Coming Out:
God said that 53% of all men and women around the whole world have tried sex with someone of the same sex, voluntarily. Not everybody enjoyed or ever wanted to do it again, but they are now more certain what their sexuality is.
For many people the pressure from family and community is so great that they find it hard to decide what their sexuality is.
Some indicators which may help people decide what their own sexuality is:
- Have you found that you have enjoyed prolonged looks at the naked or part naked bodies of others in change rooms and showers after a sporting activity.
- To watch (alone) about 20 minutes of a gay or Lesbian porno (depending which one is appropriate for you) and then follow it with 20 minutes of a straight porno. Take particular notice of the emotional and physical effect on yourself. Because there is no such person as 100% gay or straight, you will have a reaction to both. Be honest, as being biased may have a lifetime effect on your children. For the Bisexual the difference may not be distinguishable.
- Looking at nude pictures may also cause an emotional or physical response.
The higher level of emotional and physical response is still only an indicator as to your sexuality. When you are not in a relationship (otherwise you are committing adultery) and the indicator is for the sexuality other than your present one, look for a possible partner, whom you would like to make a commitment with, if they feel interested in you and you both agree to express your feelings sexually, then do so. This will enable you to confirm your sexuality. If the other person is not a possible desire of yours for a relationship then you will still not be completely sure of your sexuality.
When you decide! It will be difficult to "come out" to family and friends. It is important to take note how difficult it is, because by coming out you put the person or people you just told "in the closet or place you have been in". In that they now have to decide how and if they will tell their friends and family, they have to now decide if they can "come out" about you.
An explosive or violent reaction is definitely a non coping reaction on the part of the other person. They may react against you, just to try and make their own position easier.
The churches have made these situations worse by their usurping God's authority and saying God is wrong: when the church says that same sex relationships are wrong. Most community opinions and family reactions are strongly influenced by religious teachings, NOT GOD's TEACHINGS.
What made me gay!
God didn't. Nobody is born gay!
Nobody is gay because of their biological family!
Nobody is gay because they are sexually touched as an older child or teen!
Nobody becomes gay because they had a same sex experience!
The only way a person can be gay is following a confusing environment about male and female roles during the first few years of their life. Psychological research keeps falling short of supporting this fact, because they use to small samples and do not use sufficient variances in their samples.
The confusion does not make a person gay, but the confused state of mind is the only environment in which the change can occur. The change is only ever made by Satan (one of the names for the head of all evil) as he chooses. For this reason two children who grow up in the same environment can end up being very different because of their sexuality. One becomes gay and the other remains straight.
The child has no choice in what happens, and the change is NOT REVERSIBLE. The change is only possible before the child reaches 7 years of age, and does not start to become aware to the child until they become sexually aware, just prior to puberty.
Because God knows who is to blame, and that it is never the choice of the person to change, he punishes Satan as he is the only person at fault.
As a result God decided that the same rules for heterosexual relationships would apply to homosexuals.
That is:
- Only monogamous relationships.
- No casual or group sex.
- No additional sexual interest and expression outside of the relationship, even if both people agree.
- No sexual expression or relationships between close relatives, natural or adopted.
In addition God has clearly defined what is not wrong, (church rules and teachings, plus laws of every country do not make wrong what God has said is not wrong):
- Possessing and looking at pictures, videos, etc which show partial or total nudity and/or sexual acts between same or opposite sex partners.
- Possessing or taking pictures of young adults who are sexually aware (from 10 - 14 yo, so any pictures taken of a child not yet sexually aware is the responsibility of the photographer) that is for all children over 14 years of age. These pictures may be solo or in sexual expression with a person they would like to consider making a commitment with.
- A relationship between any two people who are sexually aware and older. The sexual expression between these two people when they see the other person as a desirable partner to make a commitment to is good, and any child born to that relationship is pure and blessed by the Lord God. The age difference is not relevant.
- The relationship between the two people prior to their commitment is not relevant. For example a teacher/student; youth worker/youth; nurse/patient; doctor/patient; employer/employee. God looks at every situation separately, and looks at the commitment and the individual choice of each person.
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