Keep good records. Devise a system for keeping track
                                          of who gave you what, so you don't end up trying to
                                          figure out who sent you that mystery vase, or
                                          wondering if you wrote your Uncle Charlie a
                                          thank-you note. Computer databases or 3X5 cards
                                          work wonders for organizing your thank-you note
                                          list.

                                          Be prepared. Buy yourself an adequate supply of
                                          stationery for thank-you notes when you purchase
                                          your invitations.

                                          Get cracking as soon as you return from the
                                          honeymoon. Within three months of the wedding,
                                          those thank-you notes should be in the mail,
                                          according to etiquette experts. But do you really
                                          want to go down to the wire (and have your guests
                                          worry that their gifts were lost)? Set a goal to write
                                          10 or so each day, and you'll finish well ahead of
                                          schedule.

                                          Make 'em personal with a handwritten note. Those
                                          pre-printed "Thank you for your kind gift" cards just
                                          won't cut it.

                                          Express yourself. That doesn't mean you have to write
                                          a volume to each person. Just tell them how much you
                                          like the gift and how you plan to use it. Thank-you
                                          notes should communicate how special the gift-giver
                                          is and how much you appreciate their thoughtfulness.
                                          Even if the gift isn't something you need or want, you
                                          should never mention that the gift was a duplicate or
                                          was returned.

                                          Thank each and every person. If you got a group gift
                                          from all your college buddies, each one should get
                                          their own thank-you note.

                                          Keep it fun. This isn't a final exam...or a deadly boring
                                          chore. Make note writing an enjoyable experience. You
                                          and your husband can put on a little music, pour
                                          yourselves some wine and spend an hour or two
                                          writing after dinner. Reward yourselves with a
                                          scrumptious dessert afterward.