On Becoming a Grandparent |
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From Publishers Weekly
From Library Journal
Relying on her own experience, Bond examines the
impact an upcoming birth has on a family, especially the soon-to-be
grandparents. Her diary explores all the family members' relationships and the
emotions and reactions she herself experienced as a prospective grandmother.
Bond (Is There Life After Analysis?, LJ 6/15/93) brings to this work 38 years
of experience as a psychoanalyst, and, given her training as a Freudian,
sometimes tedious and superfluous dream interpretation plays a larger than
needed role in her diary. That quibble aside, Bond's analysis of what
grandparents can expect with the birth of a child fills a definite need and
will complement the many books available on the art of grandparenting, such as
Lois Wyse's Grandchildren Are So Much Fun I Should Have Had Them First (Crown,
1992).Priscilla Davis, Cuyahoga Cty. P.L., South Euclid, OhioCopyright 1994
Reed Business Information, Inc.
From The New Yorker
Dr. Bond combines professional insight with her
personal conflicts as she draws from her own family history, recalls her
relations with her daughter and daughter-in-law, and ties last night's dreams
with today's worries.
Review
"Alma Bond's newest book, On Becoming a Grandparent: A Diary of
Family Discover, warm and insightful, part memoir and part case study, is an
engaging and probing look at a neglected life cycle event. This book walks the
fine line between personal reverie and public revelation. It incorporates the
generosity and wisdom bond has shown in almost 40 years of professional
psychoanalytic practice with openness in sharing her personal experience of
becoming a grandparent. Her book is generative for all those working in the
fields of parenting, female psychology, and life cycle development, and for
those looking for new ways to mine psychoanalytic insights." -- Psychoanalytic
Books, V. 6, #3, 1995, pp. 373-376For all generations. -- Tampa Tribune
Product Description
ON BECOMING A GRANDPARENT concerns my daughter's
pregnancy, as seen through the eyes of a grandmother who is a psychoanalyst.
The book stresses the changes wrought in the entire family, including the
grandparents, by the newest family member, and forewarns that each new addition
will awaken unresolved conflicts among family members. Changes are explored in
part through the interpretation of family member's dreams. The development of
the fetus is carefully followed from conception to delivery, and complete
descriptions of the labor of both my daughter and daughter-in-law are given.
The experience also brought back memories of my own pregnancies and
childbirths.
From the Back Cover
PRAISE FOR
On Becoming a Grandparent "This is a
no-holds-barred account of the emotional pitfalls - and satisfactions - that
accompany an expanding family. With warmth and candor, sill and insight, Alma
bond weaves her own personal experiences and her trained psychoanalytst's
observations into a tale that is bound to be valuable to all those interested
in learning more about the dynamics of family relationships." - W.P.
Kinsella, author of Box Socials, Shoeless Joe (made into a major motion
picture, Field of Dreams, with Kevin Costner), and other novels.
"Alma Bond has written a fascinating,
outrageously honest, self-revealing, sensitive and insightful book on one of
life's less-studied passages, that of becoming a grandparent." Albert M.
Sax, M. D., faculty member and training analyst, American Psychoanalytic
Association.
"Alma Bond's latest, extremely moving book, On
becoming a Grandparent, reveals that the love of one's children when they give
birth to a child, at least for her, is passionate and primitive. She explains
that the love for one's daughter-in-law, if one is lucky, is much more
civilized, it is the affection one feels for a dear, younger friend. This
highly readable book brings new feelings to the reader that the author has been
given an unexpected gift in that finally, after decades of resentment, she
understands how much her mother and she are alike. The knowledge no sustains
her that she is permitted to 'memorize my children's faces and touch the hearts
of my grandchildren', knowing that to be a grandparent 'is to pierce the
bulls-eye of eternity'." Lucy Freeman, author of Fight Against Fears, What
Do Women Want? and other books.
About the Author
Dr. Alma H. Bond is a noted psychoanalyst and author
who has published seven books and many articles in prestigious psychoanalytic
journals. She was one of the first American non-medical analysts to be elected
to membership in the International Psychoanalytic Association. She is a Fellow,
Training Analyst, and faculty member at the Institute for Psychoanalytic
Training and Research, and a member of the American Psychological Association,
the American Society of Journalists and Authors, the Florida Freelance Writers
association, and the Dramatists Guild. She is listed in twenty Who's Who
directories.