The Crisis of Love
(c) Daniel Mars
- 11-18-98
The CRISIS of
LOVE! Men have forgotten how to love women. Women
have learned
to express their love for man through sex, which is not the
same as making
love. I can tell you why this is important. There is a purpose
for the love
between woman and man, a sacred purpose that has nothing to
do with sexual
gratification.
These days, men
and women seek only sexual gratification in their "loving"
relationships.
This satisfaction is usually based upon the desire of the man to
become sexually
aroused, excited, and then to experience orgasm and
ejaculation.
Women have been socially coerced into the role of sexual
performers on
the threat of being labeled "cold" and being ignored by men.
Women have also
been mislead, by men, to believe in the value and power
of orgasms.
Women have taken on the male sexual quest of chasing
excitement and
satisfaction through sexual encounters. Eventually, "lovers"
will realize
that they have been worshiping the false god of orgasm which
will never be
capable of bringing them into spiritual unity and creating a
sustainable
loving relationship..
A woman who remains
true to her essential loving nature, will accept
her man's sexual
orientation, and take pleasure in satisfying him sexually
because she
loves him. Secretly, however, she awaits the day when he will
outgrow such
boyish sexual desires and join her in the full expression of
sacred love.
Since the man has successfully trained her to perform sex for
him, he has
no motive to change. If she is weak and dependent, she will live
a life of quiet
desperation. Eventually, she will withdraw from having sex and
possibly cause
her husband to abandon or redirect his sexual desires.
How many married
couples over 30 years of age do you know who are
truly in love
and live in harmony? Not many, I'll bet. We overlook the
simmering quarrels
and tensions because, well, that's just the way it is when
two or more
people live together. Yes, that is just how it is when a man and
a woman are
not making spiritual love together. When a relationship
involves a woman
deprived of right love making trying to satisfy a
sexually obsessed
man, all they have are brief truces between battles.
There is too
much sexual tension there.
If she is strong
and independent, she may only be willing to wait until she is
30 or so years
of age. She may then decide that she can no longer wait for
her husband
to mature into sacred love. She will leave him and he will not
understand how
he has failed her. She will criticize every part of him, but
she will never
say, "I'm leaving you because you do not know how to make
love!" He would
not understand even if she were that honest.
She can not be
so honest. She has been a guilty partner since she was very
young, a virgin.
She allowed boys to fondle and caress her body, thereby
exciting her
and themselves sexually. She allowed boys to teach her to be an
object of sexual
excitement and gratification. She did not teach boys
about love,
which was her sacred duty.. When she first "fell in love" with
a boy, she quickly
learned that boys are frightened by love. Boys only
understand and
want sex. She chose to use sex to gain power and
control over
boys. Her relationship with her girl friends changed from
supportive to
competitive as the boys rewarded the sexy girls with their
attention and
favors. At a young age she had already contributed to the
continuation
of the crisis of love. How could she possibly openly criticize her
husband for
his lack of understanding when she has been a willing partner
for so many
years. It's too embarrassing !
There is a fundamental
reason why so many couples break up. How can a
couple after
five, ten or more years of sharing their lives suddenly decide
that they are
not compatible? That is absurd ! What possesses them to
divide whatever
they have built together, deprive their children of a loving
home, and turn
into mortal enemies? Only the Crisis of Love.
If a woman and
a man know how to create love, they will become
precious to
each other and inseparable.
A man who is
not enjoying sex at home will go outside the home and
marriage for
sex. Usually, he retreats to a fantasy world, stimulated by
pornography,
or auto-erotic fantasies. Sometimes he will establish a sexual
relationship
outside the marriage, although this can be very difficult and a
bigger problem
than a solution.
A man can find
sexual gratification without love and he can maintain his
marriage and
family commitments with a minimal expression of love. Even
though his essential
spiritual nature desires to love a woman. He simply does
not know how
because he has not been spiritually initiated into the sacred
circle of love
in his adolescence.
Most divorces
are initiated by women either in the courts or in the bed.
A woman can
have sex without love, but she wants love more deeply than
sex. If her
relationship provides only sex, she will want and wait for love
because she
is not satisfied with sex alone. Unlike her husband, she can live
quite well without
sex. When she can no longer wait for her man's love, she
estranges him.
She prefers to live alone or without a man until she finds love.
She waits for
love.
There is a real
love that a man and woman can make. We have only
to remember
how to make it.
What keeps man
from loving woman in the way that she desires to be
loved? Why is
woman unable to teach man about love? Is it too late to
change all this?
Can the Crisis of LOVE be resolved? Can men and women
reclaim their
ability to engage in right loving? What is the purpose for love?
How would your
world change once this purpose is re-discovered?
Your willingness
to believe in positive change and your understanding of
some very basic
principles will surely alter your life experience on many
levels. Understanding
the physical, emotional and spiritual purposes of the
love between
man and woman will possibly improve your life experience.
No one is too
young or too old to have this knowledge.
Sadly, of those
who have read thus far, only a precious few will be willing to
inquire further.
Please, share
your thoughts with me... send e-mail to mars@mystars.com
If you are willing,
I can show you how to love rightly. Both women and men
will find this
information infinitely valuable.
Best Regards,
Daniel Mars
mars@mystars.com