Things I've Learned

I've learned...
You cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved.
The rest is up to them.

I've learned...
that no matter how much you care,
some people just don't care back.

I've learned...
that it takes years to build up trust,
and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned...
that it's not what you have in life
but who you have in your life that counts

I've learned...
that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes...
After that, you better know something.

I've learned...
that you shouldn't compare
yourself to the best others can do.

I've learned...
that you can do something in an instant
that can give you heartache for life.

I've learned...
that it's taking me a long time
to become the person I want to be.

I've learned...
that you should always leave loved ones
with loving words, it may be the
last time you see them.

I've learned...
that you can keep going
long after you thought you couldn't.

I've learned...
that we are responsible for what we do,
no matter how we feel.

I've learned...
that either you control your attitude
or it controls you.

I've learned...
that regardless of how hot and steamy
a relationship is at first, the passion
fades and there had better be something
else to take its place.

I've learned...
that heroes are the people
who do what has to be done
when it needs to be done,
regardless of the consequences.

I've learned...
that money is lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned...
that my best friend and I can do anything
or nothing and have the best time.

I've learned...
that sometimes the people you expect
to kick you when you are down
will be the ones to help you get back up.

I've learned...
that sometimes when I'm angry
I have the right to be angry,
but that does not give me
the right to be cruel.

I've learned...
that true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance.
Same goes for love.

I've learned...
that just because someone doesn't love
you the way you want them to doesn't
mean they don't love you with all they have.

I've learned...
that maturity has more to do with
what types of experiences you've had
and what you've learned from them
and less to do with how many
birthdays you have celebrated.

I've learned...
that you should never tell a child
their dreams are unlikely or outlandish,
Few things are more humiliating, and what
a tragedy it would be if they believed it.

I've learned...
that no matter how good a friend is,
they are going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned...
that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by
others.  Sometimes you have to learn
to forgive yourself.

I've learned...
that no matter how bad your heart is broken
the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned...
that our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible for who we have become.

I've learned...
that just because two people argue,
it doesn't mean that they don't love each other,
And just because they don't argue,
it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned...
that we don't have to change friends,
if we understand that friends change.

I've learned...
that you shouldn't be so eager to find out
a secret.  It could change your life forever.

I've learned...
that two people can look at exactly the same
thing, and see something totally different.

I've learned...
that no matter how you try to protect
your children, they will eventually get hurt.
And you will hurt in the process.

I've learned...
that even when you think you have no more
to give, when a friend cries out to you,
you will find the strength to help.

I've learned...
that credentials on the wall
do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned...
that the people you care about most in life
are taken from you too soon.

I've learned...
that it's hard to determine where to draw
the line between being nice and not
hurting people's feelings, when standing up for what you believe in.

I've learned that people who know
absolutely nothing about you,
can change your life in an instant.

I've learned that your family can let you
down, and sometimes...
others can become your family,
teaching you it's "ok" to love again.

--  Elizabeth Tocarciuc RN