I mentioned on the phone to my mom today that I've started going to church.
I'm not going to post what was said, but she did mention that the thing that
turned her off the church (she went for awhile as a girl) was when she was a
waitress. She served a drunken customer who then mentioned he had to sober
up because he had to go to church shortly. She said that she realized she
was a more moral person than this Christian, so what good was religion?
Fly on the Wall posted something similar recently on the Community Board ("I
was without sin for years," 9/19) where he stated:
"I expected these [church-going] kids to be good, they had been
indoctrinated in all sorts of high pressure 'be good or go to Hell and
here's how you do it'. They were not good, they did not respect authority,
they revelled in wickedness. I was more good than they were and I had been
to church [only] twice."
So, here we have two examples of non-religious people being convinced that
they did not need Christianity based on the bad behavior of Christians.
These "sinning Christians" convince non-believers that Christians are
hypocrites. "Christians behaving badly" are like negative advertisements for
Christianity.
I remember in high school a friend talking about a fellow student, saying
"She calls herself a Christian, but then she commits fornication." We
apparently like to see smug Christians taken down a peg or two, proving them
hypocrites.
We might like to think that Christians would not behave badly, not fall,
that they would adhere to a higher standard and be a shining example to all.
We would like to be positive advertisements for our religion. But it seems
to me that being a Christian is all about struggling to attain an impossible
standard for we humans to achieve, that of the sinless and perfect Jesus
Christ. It's impossible, yet we try to do it anyway, and are regularly
failing.
Some Christians believe that we really don't have to try to be like Jesus,
that believing He is God is enough. That Jesus walked every step for us
already so that we don't have to. Does it matter to such Christians that
they commit sins, as long as they confess it? For some reason, I'm reminded
of the parable of the guest who showed up for the wedding but didn't bother
to wear wedding attire, who was thrown out into the street as a result. Is
it enough to say "yes, I accept" without showing by your actions that you
really mean it?
Jesus said that he came for the sick, not the well. Since we are all
sinners, none of us are well. Perhaps the difference between a non-believer
and a Christian, who both largely succeed in being moral people, is that the
Christian knows how inadequete and sinful he really is, for he has Christ as
his standard. The non-believer may judge the drunken church-goer with a
superior attitude, whereas the Christian knows that we are all sinners.
Christians believe that Jesus covered our sins on Judgment Day, not erased
our sinful natures in the here and now.
To practical people like my mom, the here and now is basically all there is.
If Christianity doesn't keep us from still being sinners, what good is it?
In my opinion, Christianity offers us (in addition to salvation in the
afterlife) a higher standard for human behavior. By listening to Jesus'
words in the Bible, we can learn how to be better people right now, which is
better than having no such guide. Or, as Jesus put it, "The man who walks in
the dark does not know where he is going." (John 12:35) The Bible does
provide a guide for moral behavior for practical-minded people. If
Christians are not always able to adhere to the guide, that is more a
reflection of fallible human nature rather than their religion being
worthless.
Christians are said to be hypocrites because they condemn sinful behavior
and then might engage in it themselves. But are non-believers really more
likely to not commit such sins? The Christian at least condemns the sin. We
Christians say "love the sinner, hate the sin." The message that the
non-believer sends, by labeling the fallible Christian a hypocrite, is
"condemn the Christian sinner more harshly than the sin itself."
Non-believers would be better people by listening to Jesus, who said: "If
any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone." (John
8:7) Next time you want to put down a Christian for stumbling, I hope you
remember those words of Christian compassion. If you really value high moral
standards, then don't trash those who fall short.
And we Christians should try hard to be role models for Christianity.
Christians who don't practice what they preach suggest to non-believers that
Christianity is a sham, a joke, a clubhouse of hypocrites. Think how many
more Christians there would be if more Christians acted like Christians are
supposed to.
Jesus said, "As I have loved you, so must you love one another. By this all
men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another." (John 13:
34-35) Wouldn't it be great if more Christians sent such a positive
impression of their faith to others? That people would know immediately that
we are Christians because of our love of others (2nd greatest commandment
according to Jesus)?
Or would it make a difference?