BY ALLISON RUSHBY
In the past few
years, the popularity of personalizing the wedding ceremony has increased
dramatically. By putting their own personal touches into their wedding ceremony,
couples can ensure that their What many couples don't know, is that your personal feelings can even be included into the legal parts of your wedding day. Adding your own views and thoughts of your love, and of your future life together, will give a touching intimacy to your ceremony. If you would like to write your own vows, you should first meet with your officiant to find out what must be legally kept in the ceremony, and what can be written by you. It is a good idea to make a list of what you would both like to say to your family and friends about your relationship and future lifetogether, your hopes and dreams. You may want to say something about your feelings for each other, your views on commitment and trust, or simply read a poem. Couples often find
that their own words can be more meaningful than traditional vows. Some
couplesfeel that the traditional vows are chauvinistic, and because of this,
reciting these vows may be Following is an example of a personally written vow: ......., today we make a commitment
to one another. I want you to know that you are a precious gift and that
you bring so much joy into my life. I affirm the special bond between us,
and promise to keep it alive always. I promise to be your confidante, your
best friend and to share in your hopes and dreams. In recognition of this,
I, ......., take you, ......., to be my husband. With this vow we face new
responsibilities together. I will be trustworthy as your wife, and to love
you in all circumstances. Once you have decided what you would like to include in the ceremony, and have written this up, you should meet again with the officiant, as your vows will have to be approved. The vows you have written will need to be practiced a number of times before the wedding. You will need to be relaxed in reciting them, and familiar with the words. Take the time to talk with your officiant and discuss the options you have. This will give you time to plan ahead, write your vows and to become comfortable in reciting them. |