SOBER JOE'S STORY
Well time to 'fess up. I not only feel I have to tell this I want to tell it !!!!!
First of all I am going to show you my pic so you know who you are talking to. As a matter of fact I will show you a sober Joe and a not so sober Joe, it's amazing how different they are !!!!.
SOBER JOE
NOT SO SOBER JOE AND FRIEND ?
WHO NEEDS THESE FRIENDS ?
Well I am a professional man of 50+ years, (you will have to guess the plus, have to keep someting secrett) divorced (what else) with 2 beautiful children whom are adults now.I come from a long line of alcoholics (genes ?) My father his 2 brothers.On my mothers side an uncle who died of pancreatic disease (booze induced) about 3 years ago at the age of 50.
When I was 5 my mother left my father after much abuse and frustration. I was terribly ashamed of my father when I saw him drunk and I vowed to NEVER do that. But Lo and behold !!!!! as soon as I could lift a glass I was a drunk !!!
Still can't understand that. At first my drinking was sporadic amd I managed to fake my way up to graduation from college. With the usual BS college students do. I was a fair haired man, a profession, young and not so ugly !!!!!!
I of course married the girl I wanted and we started a family, at first going out to play golf or whatever and coming home drunk was a lark, a manly thing. Until it became a habit and I got abusive . Alcohol turned me into a totally different man. I will admit she put up with a LOT of BS. But of course she eventually divorced me and got out of hell !!!!!!! My professional practice is very lucrative, actually I am a dentist, but it could have been 5 times more lucrative if I had not been hungover so many days !!!!!!! And canceled out.Still one way or another It was still ok and gave me enough to burn the candle on both ends. Which I did with a vengeance, armed with the loneliness excuse.
At this time I was still in denial, who me ? of course not !!!!!!! until I did all the stupid things we all do, auto accidents, went to jail, lost my car, fell in the pool etc.
At this point I was about 40 and I had about 3 or 4 relationships which all ended the same way. I was a charmer when sober and godzilla when drunk !!!!! Until I met a woman who was a also an alcoholic and drug addict to boot, her co-dependence was fabulous. And We destroyed ourselves. And guess what ? I left her !!!!!!!!
At this time I saw an Ad in the paper about AA, I always considered AA sort of a mission for bums and derilects, but I went and what a surprise !!!!! All kinds of nice decent people willing to help. I stayed 9 months that year, but relapsed. But I knew it worked. I was in and out of AA for the nezt 5 years. I usually went to a bar to have a couple after meetings !!!!!!! I thought I was going to be a "social drinker", it worked for awhile 'till I was back at square one.
I went to meetings but never really worked the program, I was much too "cool" , 'till at a meeting I met a man who had gone to grammar school with me, 20 years of sobriety !!!!! And still went to meetings 3 or 4 times a week. Impressed me very much, and I asked him to be my sponsor. Well he made SOBER JOE !!!!!!!
I am lonely as hell now, had to leave all my drinkin buddies change my lifestyle, WORK, but I am feeling the change in every fiber of my body. It is marvelous !!!!!!! to wake up on a sunday morning feeling good and not like I went through the rinse cycle LOL. No women YET but now I feel I have something to offer. Not a sick drunk.
I promised myself that if I did it, well up to now, I was going to make a site on the web to help others. I wanted to make a site with frames, and all the bells and whistles, but alas I don't know how. So I am making a hodge-podge of stuff in a most primitive way. I went to school to learn this program. And eventually I will be able to make a cool page.But for now you will have to peruse the table of contents and click on what you like. There is some good stuff I have "borrowed", some is reduntant but valuable. I would appreciate all input, contributions of matarial and of course money to help with the phone bill, suggestions, ideas, constructive criticism, whatever !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My e-mail address is on the home page, if anybody asks I will break anonymity and give you my name and address.
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