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The Sensual Massage |
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The combination of scent and touch is extremely effective in opening up intimacy between two people. That's basically how we communicate love in an effective way, a way that doesn't involve having to discuss the subject a great deal. It also works wonderfully on a basic physical level. There are a lot of nerve endings that follow along the path of the spine. As you massage, your touch brings the blood to the surface, you speed the absorption of the oils into the skin, and you also bring up the level of oxytocin, the hormone needed in high levels for the process of sexual arousal and, ultimately, orgasm. A backrub is something that everyone can relate to positively, and that's a good place to start. And then using the oils will make it quite a different, and far more exciting, experience. It's an especially good thing for men to focus on, I think. Women often need that kind of attention to feel comfortable with proceeding on to more intimate activities. That nurturing, caring-for aspect of romance is extremely important between two people. You will have more interesting and intense erotic experiences if you're involved on all levels with each other. And touch and scent are the best ways of really opening some of those deeper levels. Let's begin the massage with a small amount of your chosen aromatherapy oil, just a teaspoon or so. Rub the oil in the palms of your hands to warm it up before it touches your partner's skin. Cold oil poured on a back will quickly produce about twice as much tension as was there before you started! There are certain basic massage techniques, designed to relieve tension, that are very effective. Tension tends to accumulate in the neck, shoulders, and upper back in women, and in the lower back and buttocks in men. The idea is not to become an expert professional masseuse or masseur. This is a seduction ritual! Be creative, playful and have fun!. The Welcoming Press: With your lover lying face down, straddle him or her or kneel at his or her side. Gently press down on your partner's shoulders, and on either side of the spine. Do not press directly on the spin at any time during the massage. This stroke gives your partner a few moments to get used to the feeling of your hands on his or her skin. The Backwarmer: Now begin to warm your lover's back. With a flat hand, fingers together, palm in contact with the skin, move the hands in parallel lines up either side of the spine, then out and across the shoulders, and down the sides of the torso. Kneading: Working as deeply as is comfortable for your partner, use your fingers to knead the muscles of the back, starting with the neck and shoulders and working your way down. Go slowly and use more oil as necessary.
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