Scientific Fact: Opposites
Attract
...The next time
I checked for messages, it was the next morning. "I'm into hockey" was
the reply to me saying I liked basketball. Now, that caught me off guard!
I never knew anyone who liked hockey before! And this girl does, which
clued me in on the fact that she wasn't ordinary, to say the least...
...he seemed so
shocked of me liking hockey. Ah, the normal reaction from most "ordinary"
people, I was already oh-so used to it, so...
...she talked to
me about her favorite team, the Bruins. I was a Celts basketball fan. A
similarity between us, small if not insignificant, but...
...I hated basketball!
No matter what the teams or players...
...so I ended up
asking her about who her favorite hockey player was...
...so I told him!
My favorite Bruin was...
...some guy named
Sweeney!? Never heard of such a person, from what little I knew of hockey
as a general sports fan. She said the first thing she noticed about him
is that he's "such a babe"! Well, at least I knew she was heterosexual...
...but, at this
point in my life, I was starting to realize how little great looks meant
in a guy, I'd had some handsome boyfriends recently who turned out to be
terrible personalities. I did hold the hope that perhaps I may find some
endearing qualities in this guy before meeting him. If I'd get to meet
him. If I'd want to meet him. While I dwelled on that thought, I thought,
for us to even have a remote chance of wanting to meet each other someday,
we'd have to become closer...
...I liked the way
she talked online, especially when it came to things that she had interest
in. Which was, to say, a lot of things, but, hockey was clearly the thing
she could go on and on about. I made a sacrifice, of sorts, to let her
go on and on about hockey, and, a side benefit of it was that I could perhaps
learn more about her than others that weren't willing to talk/hear hockey
with her...
...so I took it
upon myself, being a promoter of the great sport of ice hockey, to tutor
him on the aspects of the sport as well as on my favorite team...
...not only did
she educate me on the points of her team, but of the team I always liked
but never really followed before, the Pens. It couldn't have come at a
better time for me, being pretty disappointed in my favorite basketball
and football teams being underachievers, while "my" hockey team was playing
downright heroically...
...as the days and
conversations went on, I started to learn more and more about this cool
guy: nice to talk to, versatile, funny at times, and, most especially,
the sweetest and coolest soul you could find, in my opinion...
...I liked talking
to this unique girl, though, as the talking online went on, I couldn't
help but wonder about the physical attributes of the person I was getting
closer and closer to as a friend...
...I started to
fall for this guy! I couldn't believe it at the time, but now, in retrospect,
it made perfect sense. I was looking for a great personality first and
foremost, to be the "next one" for me. And, he definitely fit that bill
for me. The only other thing I could possibly ask for was...
...that I became
a hockey fan largely because of her, perhaps entirely because of her, was
pretty shocking! I told her so once, and she seemed proud of me, the way
a teacher is proud of a student doing well. I felt like she had given me
an invisible, but valuable gift...
...I knew then that
he, and I, was ready for the next step...
...then, she started
that sweet bit of conversation...
"You know,
you are so truly nice to talk to : )"
"Hey, thanks!
You're pretty cool to talk to yourself!"
"Would you
be interested in meeting each other in person sometime? You don't have
to if you don't want to, I'd understand."
I sort of held my
breath, hoping that he would want to move on to the "next step", even if
I seemed a bit assertive at the time. I'm the type of person who doesn't
like to waste time when it could be spent doing something wonderful, or
finding something better to do...
If only because
of curiousity, I probably would've accepted. For her, I defnitely accepted,
of course...
"Actually, I think I'd love to go out with you. So, my answer is yes! I'm looking forward to it already."
Meeting Of Fate: Their
First Date!
place: California
Pizza Kitchen, Kahala Mall, Hawaii
time: 7:00 PM, May 15, 1995 I saw him, finally, and he wasn't quite what I imagined... When I first saw her, I was surprised by what I saw, but then, this was my first blind date, after all, and I should've expected to be surprised... ...he surpassed all the expectations I had for him! Though it did feel funny to be walking into CPK with a cute 6'1", 170 pound filipino guy from Waipahu... ...though this pretty Aiea japanese girl's 5'8" 100 lbs frame was definitely the stuff of most guy's dreams, I think... ...I really liked being with him, next to him, talking to him! I felt proud of being there with him, being his date. I, of course, couldn't help but stare at him occasionally while he ate that pizza... ...I never expected myself to like her this much! I especially liked those eyes, the way they looked at me. Me! Of all people! I had to pinch myself to make sure I was dreaming all this, while I watched her eating that chicken salad... ...what did I find out about this guy on that night? That how he acted and behaved in person pretty much mirrored the way he came across online, which was, in a word, magnetic. How magnetic? He even had the waitress serving us that night apparently making a pass at him... ...I just had to ask her about the concepts of "icing" and "offsides" on that night. I got pretty attached to her, in a way. I knew about her many boyfriends, and, being with her made me understand how she had that many. That infectious smile, personality, the whole package. It did throw me a bit to have the waitress asking me if I had a girlfriend, amongst a few other questions... ...the date formally ended after dinner with a handshake, the same way it had begun, really. I liked being with him... ...as we parted, I wondered if we'd be seeing each other again... |
I got online as soon
as I got home, and was a bit disappointed that he wasn't on yet, so I waited
for him...
I went on after
I got out of the shower, and was pretty happy to see that she was already
online...
...I asked hime
if he enjoyed our date...
...and, of course
I did! I then asked her if she didn't find me too ugly...
...the guy has a
paranoia complex or something! Two girls, at least, falling for him in
one night. Hardly what I'd call "ugly"...
...I just had to
make sure, of course, to see what potential there was, if any...
...I asked him if
he thought I was weird in person...
...weird she may
be, but, in a cool way, you know? She sort of brought about a change in
me...
...being with him,
such a nice, down-to-earth, cool guy, made me realize some things, of course...
...and, I felt like
I had to see her, be with her, be "inspired" by her, again...
...he was the one
to ask me out that second time. Asked me out to the ice rink, of all places!
Go figure! I didn't know that I made that kind of impression upon him.
Needless to say, I was more than happy to go on a second date with him.
I then threw him an online "kiss", I don't really know why I did it at
the time! I just did it...
...my first online
"kiss"! I, of course, returned the favor. And, looked forward to that outing
at Ice Palace...
Ending
Something So Right: Their Last Night
We actually had
dinner together first...
We had salisbury steaks at Anna Miller's restaurant, my favorite place to eat... ...I actually don't mind the place, but I thought it was a weird place for one to call a favorite. Most of the menu choices were quite unfamiliar to me, so I just ended up having what she had... ...it felt good, to be with him again, at the place I was most familiar with. There's just something about having a new person with you in familiar surroundings... ...then, after finishing dinner, it was on to the Ice Palace, for the real fun! |
There was something
she didn't know about me yet, which she would eventually find out, to my
chagrin...
He was an awful skater! He was much like a newborn deer, struggling to stay on his feet, falling down quite often. Anguish on his face, jeans getting wet from the ice. My heart went out to him, and I helped him stay upright... ...she grabbed me by the hand, and skated with me holding onto her hand, by her side. I hadn't figured how much the sense of her touch would affect me. I remember the song that started to play as she took my hand, "Red Light Special". I asked her if I could "have this dance" with her... ...I have to admit, skating that "dance" with him around the ice surface, brought a lot of things to my mind. Such as, there's more to the world than just what I "like", or think I like. I didn't like the kind of music that was playing, really, but that experience with him changed my opinion, to a degree. And, you should've seen him skating while I kept him by my side, hand in hand. He suddenly looked so calm, relaxed, and didn't fall from that point on... ...skating around with her, with that cool song playing, made me think of a lot of things. I never though of going ice skating or watching hockey until she came along in my life. And, there I was, skating on ice with this girl only days before I knew only through the computer. Did it make my life better? That remained to be seen, but she showed me what I was missing in my life until now. And, I thought, what else will I end up doing as a result of knowing her? It did make me confident out there on my skates with her holding me. She skated like a figure skater to me... |
After our ice-skating
adventure, I suggested driving out somewhere, to a certain place on the
island of O'ahu...
She suggested driving
out to a place much known among locals for lovers making out in their cars!
I thought, she was certainly being assertive...
...from the moment
I first laid eyes on him, I felt like he could very well be the one I've
been waiting for. Putting him in a situation like that, I thought, would
confirm or deny my suspicions...
...I was thinking
that, as we were sitting in the dark car, talking to each other about things,
that she was testing me. Seeing if I'd succumb to the peer pressure, or
the pressure of the moment, to make her get into something with me, knowing
that it was the "thing" to do there, with other couples doing things in
their cars around us...
...I was hoping
he would be moved to try something, or say something. From my experience,
if two people were meant for each other, it would happen right then and
there. "It" being the feelings of love bubbling to the surface...
I then took her
to my favorite restaurant, Zippy's, for a midnight snack...
I wasn't really hungry at the moment, but, feeling a bit depressed, I agreed, thinking that maybe I'd drown my "sorrows" with food and drink... ...I always loved the chili there, and she opted for the same, reminding me of how I had what she had at dinner earlier... ...I found out whe he liked the chili so much! I never really ate there before, and, it brought to mind the lesson I learned indirectly from him, about having an open mind, and heart... ...I could sense, though, that the way she talked at that point was, in a word, depressing. I didn't know why, but I didn't want to probe. I thought I'd just ask her about it next time... ...I knew that things would go downhill for us from there. Didn't know it for certain, but, my instincts told me that it wasn't going to really click between us as lovers... |
He soon stopped being a basketball fan, and started becoming a hockey freak. He worked so hard at his skating that he was invited to the Sacramento River Rats' tryout camp. He is seemingly always shooting for the apparently unreachable goals in life...
She soon found her true love, who happened to have looks, and a down-to-earth fresh ordinary personality. She almost stopped being a hockey fan, but still is, albeit to a lesser degree. She is looking forward to start working and to settle down to a normal life...