When your kids are little ... you can fix most "hurts" with a kiss, and a band-aid.
What do you do when the kids grow up ... like mine?
Son is 31 .. married daughter is 28 and then there is Julie who is 18.
You can't fix their "hurts" with a kiss anymore.
Of course, I'm talking about the emotional "hurts" that happen. Broken hearts .. hurt feelings .. the world ending!

You try to let them know you are "there" for them ~ that there will be a sunrise tomorrow ... but each one of these "hurts" rips me apart. I can't fix them ... all I can do is be there to listen while they go on and on about it.
My son is going through a rough time right now, and his world has turned upside down.
All I can do is sit back and offer advice .. when asked.
He has to make his own decisions .. then live with the final results of them.
It's the sitting back part that is hard. Especially for me!

Someone once told me that I try to "fix the world" ... and I guess I do ... but every mom hates to see their child struggling and hurting.

Things are always so clear .. when you aren't the one emotional involved.
I always know "what I would do" .. except when I'm the one hurting!! Funny how that goes ... guess that is why we need family and friends .. to remind us "what we would do!"

Julie is still in the "boyfriend" stage of her life.
The heartbreak of finding out the "new one" wasn't all he pretended to be ... the lies .. and trying to accept the fact that not everyone is truthful.
Guess that is part of growing up, but I think it hurts me ~ more then her sometimes.

My older kids live only 10 minutes from me .. so I hear everything .. sometimes I think distance would be a very good thing!

I never know when my world will turn inside out with a simple phone call, or a knock on the door!
Sitting here .. having a good time on the web ... pow .. someone comes through the door and lays the "problem of the century" on me.
My problems take a back seat to my kids.
Once in awhile I talk about divorcing my kids ... in a kidding manner ... but sometimes .. I swear .. I'm not kidding!

I'm not dealing with some kid that threw a rock anymore ... these problems are adult .. serious problems!!
And my kids think I have the answers!
Surprise kids .. Mom doesn't have all the answers anymore!

In case you never noticed ... writing is a "kind of" therapy for me! LOL
This time .. will take alot of writing!

Thinking about it .. guess all I can do is sit tight .. and try to come up with "words of wisdom". I'm dealing with stuff that I never had to deal with in my own life. So .. I can't go back, and use "life experience" as a guide.
My kids are living in a different world then I grew up in .. not sure I like "their world" much!

All any mom wants for their kids .. is for them to be happy.
When that is threatened .. for whatever reason .. and you see your child suffering .. it hurts us.
We know logically that we can't protect them ... but who said a mom is logical?

So ~ when I see young mothers at the grocery store complaining about what a "difficult age" their two year old is at ... I smile to myself and think .. "lady ~ you don't know how lucky you are"!

Now I'm sitting here praying I gave my kids enough guidance and values to make these "big" decisions.
Knowing full well ~ that even if they don't .. I'll still be here with the emotional support they need.

I know now why RIP was first put on a tombstone ... it's the only time a mother can rest in peace .. my luck .. the kids will follow me!