The Kappa Alpha Gentleman





Kappa Alphas are revered as the gentlemen of the fraternity world. Although some of our precepts are derived from Southern tradition and custom, KA is not sectional. In Fact, Kappa Alpha gentlemen are common to all areas of the country in all walks of life, but a KA, through his gentility, should always be distinguished by his modern chivalric characteristics.

The founders of Kappa Alpha sought to preserve the ideals of the courtly gentleman of their time. Stress is laid upon the fact that Kappa Alpha is an order, religious in feeling and rooted in the tenet of high personal achievement. There is no Kappa Alpha Fraternity. An order is a society of persons united by possession of a mutual distinction, the recognition of something previously acquired. It is a group of men aspiring to the qualities of the true gentleman. Only those who possess those qualities, and those who care to develop them, can fully enjoy Kappa Alpha and grow in character in its membership.

By the time a young man reaches college and pledges a fraternity, he is presumed to be familiar with the amenities of social life, including refinements of good manners and good taste. Because good manners and good taste affect the atmosphere and reputation of the fraternity, the pledge's compliance with generally accepted standards is imperative.

General appearance and dress are usually the first indicators noticed by others. Carelessness in dress or slouchiness in appearance detract rather than add to the respect of a person. No hard and fast rule can be offered regarding the formality or informality of good attire. Local customs usually determine the acceptable standard.

The chapter house is the member's college home. An atmosphere of courtesy and respect for the privacy of others should prevail at all times. Every member must feel obligated to do his part in keeping the house in good condition. Each member should clean up after himself and should keep his possessions in a regular place. It is always courteous to knock on a study room or bedroom door before entering. In consideration of others, quiet should prevail during study hours. Another man's possessions should never be borrowed without his consent, and any damage to a borrowed article should be repaired before returned.

A gentleman not only acts the part, but his conversation must be that of a gentleman. This is especially true when ladies are present. Proper conduct and firm, fair discipline are important aspects of a successful chapter operation. Respect for womanhood is a responsibility of all gentlemen. As each pledge learns more of the noble ideals and purposes of KA, he will understand more fully and realize the special significance of true gentility. Genuine courtesy should be extended to ladies, who are guests in the chapter house, in keeping with Kappa Alpha tradition. If a chapter has a housemother, special consideration should be accorded her every day.

Entertaining ladies requires additional courtesies. when a woman enters a room, all men should rise and remain standing until she is seated or has passed through the room. when introduced to a woman, a man never offers to shake hands unless she extends her hand first (a lady may or may not extend her hand, as she chooses). If a member has been accidentally overlooked when a lady is introduced, he should ask someone who has met her to introduce him.

The constant application of common courtesy is never to be overlooked. It is considered a good practice to speak with casual acquaintances at all times. A pledge's relations with classmates are as important to the chapter as to himself. A good pledge makes friends everywhere -- in the classroom, on campus, in town, and with other fraternity men.

Learn and respect your campus traditions and customs. Support and engage in campus activities, athletics and class affairs; they are the life of the college. However, these activities should never supersede your studies.

The chapter house has, from time to time, many guests -- particularly faculty, parents and alumni. the extension of sincere and genuine hospitality to these guests is every member's duty. Hospitality is entirely natural and voluntary; it cannot be forced.

Each pledge's actions on campus, and elsewhere, reflect on the entire Kappa Alpha Order, and more especially on his particular chapter. A pledge is no less committed than an active member to represent KA well and to never bring discredit to the good name of the Order.

The Varlet