He came into this world weighing only four pounds and twelve ounces, a very small bundle. He was born at home & on the couch in the wee small hours of the morning 2:28 A.M.

Since he was so tiny he had to stay in the hospital until he weighed five pounds and eight ounces, this took a whole month.

A long time to only look and not hold and love. But, we managed and finally he got to come home.

He was a cute baby with blonde curly hair. He grew up in a home with three sisters and managed to get along with them pretty well.

Oh, they had their usual kid fights but, nothing really serious..Going through grade school he didn't care for sports, he did like to spend time helping me in the kitchen.

Today he can out cook all three of his sisters.

Going into high school George was very popular and the phone used to ring off the wall. I didn't pay much attention at first, but, most of the calls were from other young men.

I never ask any questions, because he was dating a girl and went out with her for a long time. When they quit seeing each other, I still didn't ask any questions.

The phone started ringing again, and again it was mostly young men calling. I think it was around the time that he was eighteen or so that he told me he was bisexual.

I will say, being shocked was not what I really felt. I think at the time, I just went numb. I needed time to let all this sink in, believe me, it took awhile.

It wasn't too much later that he finally told me that he was not bisexual and that he was GAY.

He looked at me for awhile and I looked at him, I think I said something like, "ok, if that is what you want."

I didn't know that it had nothing to do with what he wanted, it was the way that it was.

I went through a period of thinking that it must have been something that I did wrong. I finally realized that I had nothing to do with his sexual preference.

I have argued with many people about wether you are born gay or decide to be gay, no one just decides one day that they want to be gay.

You are BORN that way and you can't do anything about it. Finally, I told him, "Well, you were my son before you told me this and I loved you then, you are still my son and I still love you now."

You NEED to love your children no matter what. We never know how long we will have them, so love them no matter what their sexual preference.

I am NOT saying that I agree with him, I am saying that I love him no matter what, THAT is what counts.

Many of Georges' friends were afraid to come out to their parents because they were afraid they would disown them. And, that is exactly what some of their parents did.

I would like to ask a question, "how can you give birth to a child and then disown them because they tell you something that you don't like?" I sure couldn't, I love him, no matter what his sexual preference is, he's MY SON.

If you are a parent and your child has told you that he or she is gay.

STOP for a minute and think before you say something that you might regret for the rest of your life.

If you are "GAY", don't be afraid to tell your parents or at least one of them. You will only make it harder on yourself by trying to keep it a secret, because sooner or later, you HAVE to start telling lies about where you are going or who you are going to see.

After that, it just keeps snow balling until it is way out of control. Wouldn't it be better to tell them yourself, than to have someone else tell them? I sure am glad that my son loved me enough to tell me.

In 1992, George called me with some very bad news, he had CANCER in his Lymph system, other wise known as "Hodgkins Lymphoma." He went through a really rough time. He had Chemo twice and radiation, he lost all his hair and spent many days and nights being very sick.

Not to be, in less that nine months he was out of remission and had to go through the chemo again. And of course, he lost his hair once again.

George finally moved back to Michigan in 1996, I was very happy to see him, and he now had all his hair. He still was not back in remission and he went every month for more tests.

Finally in the fall of 1995 he was in full remission. This means that he is a CANCER SURVIVOR!!!

Thank GOD!

It has been a year since we heard that bit of good news and so far so good.

1-14-2002

UPDATE: George has been in remission for 8 years...Get your checkups--Please!!!!

He still has a lot of medical problems but, he is doing his best to cope, as are the rest of us. He has had 2 back surgeries in 2 years due to a fall on ice at his job.

You just don't know how long you will have your child in your life. DO NOT waste one precious minute, I could have lost my son to CANCER.

How do you think I would have felt if I had disowned him because he had told me that he was Gay?

I would never have been able to forgive myself if that had happened.

Please, think about it, your child is a gift to you, don't push him or her away because you don't like their sexual preference.

Love them unconditionally and, be sure you let them know that you support what ever they do in life.

I just want to let parents know, your child is your child forever, Please do not push them away. You don't know what can or will happen. Read this, and I hope it helps.

LOVE YOUR GAY CHILDREN

Guys and Gals, if you are Gay, please tell your parents. Don't live in a shadow and be afraid, it could lead to really bad and depressing times for you.

Thank you for reading this story about my son, I hope that I have helped someone out there.