I am sure by now you are wondering exactly who or what this Inner Child is?

Allow me to explain: when we are children, we see the world through the eyes of innocence. Everything we see amazes us, stuns us, brings out our curious nature. We experience everything in new light because it is our first opprutunity to explore new things. However, due to tragedies of some kind (sever illness, incest, rape, parent's divorcing, child abuse, mental abuse, etc.) we lose that innocence. In a sense, we lock it away in a closet in our minds and tend to forget about it. That locked innocence is our INNER CHILD.

Have you ever wondered why you cannot cope in this world as an adult? Why you feel like crying for no reason? Why you cannot remember certain aspects of your childhood no matter what you do? Or, why you have a hard time dealing with love ones, bosses, friends, etc?

The answer to these questions COULD be because you have locked away your inner child, and it is time to free her/him.

This technique that i am about to introduce you to is one that i used a few years ago when i was trying to communicate with my inner child. I must warn you...finding your inner child is going to be the most difficult task you have ever had to do. It may take you numerous sessions to teach your inner child trust and love again, but through persistence and determination, you can accomplish this goal.

Good luck to all of you about to embark on this wonderous and yet painful quest.

There are several steps to this Inner Child Technique. I will take you through each one with as much detail as i possible can. So lets begin!

First, you will need to find a space where you can be COMPLETELY alone for up to an hour. It should be a comfortable space, with enough room to lay flat. You can either do this with artificial lighting, or have candles lit to give a softer ambiance to the room, OR if you prefer to do this outdoors, under a full moon makes for a wonderful setting too. I suggest you have a pillow for your head, a warm blanket, and something to drink with you.

Second, once you have found your comfortable space, and feel assured that you will not be interrupted, stretch out on the floor, or ground (with a second blanket underneath you)and place the pillow under your head. Close your eyes and begin to breath deeply, inhaling and ehaling in deep rhythmic patterns. Allow your mind to become as clear and as still as you possibly can (this may take you several minutes, even up to a half an hour, depending on how easy it is for you to meditate).

Third, now that you are completely relaxed, begin to visualize a comfortable home, there is nothing but love and warmth in this home. It can be the home of your grandmother, a close relative, or one completely of your own imaginings. Net, visualize yourself climbing a flight of steps. The banister feels smooth and cool under your hand, the steps are plushly carpeted, the lighting is soft and well lit. You get to the landing, turn and walk towards a door. There is no fear here, only love and safeness. You get to the door, turn the knob, and walk inside. Inside, the room is decorated like a child's room. There are lovely toys everywhere. Dolls, stuffed toys, a doll house (can be adjusted to male-oriented toys if you are a male searching for your inner child). To your right is a comfortable childs bed with a lovely comforter, pillows, and favorite stuffed animals. Facing towards the outside of the house and to the far center wall of the room are two large windows with brightly colored curtains. The windows are open, the sun is shinning thru and there is a pleasant breee coming thru the windows.

Fourth, now look to your left. There is a door there with a key in the keyhole. It is a skeleton key. Listen carefully. Can you hear a sound coming from the behind the door? A scraping sound? A whimper? A hushed voice of a child? Crying? Listen carefully to the sound that may be coming from the door. Perhaps there is no sound. This is okay. Now walk towards the door. Once you have gotten to it, turn the key slowly until it unlocks the door. Ever so gently open the door. Do you hear a noise there now? Look within. Perhaps it is too dark, but perhaps there is enough light to see. What do you see? Is there a child there? Is the child cringing in the corner? Is (s)he scared, sad, happy,etc. Pay close attention the emotions of your child there. You may wish to spend several minutes just abserving the reaction of your child.

Fifth, sit down in the floor about 10 feet away from the door. Observe the child in the closet. Does (s)he appear to want to come out? Or, will some coaxing be necessary? If you have to coaxing is necessary, speak to the child in loving, low whispers. Tell the child that it is safe where you are, that there is no one there who can hurt her/him. You may even wish to sing to the child. Remember, your inner child will have to learn to trust you so this may take many sessions to accomplish your goal. {It took me five sessions with my inner child to get her to trust me}

Sixth, once you have your inner child out of the closet, hold your child gently in your arms, reassuring her/him that all is ok. Point out to her/him the lovely things in the room. Show the child that the windows are open, that there is a wonderful world outside that room. Place the child down on the bed or floor, walk over to the closet door and take the key out of the keyhole. Show it to the child and reassure her/him that the closet door will never be locked again. Toss the key out of the window. Talk to the child and let her/him know that never again will (s)he be locked away.

Seven, At any time during this session, you feel the need to leave your inner child, tell her/him that you are not going away, that you are just leaving that room, assure her/him that the door to the bedroom has no lock on it, that the child is free to roam and explore the entire house (which is in essence your own mind).

Finally, I suggest that you go back often and talk with your inner child, learn what fears the child has, what it needs from you to feel safe and secure again. After numerous sessions with your child, you will simply be able to feel or sense your inner child's pressence with you at all times. It is a wonderful feeling.

If anyone has any questions about anything you have read here, or you have tried this and cannot seem to get any results, please email me at the address at the bottom of this page and i will be happy to assist you as best i can.

Love and light be your path.