There are many e-mail lists for members of the LDS
church. There are also many e-mail lists for women who are in or
have been in abusive relationships. However, there was not one single
list that provided support for LDS women who are currently in, or who have
been in abusive relationships. For this reason, I wanted to create
one.
"This is a list for LDS women who have experiences,
or are currently
experiencing spousal abuse in some form. It
can be
emotional, physical, sexual, or psychological.
If you are fearful of the possibility of your
spouse reading
messages from this list, or finding out you
are on such a
list you are encouraged you to get a private,
and free
e-mail account separate and apart from the one
you and
your spouse have access to.
The purpose of this list is to help sisters in
these situations
to feel they are not alone. Hopefully there
will be
occasional posts with official information from
different
members on the list from time to time to keep
us focused.
I have found a scripture that I feel inspired
should be the
theme of this list.
**Ether 12:27
And if men come unto
me I will show unto them their
weakness. I give unto
men weakness that they may be
humble; and my grace
is sufficient for all men that
humble themselves before
me; for if they humble
themselves before me
and have faith in me, then will I
make weak things become
strong unto them.**
I feel this scripture states that our weakness,
being trial of
living in an abusive situation, is given to
us to make us
strong. I feel we can strengthen each other
by coming
together and offering support in this way. It
is my humble
wish that we can all become stronger because
of our
situations and with the help of each other are
able to
continue in strength.
With all that behind us.. the basic guidelines
are:
1. please start off with an introduction and
the
background of your circumstances. It doesn't
have to be
right away. You can lurk for a bit (after you
are added of
corse) and decide if this is something for you.
Once you
decide to stay please introduce yourself. I
encourage you
to keep a copy of every introduction you receive
to help
you get to know all on the list. This will also
help us get to
know you.
2. This is not a list where flaming can be tolerated
under
any circumstances. The reason being many have
such
fragile spirits already that they can't take
any flames. I
must remain firm on this. What constitutes as
a flame is
as follows.
A. Name Calling
B. Deliberate attempts to demean the other
C. Accusations or public (meaning to all on list)
slaughtering of the other that have no basis
for fact.
I'm hoping that We will never have to worry about
any of
the above. This is why I'm not being any more
specific.
Its highly possible that someone will have had
a bad day
and miss-interpret the words of another.
3. No forwarding the messages you receive to
any other
list. The reason for this is there is a possibility
that the
privacy of the members of this list can be violated
and
messages can be returned to them from members
not on
this list.
4. No badgering the person to leave their situation.
The
purpose of this list is to help the woman empower
herself
and make the decision to leave or stay on her
own. If she
asks our opinion we give it and let her make
the decision
based upon prayer.
It's my sincere hope that this list will be only
helpful and
spiritual, and a support to all on it.
Sincerely,
If you are interested in being on this list, please
contact me by clicking on my name. I will send you more info.
When sending me a request for info, please include a brief discription
of your circumstances. I ask this because privacy on this list is
my top priority and I want to take every precaution to avoiding vengeful
husbands/boyfriends from comming onto the list under false pretenses.
I hope you all understand this .
