their house for $6.25 an evening to go over and straighten
up and what not. I'll always remember, she had a dining room, and she had
a kitchen with a table set, and most times, maybe she would be there, me
and her daughter , and if she fed me in the afternoon, I had to go outside
and sit on her back steps, and that I've always remembered. When I came
back to Andrews, I bought a house in that same neighborhood right around
the corner, and I was telling my kids, I said, when I lived here, you couldn't
walk on that side of town at night. You couldn't walk over there."
"Back then there were
separate public bathrooms," she said.
"Now she is 53, and
Chris is 32. When she was young, she couldn't go to the picture show.
"We didn't even go to
the movies at all because, you know, you had to go around the back and
stand up and wait until they felt like opening the door for you, so my
mom never allowed us to go."
Is it a different day
in the 1990s? That morning a Conway minister talked on WRNN-FM about how
racism and job discrimination still exists in Horry County.
"Of course there is,"
said Ms. Rock. "I'm going to tell you this, and I hope you print this too.
I went to T.G.I.F's (in Myrtle Beach) the second Saturday in December,
my son and I, my baby. We sat there one hour and five minutes, and we were
never served, and I got up and left. Now what I should have done is made
a big stink or what-not, and I chose not to. But when I got back, I did
call Chris's attorney, and I asked him, and he said to me I should have
at least called the manager and said something and told them who I was.
I said it wasn't important who I was. I want to be served.
"What made me angry
was that we sat there. It was not crowded. After I sat down, three first,
second and third tables, people came in and had their appetizers and drinks,
and we were still holding our menu. I got nothing. So we left. I pulled
into the parking lot. It was 4:31, and I left at 5:30, and I was never
served. I could have made a big stink about it, but you know, I was more
hurt than angry, and I would not have been hurt, but my baby said, 'Mommy,
those people have their food, and I'm hungry. When are we going to get
our food?' And I got up, and I just walked out. He's six."
One black guy, I guess
he saw what was happening, and he came by once and said to me, somebody
will be over here in a minute, you know, but no one ever came."
Chris is the oldest
child. Chris told Oprah about a limo driver he intentionally overtipped
with the biggest tip he had ever given a driver - even though he recognized
the man as a guy who spit on him as a kid. His mother doesn't remember
that incident. "There were so many incidents like that," she said. Rock
would tell her about such incidents.
Is there still racism
in South Carolina? The Palmetto Project is fighting to eliminate such discrepancies
in color and culture across the state, but sometimes one can't escape bias.
Rock has used the same
limousine service, but on one return, her regular driver was out of town
and someone else picked her up.
"I think he was looking
for a white person because when I came off the plane, he was holding a
sign that said, 'Rose Rock.' But then when he saw me, his expression changed.
We drove all the way from Myrtle Beach, and this man never opened his mouth.
I said, oh my gosh, you know, he really is mad that he has to drive me."
"With the annual Atlantic
Beach black biker festival weekend coming up, Grand Strand business owners
and residents await to see if law enforcement drops the ball like it admits
it did last year when tens of thousands of black motorcycle enthusiasts
flooded the small town.
Rock was in the area
once during the Memorial Day festivities.
"The women were riding
around with nothing on with these little things, and I had my 18-year-old
son in the car, and I didn't appreciate it at all," she said. "My dad was
a cement finisher. He built up the beach, but we weren't allowed to stay
at the places he built."
Maybe one day, things
will change.
|