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Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays

EPILOGUE
Thanks to S.C.M., Calgary

"Coming out" - two words that freak out anyone who suspects that he or she may be gay. I am 21 years old. The only advice I can offer is to do whatever is conducive to the lifestyle you are living. That is to say, if you are from a wholly religious family who still supports you financially, would not accept "it" and would 'pray over' you every night, perhaps you may want to wait. If you are part of a loving but redneck family who feels that one possible way to cure all homosexuals is 'castration', again, perhaps wait. If you are in a contemporary family, they may be totally 'groovy' with it and not give it a second thought. If, by some stroke of luck, you were born into a totally cosmopolitan family, there were probably already introducing you to other little boys or girls in hopes of making a 'love connection' when you were 10 or 11 years old. Most people fall somewhere in the middle of these extremes but the point is simple. If you are happier coming out, then do. If not, then don't. The main word in it all is "happy". It is your life to live and you will eventually make the best decisions for yourself. I am not planning on telling my family - by the way, which is a mixture of all four above-mentioned categories - until I have finished all my schooling. Simply, I think, more than anything, they would look at my being gay as a hindrance, which would not help me achieve my scholastic goals. Therefore, I plan on telling them once I have my degrees. That is what works for me and makes me happy. So find what makes you happy and go with it despite all the ups and downs it may bring.

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