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things do not go as planned.Rather than doing something positive about it we lose our way in self-pity.
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Also, we often believe that emotional pain is inevitable. Pain is
not intended to be anyone's way of life. It is a warning signal that something
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Look for the cause within yourself for the painful
feelings and start to eliminate it through changing your thoughs about
whatever is bothering you. Emotional pain is an option based on thinking.
You can change the way your are feeling by changing your thinking.
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Our negative emotional responses are not caused
by other people, even though most of us have been brought up to believe
this. It is much easier to point to another person and "blame" them
for how we are feeling. A great deal of time and energy might be put
into changing them, rather than looking within our own
selves. Since our emotions are under our control we are responsible for
how we feel. This is a key element of good self-esteem. We create our
own emotional states regardless whether it is anger, loneliness, or
guilt. Inner peace and high self-esteem go hand-in-hand.
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Unless we physically compel people or intentionally
set out to provoke them, we have absolutely no reason to feel guilty
when they respond negatively to our actions. We can always take the
initiative in situations. We are not just victims of circumstance.
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Our emotions are caused by ourselves, not by others.
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