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Born to be wild - live to outgrow it.
Doug Horton
The inner child can be defined in many ways:
| It is who we were at various stages of our childhood. As we grew into
adulthood, this part of the psyche remained unchanged. The inner child is still
the same person that we were. |
| It is the assortment of elements that have remained in our designs since
childhood. In all of our experiences, at any age, we leave a deposit of the
elements, thoughts, images, energy tones, and habits that we created during our
encounters with designs. The inner child is not a design itself, instead, it is
an accumulation of related elements that linger within various designs. If we
had a fear of water when we were a child, that fear lingers within the
corresponding design. We have more than one inner child because at different
ages, we had different attributes and experiences, and so we have different
thoughts, images, energy tones, and habits. Each of these inner children has
different qualities and needs, reflecting the changes and development that we
were undergoing at that time.
| It is a subpersonality. A subpersonality is
merely a personification of a
design or group of design elements that is somewhat analogous to a complex.
| It can be viewed as a part of a family in the psyche. Eric Berne
described three parts of the psyche, the parent, adult, and child. These
identities can be in conflict. The parent may insist that we work more hours
in order to perfect a project, but the child wants us to go home to relax.
| The child is the part of us that remains, from our real childhood,
the childlike qualities of creativity, playfulness, and spontaneous
feelings. |
| The parent is the part of us that dictates rules by which it wants us
to live. Many of these rules are the same ones that our actual parents
imposed on us during childhood. |
| The adult
is the part of us that is the decision maker, the problem
solver, and the mediator between the parent and child. The adult is
similar to the ego.
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The inner child influences us.
This is the same dynamic by which
all design elements influence us. When we encounter a design, we generate
thoughts, images, energy tones, and actions, to respond to that design. If we
are guided by intuition, those elements are appropriate in dealing with the
dynamics, and so they discharge all of their charge and all that remains are a
record of the elements, as a reference for our next encounter with that design.
If we are not guided by intuition, the elements are not appropriate, and so they
do not discharge all of their charge and, thus, we have not only a record but
also an unresolved charge that is the force that compels us to recreate the
design situation for the specific purpose of releasing that charge. By this
process, the inner child strives to re-create our childhood environment, but it
cannot re-create that literal environment with our parents and siblings, so it
projects those roles onto the people in our adult life . We may try to resolve
an issue with our father by projecting father onto our boss, or we may try to
resolve an issue with our mother by projecting mother onto our wife. The inner
child's re-creations are not always for the purpose of resolving childhood
issues. In some cases, it re-creates our childhood world simply because the
re-creations grant familiarity, security, predictability, and hominess even
though the predictability, could mean that we re-create the unpleasant aspects
of our childhood such as a cruel woman who is our wife, instead of our mother.
| The inner child influences our thoughts and perceptions and imagery. The
inner child interprets our present world through the understanding that it had
then, an understanding that, was circumscribed by the limitations of its
experience, power, and ego development. The inner child adds its childhood
viewpoints into our adult outlook particularly our ideas regarding
relationships, love, and self esteem. |
| The inner child influences our emotions and other energy tones.
If we
were hurt by excessive criticism by our parents, the inner child still fears the
same type of criticism in adulthood. This fear can be regenerated when we are
confronted by an employer who is belittling, and so we overreact to the
employer's actions. When we resolve our childhood issues, we tend to acquire the
naturally child like qualities of the inner child such as playfulness,
enthusiasm, creativity, spontaneity, physical and emotional resilience,
imagination, love of life, curiosity, innocence, humor, physical vitality,
optimism, youthfulness and freshness, and the free expression of feelings and
emotions. |
| The inner child influences our actions. The discharged elements remain
merely as habits and references. The charged elements remain as active forces
that compel us to regenerate design situations so that we can resolve the
charge.
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