She
was six years old when
I
first met her on the beach
near
where I live.
I
drive to this beach, a distance
of
three or four miles,
whenever
the world
begins
to close in on me.
She
was building a sandcastle
or
something and looked up,
her
eyes as blue as the sea.
"Hello," she said.
I
answered with a nod, not really
in
the mood to bother with
a
small child.
"I'm building," she said.
"I
see that. What is it?" I asked,
not
really caring.
"Oh,
I don't know, I just like
the
feel of sand."
That
sounds good, I thought, and
slipped
off my shoes........
A
sandpiper glided by.
"That's a joy," the child said.
"It's a what?"
"It's
a joy. My mama says
sandpipers
come to bring us joy."
The
bird went gliding
down
the beach.
Good-bye
joy, I muttered to myself,
hello
pain, and turned to walk on.
I
was depressed, my life seemed
completely
out of balance.
"What's
your name?"
She
wouldn't give up.
"Robert,"
I
answered. "I'm Robert Peterson."
"Mine's Wendy... I'm six."
"Hi,
Wendy." She giggled.
"You're
funny," she said.
In
spite of my gloom, I laughed
too
and walked on. Her musical
giggle
followed me.
"Come
again, Mr. P," she called.
"We'll
have another happy day."
After
a few days of a group of
unruly
Boy Scouts, PTA meetings,
and
an ailing mother, the sun
was
shining one morning as I took
my
hands out of the dishwater.
I
need a sandpiper, I said to myself,
gathering
up my coat.
The
ever-changing balm of the
seashore
awaited me. The breeze
was
chilly, but I strode along,
trying
to recapture the
serenity
I needed.
"Hello,
Mr. P," she said.
"Do
you want to play?"
"What
did you have in mind?"
I
asked, with a twinge
of
annoyance.
"I don't know, you say."
"How
about charades?"
I
asked sarcastically.
The
tinkling laughter burst
forth
again. "I don't know
what
that is."
"Then let's just walk."
Looking
at her, I noticed the
delicate
fairness of her face.
"Where
do you live?" I asked.
"Over
there." She pointed toward
a
row of summer cottages.
Strange, I thought, in winter.
"Where do you go to school?"
"I
don't go to school. Mommy
says
we're on vacation."
She
chattered little girl talk
as
we strolled up the beach,
but
my mind was on other things.
When
I left for home, Wendy
said
it had been a happy day.
Feeling
surprisingly better,
I
smiled at her and agreed.
Three
weeks later, I rushed to my
beach
in a state of near panic.
I
was in no mood to even greet
Wendy.
I thought I saw her mother
on
the porch and felt like
demanding
she keep her child
at
home.
"Look,
if you don't mind,"
I
said crossly when Wendy
caught
up with me, "I'd rather
be
alone today."
She
seemed unusually pale
and
out of breath.
"Why?" she asked.
I
turned to her and shouted,
"Because
my mother died!"
and
thought, My God,
why
was I saying this
to
a little child?
"Oh,"
she said quietly,
"then
this is a bad day."
"Yes,"
I said, "and yesterday
and
the day before
and--oh,
go away!"
"Did it hurt?" she inquired.
"Did
what hurt?" I was exasperated
with
her, with myself.
"When she died?"
"Of
course it hurt!" I snapped,
misunderstanding,
wrapped up
in
myself. I strode off.
A
month or so after that, when
I
next went to the beach,
she
wasn't there.
Feeling
guilty, ashamed and
admitting
to myself I missed her,
I
went up to the cottage after my
walk
and knocked at the door.
A
drawn looking young woman
with
honey-colored hair
opened
the door.
"Hello,"
I said, "I'm
Robert
Peterson. I missed your
little
girl today and wondered
where
she was."
"Oh
yes, Mr. Peterson, please come in.
Wendy
spoke of you so much.
I'm
afraid I allowed her to
bother
you. If she was a nuisance,
please,
accept my apologies."
"Not
at all--she's a delightful child."
I
said, suddenly realizing that
I
meant what I had just said.
"Wendy
died last week, Mr. Peterson.
She
had leukemia. Maybe she
didn't
tell you."
Struck
dumb, I groped for a chair.
I
had to catch my breath.
"She
loved this beach so when she
asked
to come, we couldn't say no.
She
seemed so much better here and
had
a lot of what she called happy
days,
but the last few weeks, she
declined
rapidly..." Her voice
faltered,
"She left something for
you
... if only I can find it.
Could
you wait a moment
while
I look?"
I
nodded stupidly, my mind
racing
for something to say to
this
lovely young woman.
She
handed me a smeared
envelope
with "MR. P" printed in
bold
childish letters.
Inside
was a drawing in bright
crayon
hues -- a yellow beach,
a
blue sea, and a brown bird.
Underneath
was carefully printed:
A
SANDPIPER TO BRING YOU JOY.
Tears
welled up in my eyes
and
a heart that had almost
forgotten
to love opened wide.
I
took Wendy's mother in my arms.
"I'm
so sorry, I'm so sorry,
I'm
so sorry," I muttered over and
over,
and we wept together.
The
precious little picture is framed
now
and hangs in my study.
Six
words--one for each year of
her
life -- that speak to me of
harmony,
courage, and
undemanding
love.
A
gift from a child with sea blue
eyes
and hair the color of sand --
who
taught me the gift of love.
NOTE:
This is a true story
sent
out by Robert Peterson.
It
happened over 20 years ago
and
the incident changed
his
life forever.
It
serves as a reminder to all of
us
that we need to take time to
enjoy
living, life and each other.
The
price of hating other human
beings
is loving oneself less.
Life
is so complicated, the hustle
and
bustle of everyday traumas
can
make us lose focus about
what
is truly important or
what
is only a momentary
setback
or crisis.
This
week, be sure to give your
loved
ones an extra hug, and by
all
means, take a moment...even
if
it is only ten seconds, to stop
and
smell the roses.
This
comes from someone's heart
and
is shared with many and
now
I share it with you.
May
God Bless everyone that
receives
this!
There
are NO coincidences!
Everything
that happens to us
happens
for a reason.
Never
brush aside anyone as
insignificant..
Who
knows what they can teach us?
Many
a good deed is better
than
the greatest
intention........anon