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Q:   My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and a half,
his parents never liked the idea of it but we did it behind their
back.  They found out from some of our friends a while ago and we
told them we broke up, although we did not.  We still do things
behind their back; It isn't easy though cause we're neighbors, that's
how we met.  Every Friday night we go out and do something if not
more, the whole thing is that I think his parents know.  When he
drops me off at home his parents can see but I don't think they
mention it to him, he also calls me all the time and we caught them
listening to our conversations twice.  It's been hard to do this
knowing we lied to them and everytime I bring up the idea of telling
his parents the truth and trying to get everything settled before he
gets in more  trouble he changes the subject.  I don't want to have
to tell his parent what we've been doing after it's too late or we
get too serious?  How do I get him to understand that it would be
better
A:   THe best way to get him to understand that it would infact be
better to tell him would be to explain the pro's and cons of the
situation.. yes this seems mythodical and stupid but hey lets get
down to basics, because in the end that is all we have. IF he
interupts tell him to shut up and continue. Be as basic as you want
to be, just get the simple message across that telling is better.
Tell him the dire consequenseces if you don't tell his parents and
they get mad.  Tell him that trouble can only start out keeping this
a secret.  The best way to dearm someone with blackmail, is to just
tell everyone.. they can't use common knowledge as black mail.

But remember also that he knows his parents well, some parents let
their children do wrong things, even when they know about them,
because they are hush hush and secret.  Some parents might only get
mad if you tell them.

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