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The Mission
The Mission is a private pan sexual bdsm club dedicated to providing members and the greater bdsm community of central N.J and eastern Pa. and beyond with information, education and a friendly environment to explore their interests and fantasies in the sexual magic of Bondage / Discipline, Dominate / submissive, Sadomasochism (bdsm) activities. The activities, parties, meetings, munches, workshops and other activities are intended for the voluntary social enjoyment and pleasure of its members and guests. With the exceptions of compensating occasional guest speakers or demonstrators, this club is not aligned with nor engaged in any professional services.
General Guidelines:
As a group we adhere to the principals of “Safe, Sane and Consensual”
play.
Safe - At all "Mission" gatherings, meetings and play parties, safety both physical and emotional of all present will be maintained. A dungeon master will be present at approved functions to assist members in maintaining a safe environment for everyone.
Sane - At the "Mission" we recognize and understand that there are many levels of intensity that various members enjoy. It is our intention to provide a non-judgmental atmosphere where members can play comfortably at their chosen level, neither being pressured into playing beyond their chosen limits nor unnecessarily limited in their activities. However, some very bizarre or extreme activities may be prohibited. (Example; play with firearms, explosives, poisonous snakes or other dangerous animals or other totally off the wall, poorly thought out antics.)
Consensual - To be consensual, an agreement to interact must be made by a mentally competent adult acting not under duress. All activities must and will be consensual by all parties involved. The Mission does not support or recognize the concept of total ownership of one individual by another. Once given, consent may be withdrawn at anytime for any reason. Should any individual while at any sanctioned "Mission" function wish to withdraw a given consent regardless of any prior agreement, relationship or statement made, that person will be given support and that withdrawn consent recognized by the club and its members.
Membership:
This is a private club and is restricted to members and their guests.
Dues are based on amount of participation and use at the following rates.
$25.00 Yearly application and renewal fee. Your first introductory party is
free.
Friday Night Play Parties:
$15.00 For members
$20.00 for guests for Friday night play parties.
(A married or collared couple who are both members attend for $20)
Saturday Night Play Parties:
$20.00 For members
$25.00 for guests for Saturday night play parties.
(A married or collared couple who are both members attend for $25 in
most cases)
Additional dues may be assessed for special events as needed. Dues
and memberships are non transferable.
Guests: A member in good standing may bring a guest or guests to most "Mission" events. A guest is defined as someone who is known by and with that member and will remain more or less in the company of that member. Members are responsible for the conduct of his or her guest and to inform them of our rules and guidelines.
Prospective Members: Anyone wishing to join the club must either be sponsored / recommended by a member in good standing or attend a munch or non-play event and/or contact the Head Dungeon Master. He/she will then be given these guidelines and application form to fill out and sign. They must show Identification, and pay the $25. application fee.
Age Requirements: No one under the age of 21 may become a member or be admitted to any "Mission" events. NO exceptions! Anyone (members and non-members alike) attending any "Mission" events must have identification with them and may be asked to show proof of age regardless of age. If there is any doubt as to a person being of legal age, that person will not be admitted! (This is for everyone's protection and peace of mind. So if you are 75 and just had a face lift and look 17, you will not get in without proof of age, even if your grandchildren vouch for you. :-)
Rules
In order to maintain an atmosphere that is friendly and safe the
following common sense rules will be strictly enforced. These rules are for
the physical, emotional and legal safety of everyone in the club. It is the
responsibility of each member to do his/her part to ensure that these rules
are strictly adhered to. Violation of these rules may lead to being
required to leave the event that day and having your membership revoked. If
expelled from an event, only dues paid for that night will be refunded.
There will be no additional refund of dues if membership is revoked.
Expulsion from an event will be at the discretion of the dungeon master on
duty at that time. Expulsion from the club will be at the discretion of the
Head Dungeon Master after reviewing the case and talking to all parties
involved.
*****Rule 1.
D/s and related bdsm activities are based on Honesty, Trust and Ethical
Integrity. Members will conduct themselves in such a manner. No member
shall present him/her self or activities under false pretenses.
*****Rule 2.
No firearms, concealed weapons, illegal knives, explosive devices or
other dangerous implements (other then those generally accepted as "toys and
equipment" by the bdsm community) may be brought into any "Mission" event.
*****Rule 3.
No animals of any kind will be allowed at any "Mission" event.
Exceptions to this would be a registered seeing eye dog needed by a member or
guest. (This includes leaving your pet in the car in the parking lot.)
*****Rule 4.
Drugs & Alcohol have NO place in bdsm activities. We require all
activities to be consensual. An individual is not totally mentally
competent when under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol and therefore can
neither give or receive consent. While under the influence of drugs and/or
alcohol one is not in full control of them self and therefore cannot give to
someone that which they don't have, nor is it sane to assume that someone
not in complete control of them self can take control or be in control of
someone else. Therefore;
NO illegal drugs will be allowed at anytime at any "Mission" event. Detection or discovery of any illegal substance being present or used will result in the immediate expulsion and membership revocation. No exceptions or excuses! Don't bring them! They have no place in bdsm play and put everyone present in physical and legal danger. Anyone arriving at an event who is noticeably under the influence of drugs or alcohol will not be admitted or asked to leave the event.
There will be no alcohol allowed at play parties or where a scene is taking place. Moderate use of alcohol may be allowed at munches, meetings and other non-play events. A common sense rule of thumb is... if you can't legally drive you can't safely play.
*****Rule 5
There will be no professional services that incorporates sexual
activities offered or engaged in, at any "Mission" event. Other then
membership dues and the activities of "Mission" authorized vendors and the
occasional and incidental exchange or sale of "toys" between members, no
other form of commerce may be conducted. Solicitation (either offering or
requesting) for sexual activities for money is strictly prohibited!
*****Rule 6
At play parties vaginal or anal penis penetration is prohibited. Condoms
are to be used on all penetrating toys, vibrators etc.
*****Rule 7
For obvious sanitary reasons scat, water sports(golden showers), blood
sports, scarification, cutting and enemas are prohibited at play parties.
With male ejaculation, all semen (cum) must be contained and controlled as to
prevent it from making contact with the floor, wall, ceiling (grin), dungeon
furniture or equipment and other people.
*****Rule 8
No edge play will be allowed unless first discussed with the Head Dungeon
Master prior to play night and okayed. No extreme play such as choking,
suffocation or breath control will be allowed. Body modification must first
have the approval of the Head Dungeon Master and usually reserved for
demonstrations rather then play parties. Because of the potential dangers of
using the single tail whip to submissive and others playing in the dungeon,
you must inform the dungeon master of your intent to use it in play. If the
dungeon master has not seen you use the single tail before, please be
prepared to demonstrate your ability to use the whip on a non-human target
prior to using it on a sub, if asked to do so.
*****Rule 9
Anonymity - The Mission will make every effort not to reveal any
information about any member to any other person or group. All information
will be held in strictest confidence. Members are also expected to help
maintain everyone's anonymity. Who you see here and what you see here and
what you hear here, stays here. Help make this a safe comfortable place to
socialize and play by protecting everyone's anonymity and privacy. As
unfortunate as it is, bdsm in not accepted favorably by the general society.
(Although we are growing by leaps and bounds as more people discover the joys
and excitement of bdsm.) As members, we have a responsibility to protect
each other. ( Please, this includes the location of the club and other
meeting places also.)
*****Rule 10.
Cameras are not allowed at any club function except by prior arrangement
with the dungeon master for a specified purpose. The dungeon master will
inform all present of the camera and make it known when and where it will be
used and will accompany the camera at all times while it is present. The
camera will be strictly controlled to insure that no image of anyone not
intended to be photographed will be made. As soon as the expressed purpose
of the camera is over, it will be immediately removed from the premises.
*****Rule 11.
Be polite, friendly and non-judgmental toward other members. We are here
to enjoy and explore. It is every member's duty to try to create that
atmosphere.
Dungeon Etiquette
(sometimes known as just being polite and using common
sense)
Dress:
There is no dress code per se, but some might feel out of place in a tee
shirt and blue jeans and dirty white sneakers. As a guide to new people....
normal street clothes are usually worn to non-play events. Play events are
really your chance to "get wild" and have fun... be outrageous. For women,
most anything that you feel comfortable in is fine. Once at the dungeon, you
will find people wearing everything from a simple black blouse and skirt to
tight leather outfits or latex & rubber to corsets to panties and bras to
nothing at all! First time men might wear black pants and a dark shirt but
may find that some men will be in leather..... maybe others in silk panties
or drag, latex outfits, harnesses, restraint or nothing at all. It won't
take you long to adapt your own style of dress and/or undress that fits the
"you" you want to be.
Respect your level of play and everyone else's.
We are very non-judgmental here. The whole idea of bdsm is to explore
yourself and your partner, if you have one. Each person has their own level
of play and their own fetish and fantasies. There is no pressure on you to
do anything. You may play or just observe. You may not be into pain as much
as someone else. Do not feel pressured to do what others do. Do only what
you enjoy. There is no right or wrong way to do D/s or bdsm as long as it is
safe, sane and consensual. So, do it your way. For you, your way is the
right way....but remember that for someone else, their way is the right way
for them. If you see something going on that you believe might be contrary
to club rules and guidelines, please quietly bring it to the attention of
the dungeon master and let him/her handle it.
Dom/me’s Master/Ma’am’s submissive and slaves.
Here at The Mission we believe that respect is earned and not assumed. A
Dom/me, who is not your Dom/me is just another member or guest. If you are
a sub and they have earned your respect, you may, if you wish, address them
as Sir or Ma'am, if that is acceptable to both of you. No one may demand
anything of another unless the other has so consented to the relationship. A
submissive is under no obligation to serve or obey anyone they do not choose
to serve. "I may be a Dom but I am not everyone's Dom and you may be a sub
or a slave but you are not everyone's sub or slave."
Dungeon Master.
At approved events there will be a dungeon master known to all to help
and assist members and to oversee the overall operation of the event. There
is one head dungeon master who will appoint, as needed, one or more
experienced persons to act as dungeon master in his absences. The authority
of the dungeon master is absolute and he/she may take whatever actions he/she
believes necessary to ensure the safety and well being of all present.
Respect the dungeon master(s) and cooperate with him/her as they administer
their duties. They are there for your help and protection.
RESPECT THE SCENE!
In the dungeon the scene is a very intense and intimate time of focused
erotic energy. Do nothing that might distract or disrupt that scene! Do not
invade the scene space. Refrain from talking loudly or worse laughing loudly
in the dungeon. Do not talk to those in the scene unless you are talked to
first. Do not talk through a scene to someone else. It is okay to watch a
scene, but learn the difference between watching and gawking. Watch from a
distance. It is not at all polite to use someone else's scene for your own
overt sexual pleasure!! Don't do it. At The Mission bdsm is not a stage
show, it is an intimate moment in someone's life. Respect that and feel
honored that they are sharing that moment in a small way with you.
NEVER! ask if you may join a scene or in some way try to invite yourself. If you are wanted, you will be asked. Never touch anyone with out permission from them and/or their Dom/me. Don't touch other people's toys without asking first. Most people in bdsm are kind, generous, and friendly people...Don't put people on the spot by asking to borrow floggers, whips or other toys. Buy and bring your own. Using someone's favorite flogger might be akin to asking to borrow their toothbrush.
In bdsm egos and feelings are a very big part of what goes on. Be very careful of well meaning suggestions about how to do something better. Especially, in front of someone's sub. It is much better just to let someone observe your method of doing something. If they like it they may adapt it for themselves or they might ask you about it. Then you can tell them all about how to do it.
Cleanliness
Always leave your play area as clean or cleaner then you found it. Do
not be shy about using the provided disinfected to clean your play area
before you use it! YOU SHOULD. It is not making a statement about the
people who were there before you....but is making a statement about you and
your understanding about playing safe and sane. It only takes a minute and
might prevent any one of a whole host of problems that might arise from using
unclean play areas. At The Mission we hope that it becomes standard practice
to clean your area before and after you use it and to protect yourself at all
times. Safe sex includes safe bdsm play.
Apply On Line! Click Here for the On Line introductory Application or Click Here for a printable Membership Application.
Thank you and hope you enjoy The Mission,
SirOak
Head Dungeon Master.