I was 18 years old the first time I heard someone utter the phrase, "I'm not a feminist, but..." with a straight face. My jaw dropped. A women's libber from early childhood, I knew that line as a stereotype, a joke. Out in the big world, though, I discovered that not only was this particular woman deeply invested in distancing herself from the label, there were lots more like her.
Which is a shame.
For me, feminist has never been a dirty word, and feminism is not about labels. It is simply a basic awareness of the need for women worldwide to stand on a level playing field with men, and a dedication to bringing that about. It is the radical notion that women are people. And it is so deeply a part of me that it naturally comes into play in everything I do, particularly my parenting.

resources for feminist parents:
hip mama
feminist mothers at home
feminist stay-at-home parents
Ask a Feminist Mom: feminist parenting at Wears The Baby
Mothers & Feminism at Suite 101
Mothers Are Women
feminist parenting
Feminist Mothers at Suite 101

my favorite feminist websites:
National Organization for Women
feminist.com
feminist majority foundation tons of political/scholarly links
The Rural Womyn's Zone
Girls can be Anything... Except Roosters! hasn't been updated since 98, but it's still cool
cybergrrl
and the original RIOT GRRRL for old time's sake

zines with a feminist edge:
Rag
HUES
Maxi
Bitch: feminist response to pop culture
BRILLO
ROCKRGRL
BUST
and of course, the mother of them all
Ms.