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Executive Committee Minutes of Chapter Meeting, June 22, 2002 An Expression of Profound Gratitude, by Jane Ellen Fairfax Rosemary's Secret Garden. by Rosemary McQueen You Have Got To Be Kidding, by Marsha Edwards pH Balanced, by Rachel Rene Boyd Dear Ann, by Julie Maverick Advantages of Having A Crossdressing Husband Ask Miss Chatelaine, No One Feels Blue When Shopping
From the Editrix Dear Sisters, I had a lovely dinner with our dear sister Grace recently. She continues her recovery. She is now working a couple of days a week and recently enjoyed a cruise to Alaska with Mary Jo. She is already hard at work on her presentation for Chi Epsilon Sigma’s fifth anniversary next March, called "Some of My Best Friends are Crossdressers." It should be a great fun remembering, we’ve come a long way, baby! Rachel Rene Boyd
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Rebecca Adams , Chairpersonbeckyxd@hotmail.com |
Linda Sullivan , Spouse Representativelinda_sullivan51@hotmail.com |
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Marsha Edwards, Vice Chairpersonmarshaedwards@aol.com |
Mary Alice Barrett , Membership*zoom@paonline.com |
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Grace Gardener , Secretary/Treasurergrace-gardener@home.com Ashley Grants, Webmistress* ashley_grants@hotmail.com |
Rachel Rene Boyd , Newsletter Editrix*rrboyd@aol.com
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*Non-voting members
Most regular chapter meetings are held on the third or fourth Saturday of each month. Sometimes adjustments are made for holidays, so always consult The Wild Rose for the latest updates. The current schedule is: July 27 Family-style (drab) picnic at a private residence. August 24 Lawn Party (en femme) at a private residence. September 28 Presentation by Dr. Kate Thomas on the history and analysis of crossdressing as indicated through recent research and study…much has happened in the past four years! October 26 Halloween—our patron saint’s day! November 16 A Night at the Movies! December 14 Holiday Dinner (en femme) (location and times to be announced) January 25 A Visit from Heather on Nail Care February 22 Valentine’s Day March 22 Presentation by Grace on the History of the Chapter—5th Anniversary April 26 Fashion Show May 17 Election of Officers/Clothing Auction June 28 A Visit from Heather on Cosmetics for Summer Time Wear
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Present at the June meeting were Kay and Nancy Pryor, Danielle, Janet, Maureen, Terri Lynn, Becky Leight, Mary Alice, Ellen Warren, Barbara Van Horn, Pat, Pat Hayes, Marsha and Doneene.
While the new President, Marsha, was a nervous wreck, no one noticed her fear as she had to tell everyone to be quiet and the meeting was now to begin. Everyone was snacking from the food table and socializing from chicken to delicious bread pudding and excellent fruit salad. Why was Marsha nervous? This was her first time to be a chairperson and run the show. The other part of her fear was that Becky Adams was not there, although Terri Lynn stayed close to assist. Thank you Terri Lynn for helping me and giving me the encouragement that was so desperately needed.
The meeting started at 7:30 with a discussion on "How to Tell Your Wife You Are A Crossdresser, And How Not To Tell." Kay started off with a story of how she told her wife and had no problem. As the discussion went around the room, there were sad stories. Danielle's story was one that really stuck in my mind. Barbara Van Horn's statement about when we pass on to heaven and the Good Lord says "I gave you a gift, what did you do with it?" That will really get you thinking. The discussion lasted a very fast two hours and most of us are still thinking about the comments from our sisters.
The meeting ended at 9:30 and socializing continued until approximately 11:00. Following the meeting a few of us went to the sports bar, and would invite others to join us in the future.
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From: JEFTRIS@aol.com
To: beckyxd@hotmail.com
Subject: An expression of profound gratitude.
Date: Sun, 9 Jun 2002 17:30:11 EDT
Dear Becky,
We have received here at Tri-Ess headquarters a box containing a most precious cargo. Inside it were several books, and 64 issues of "Transvestia," including some of the first ever published! From the return address, all I could tell was that they came from Chi Epsilon Sigma. This is apparently an anonymous donation by one of your members, and I feel a need to express my profound gratitude for such a wonderful gift.
I have been a member of Tri-Ess for many years, but the burdens of building our programs have kept me from learning as much as I would like about our origins and early development. When I lay down the mantle of my leadership, I intend to write a thorough history of Tri-Ess, and offer the book to our Society for distribution to our new members when they join. Far in the future, Tri-Ess will celebrate its centennial anniversary. By then we will have had several new generations of leaders who will have built on the foundations of the past. I want to assure that those future generations of Tri-Ess brothers and sisters will be aware of the proud origins from which they came.
This magnificent gift will go far toward making this project a reality. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Love,
Jane
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By
Rosemary McQueen
When I was about twelve or thirteen years of age I was already a crossdresser. I looked like a girl to many people and I had blond hair and blue eyes. I loved borrowing my sister’s clothes and wearing them when everyone was out. This seldom happened so I thought of another plan. We lived near thick woods that I loved to roam through. In the early spring, I tapped the sugar maples for their sweet maple sap. Then after collecting about twenty gallons I would build a fire and boil off the water until there was syrup left. I did this in a cast iron ham boiler and the taps that I used were made from elderberry bush stems. I used my sleigh to carry the container that held the sap that I collected from each tree every morning before school.
When late spring and summer arrived, I loved to venture through the woods that had a variety of birds and animals such at deer, rabbits, ground hogs, pheasants etc. There was a spring in one place that was hidden by the thick trees and bushes. It was no more than six feet in diameter with a depth of about eighteen inches at the center. There were frogs in the spring and the water was crystal clear. It was very pretty with the wild flowers and ferns. There were tiny sugar sweet wild strawberries in addition to blackberries and blueberries. The aroma of the wild flowers was intoxicating. One day I felt very feminine so I decided that the next morning I would take my pink woolen skirt and pink satin blouse that I had been hiding in a box in the attic. These were some of the clothes that were given to my sister by a cousin. I rose early the next morning and took my femme clothes wrapped up under my arm and proceeded to the woods. No one noticed me because it was early in the morning and the mist was rising from the grass and bushes. I got to the area where the spring was and removed my clothes. I then put on a pair of girls panties followed by my pink satin blouse and pink woolen skirt. This was my Secret Garden and I was all by myself and dressed as a girl. What a nice pleasant feeling! I brought my dog named Blacky who was a mixed breed female with a black coat and tan legs with a white chest. When I sat down on a patch of moss she would lay down next to me with her head on my lap. This was like being in Heaven and I felt in tune with God and nature.
I did this many times before my mother got up early one morning and noticed that I was missing. When I arrived home she asked me where I had been and I told her that I had been to my Secret Garden. I chose the name Rosemary for myself because my real first name began with Ro and so did Rosemary, but I didn’t tell her that. I loved that place in the woods, but unfortunately, it had to come to an end. One day the tree cutters and bulldozers arrived to destroy this beautiful place forever and replace it with many ugly buildings. This beautiful piece of heaven remains only in my memory, as does my dog, Blacky.
Some years later when I was a member of the crew of a large aircraft carrier off of the coast of North Korea, enemy planes were attacking us again so we went to our battle stations. In the little room where I worked that was below the water line and inside of several watertight doors and hatches we waited in silence. I thought about home, my family and my dog, Blacky. I remembered Rosemary’s Secret Garden and how I would love to be there if the developers, politicians, and bankers had not destroyed it. Soon the announcement came that our planes had chased away the communist planes, thankfully we returned to our normal ship’s activities.
After the war was over and I was back home attending college, my dog Blacky became ill so my father and I rushed her to a veterinarian. She seemed to have revived, but when we brought her back home, she died in my arms. There will always be a place in my heart for Rosemary’s Secret Garden and my dog Blacky. I still think of that serene woodland place, where I could dress as a girl, whenever I feel stressed or disturbed. I have owned many dogs, cats and even a horse, but the death of each one is just as sad for me as all the others. I expect to see them again when I make my final exit from this world.
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Marsha Edwards
As most of you know I LOVE SHOES and I had a twenty-five dollar gift certificate to a shoe warehouse. Naturally I went dressed as Marsha. How else does one try on ladies shoes?
As I was walking around looking at shoes minding my own business, I noticed a Baltimore County policeman standing by the check out counters. I thought nothing of it at the time, but then I started thinking that they could have called the police on me. NO, they wouldn't do that. As I continued looking at shoes, I had moved three or four isles and found a pair I really liked. As I sat to try the shoes on, I glanced down the end of the isle to find the policeman watching me. He was standing with his arms folded in front of him just watching me. This made me a bit uncomfortable. I tried them on, they did not fit, and he was still watching me. It got to the point that I wasn't going to take any more. WHAT SHALL I DO?
So I picked up my purse and strutted myself right down the isle to him with a smile on my face. As I got closer I found him to be a security guard and not a county policeman. I walked up to him and asked him if he was watching me. His comment was, "No, I am watching everybody." I disclosed the fact that I am a crossdresser and have no intention of causing any problems to anyone. He said that was fine and he had no problem with that. What a sigh of relief! I said thank you and turned to walk away. As I turned, he said, "I always say hi to a sister." After I practically fell over from surprise, my next comment was,
YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING!
We talked for about five minutes. Her name is Rachel and I told him a little about Tri-Ess. That just goes to show you how small the world is.
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Rachel Rene Boyd
Isn’t it amazing what we learn as crossdressers? Things most people would never notice, or even care about. Take deodorants, for example.
For years I have shaved my underarms in the winter, and then let them grow out during the summer swimming season. I use women’s deodorant in the winter, because it doesn’t irritate the recently shaved skin. In the summer I switch back to men’s deodorant, because it seems to do better on hairy underarms. But I never knew why.
Now I’ve learned that women’s deodorant is designed to have a pH near that of the skin itself. Men’s deodorant, however, is designed to work in a slightly more acidic environment. Apparently the hair itself causes perspiration to become more acidic and more odiferous. Men’s deodorant is buffered to neutralize the acidic perspiration.
So when you hear a women’s deodorant is "pH balanced for a woman’s skin", it’s not just marketing hype.
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Dear Ann
Julie Maverick
Last month, we lost a friend and confidant. Ann Landers, a.k.a Eppie Lederer, has moved to the great beyond, with many writers and many media sources offering praise to the great writer of advice columns. I won’t try to duplicate their efforts. I came to bury Ann, not to praise her.
However, as we all know, her legacy directly affects our groups of sisters. Once a year, rain or shine, Ann Landers posted an article about men who crossdress and the women who love them.
Usually, the article centered on a spouse or girlfriend who discovers their man’s habit and is concerned and uncomfortable. Ann followed with a short paragraph that crossdressing was not abnormal, that most crossdressers were heterosexual, stable, loving, and sensitive. The
remainder of the article comprised letters from satisfied women who had come to terms with their husband’s or boyfriend’s desires, usually in terms of a rich and satisfying relationship.
Of course, life ain’t that simple. We all are familiar with the complexities, heartbreak, accusations, deceptions, uncertainties, quandaries, and errors of judgment common to crossdressers and the
women of their lives. This made Ann Landers’ contribution that much greater. Every year, she related to the world the best of our community in terms that were clear, endearing, and heartfelt. She dismissed those who wrote to her of perversion. She told many women they should come to
terms with their own discomfort in dealing with their spouse of friend. She also supported women who were accepting of their partner’s desires, but were frustrated by their lack of sense in spending beyond their means.
Ann Landers’ straightforward and unflinching support of our community was precious. She was the voice of middle America. She was not only a voice of reason, she was arguably most widely published and quoted writer in the U.S. Her opinions mattered on refrigerator doors and office corkboards. In terms of media impact, only Phil Donahue could compete. We shall miss her, and may have a long wait before we find as potent and sympathetic voice.
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Advantages of Having A Crossdressing Husband
1. YOU have a live in cosmetologist.
2. If he wears a skirt it's easy access.
3. He always envies you because he would rather be wearing what you are wearing.
4. You can have a girlfriend as well as a boyfriend who doesn’t mind waiting while you take your time shopping.
5. You can double your wardrobe if he's the same size as you!
6. You never have to worry about cheating on you with another woman. He IS the other woman!!
7. You always have a girlfriend to go shopping and have lunch with!!
8. He'll NEVER object to being a clothes dummy and wearing a dress while you hem it.
9. While shopping, you can test a new shade of nail polish on him and he doesn't complain or asks to see a matching lipstick.
10. He'll rarely have that scratchy five o'clock shadow.
11. He'll never ask you to have a threesome with another woman as long as he can wear the lingerie.
12. He will be sympathetic about your excess body hair.
13. He won't tear your lingerie when removing it from you.
14. He won't mind waiting on you or your girlfriends and he won't forget to curtsey.
15. If you need a slip for that new dress you bought and he happens to have the perfect one, and lets you borrow it.
16. You can switch off wearing the high heels while on a long shopping spree.
17. A man in a dress makes a good cook.
18. He loves to smell perfume and will give you an honest opinion.
19. You can test a new shade of lipstick on him.
20. If you purchase something for your home, it won't be too feminine.
21. At least the toilet seat will be down.
22. He is a lot easier to buy gifts for.
23. He knows just the right way to make love, takes his time and knows just what makes you tick!
24. He will understands that the best thing a girl can have when she is feeling down is a new clothes.
25. If he buy's you clothes, you know he sizes them right.
26. You can take him to the hair salon with you and he will sit quietly while you both get your hair done and he will never complain. In fact he will thank you.
27. The only time he will ever care if you wear curlers to bed is if he has to wear the oversized rollers.
28. He understands why you don't care for spending 8 hours a day in pantyhose and high heels.
29. Never complains about leaving delicate underwear out to dry.
30. You have a girlfriend who doesn't get PMS.
31. He will not only shop with you but pay the bill as well!
32. He knows how to handle delicates when he does the laundry.
33. Satin and velvet are more snuggly than denim and wool.
34. He understands the need for quality cosmetics.
35. You have even more excuses to go shopping, and he will even carry the bags.
36. You can borrow his jewelry, clothes & makeup.
37. He understands why you go through so many pairs of stockings.
38. He no longer expects you to get ready for a night on the town in 15 minutes or less.
39. The world needs more feminists in lipstick.
40. You can take the Cosmo quizzes together.
41. You can ask him how an outfit looks, and get an intelligent response.
42. His new friends don't spend all day watching football.
43. He knows to walk slowly when you're wearing heels.
44. If he says "Hon, you look nice." you know he really means it.
45. He can spot makeup smudges better than any other guy can.
46. He's like having a live in cosmetologist.
47. He loves to go shopping with you and watch you try on clothes.
48. He knows how to treat a lady with care, sensitivity and respect.
49. He's a girl friend that will stick around and won't flake out on you or stab you in the back.
50. He loves to dress up and have long chat sessions.
51. You can have a threesome without adding another partner.
52. If you've ever been bi-curious you can experiment a little.
53. You know one of you will have a tissue with you when you need it.
54. Dress him up in a French Maid's Uniform and you have a house cleaner for the day.
Source:
http://www.geocities.com/WestHollywood/Parade/5117/cdhumor/xdressadvantage.txt
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No One Feels the Blues Shopping
Dear Miss Chatelaine:
Q: Ever get the blues?
D. Pressed, Erie
Dear De: Miss Chatelaine is not immune from feeling down now and then, but she perks right up when she can wear something blue. Hollywood stars Charlotte Ross and Garcelle Beauvais-Nilon (who are these people, anyway?) were recently seen wearing cool shades of turquoise, which evoke feelings of make-believe and fantasy. Amen to that, sisters. Turquoise looks good on almost every skin tone, by the way. Keep that in mind when shopping for the gala gowns this year.
Q: Did Laura Stone from Buffalo ever visit you?
P. Dresser, Erie
Dear Pam:
Miss Chatelaine spent a wonderful day with Laura Stone during her brief visit to South Florida. We spent a couple of hours chatting at a coffee shop/bakery in Wilton Manors, Fla., which is owned by the city’s gay mayor. We then had a few drinks at a nightclub before enjoying a wonderful dinner at Mustard’s Grill. The only negative: It rained much of the day, which it has been doing a lot of late in the not-so-sunny Sunshine State.
Q: What’s the latest about a crossdressing event in South Florida?
J. Naugle, Fort Lauderdale
Dear Mayor:
Don’t hold your breath, Jim. One of the people who was hot about the idea has now backed out, citing financial reasons. Miss Chatelaine thinks it would still work, but for now, all plans are on hold. Something in the way of an event similar to Lake Erie Gala might be possible for winter 2004, but that’s a long way off, girls.
Q. Any plans this summer?
B. Ellis, Ohio
Dear Barb:
Like all girls, Miss Chatelaine hopes to stay as cool as possible, not an easy feat in Florida. Otherwise, nothing too special is planned. I’ll keep you posted!
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Miss Chatelaine is a feature of Mirror Images, the newsletter of Erie Sisters Transgender Support Group. Visit them at www.eriesisters.org, or email your own questions to Miss Chatelaine at miss@eriesisters.org.
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