I like tradition, I don't like traditions being broken. 
Thanksgiveing - Mom's vs. Social Hall at Mom's church
Christmas - Everyone at Mom's or Diane's vs. small groups of people at whoever's house.
Birthdays - three days to spend with close family, extended family and friends vs. one or two hours with whoever cares to show up.
4th of July - Lodi Lake with all the family vs. a quick BBQ at Mom's and going home.

Maybe I just expect too much.  I know we can't do much at Mom's because she doesn't feel good, but it just feels like nobody wants to deal with family anymore.  If I did get a huge house and I wanted to have stuff every holiday, I don't even know if everyone would come.  I mean even extended family.  Even the cousins who live up in the hills.  I hated being around them when I was younger because I thought they were talking about me behind my back or judging me.  God knows I judged myself bad enough back then, why shouldn't they?  I no longer care if they judge me as long as they stay in touch.