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Cover Shot - paperback editionGames People Play : The Psychology of Human Relationships - Trade Paperback © copyright 1996 by Eric, M.D. Berne  Published by Ballantine Books; ISBN: 0345410033; Dimensions (in inches): 0.58 x 8.30 x 5.53

Dr. Eric Berne, as the originator of transactional analysis, has attained recognition for developing one of the most innovative approaches to modern psychotherapy. Discover how many of these "secret games" you play everyday of your life:  Iiwfy (If it weren't for you);  Sweetheart;  Threadbare;  Harried;  Alcoholic, and many more. A groundbreaking book that bores deep into the heart of all our relationships, GAMES PEOPLE PLAY is a classic that should be read again and again

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Cover Shot - paperback editionGrooming, Gossip, and the Evolution of Language - Paperback © copyright 1997 by R. I. M. Dunbar  Published by Harvard University Press; ISBN: 0674363345 ; Dimensions (in inches): 0.92 x 8.52 x 5.80

This books explores and explains many elements of human interaction while walking the reader through the basic idea of the book: that among all the primates, only humans have highly developed language skills - because we gossip rather than groom each other.

In a lively discussion that touches on such varied topics as the behavior of gelada baboons, Darwin's theory of evolution, computer-generated poetry, and the significance of brain size, Dunbar builds a highly cohesive case for his theory, beginning with the social organization of the great apes.

This class of animals, which includes human beings, lives almost exclusively in small groups and maintain social cohesion through almost constant grooming activities.  Grooming is a way to forge alliances, establish hierarchy, offer comfort, or make apology.  Once a population expands beyond a certain number, however, it becomes impossible for each member to maintain constant physical contact with every other member of the group.  Dunbar puts forward a convincing case suggesting that because human beings have found it necessary to live in such large groups, we developed language as a substitute for physical intimacy.

Whether or not you accept Dunbar's premise, his book is worth reading, if only for its animated prose and wealth of scientific information.  However, it offers much more than that, including a much deeper insight into our interpersonal interactions, and how we can use our understanding of our natural development to honor our nature and deepen our relationships with those dear to us.

An obvious choice for science buffs, Grooming, Gossip, and the Evolution of Language is a wonderful book for anyone with an inquiring mind and an interest in what makes the world, within and without, go around.

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Coming Soon!! T.A. for Tots (and Other Prinzes) by Alvin M. Freed, the book that brought "Warm Fuzzies" to the world...

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