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Question#2

My fiancee slept with another woman three weeks before we got married.
I just found out and it has been 3 years and our first child is on the
way. I love my husband but how can I forgive him for what he did?
Malorie Clemmons of Passaic, New Jersey


Answers

Right now it probably hurts a lot that your husband had an affair while
you were engaged. I'm sure it will take a while for you to fully trust
him again, but consider this: has he been faithful during the three
years you have been married? I'm not trying to justify what he did by 
this, but chances are, he was feeling boxed in by the upcoming wedding,
and he had a last fling by getting things out of his system. That
doesn't make it right, not at all. But if he's been faithful since, 
he'll probably continue to be faithful, especially if he DID get that
last restlessness out of his system. He won't be wondering "What if?"
and thinking about what might have been. The only thing that may heal
the hurt is time. But, especially now that a child is on the way, you
really should make every effort to work through this together. If it
takes a year to forgive him and trust him again, or five years, or ten,
than hang in there for that time. But unless he's still sleeping
around, don't throw away what might be the best thing that ever
happened to either of you: a family.

Good luck,
Len Pallazola- LenPal@bigfoot.com
https://members.tripod.com/~LenPal/


I agree with Len. You must be very angry and upset and hurt right now.
Your husband cheated on you! But you must remember also that you are
carrying a baby and that that baby needs both its mother and its
father. Please remember to keep that baby's best interests at hand.
Give your husband a second chance. If he cheats on you again, neither 
you nor the baby need him living there with you. - Anna Gonzalez



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