I have known for years that men certainly communicate differently than women, and are somewhat "impatient" with the emotional language of women.

Women want to know everything in detail. The more detail she is given, the better a woman understands a situation.

Men, on the other hand, only want enough details to "grasp the idea" and they are off and running with "solutions" to the problem. It is more difficult for a man to simply "listen" and not offer solutions when his mate is venting her frustrations to him. He wants to "fix it" for her.

This is not "bad"; but a woman doesn't always want it to be fixed! Many times, she simply wants to know her partner is there for her and cares about what is happening to her at that moment in time. She wants him to hold her and just listen to her, not offer solutions, or tell her it isn't a big deal.

Many times a woman will discover the solution to her "problem" just by talking it out with someone. If her mate has been solicitous of her and listens to her, offering words of acknowledgement to let her know he IS listening, she feels less stressed. Even if the "problem" has not been resolved. This is how "Venusians" work out their stress. They talk about it.

Men, on the other hand, are more likely to keep frustrations inside until they can "solve the problem". During this time he may become distant and withdrawn from his mate, making her feel "left out" and perhaps even feel that she has done something to make him angry. This is just how "Martians" deal with their "problems".

Not only do men and women communicate differently but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need, and appreciate differently.

In my business persona, I always found it easier to explain things to men. Perhaps because I think very logically and present ideas in that manner.. not always explaining things step by step...it would frustrate me when the women I dealt with didn't "see" the connections that were apparent to me immediately. The men *did* see the connection, probably because they perceived things so differently.

It amazed me to find that while I was "logical" in my business world, I was completely "female" in my thinking in other areas of my life. This is still a source of wonder and confusion for me at times. Much is coming clear to me in how men and women differ in thoughts and needs, as well in how they communicate.

By applying the suggestions, strategies, and techniques found in "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", you not only will create more passion in your relationships but also will increasingly balance your masculine and feminine characteristics.

When the Martians first got to Venus everyone was ecstatic and so happy to be together. They knew they were different, and expected the differences, so they were tolerant of those differences and worked harder to understand each other. Then, the atmosphere induced "selective amnesia" and suddenly the Martians and Venusians forgot they were from different planets and were "supposed to be different". And since that day men and women have been in conflict.

Men and women expect the other to be like themselves... thinking that what makes "them" happy, will make their partner happy as well. This causes a great deal of conflict and friction in a relationship. When we remember that men and women are from different "planets", everything can be explained.

I would rate the book a "9" for its enlightening content (on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being lowest and 10 being highest) but the author does use simplistic language and is repetitive with the ideas he presents...I would still recommend it for any woman who thinks she has done something "wrong" when her mate withdrew from her emotionally/physically; and for any man who has ever found himself wondering "how" to understand women!

[Buy Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus here]

When you have limited time for a lengthy novel Chicken Soup may be just the book for you. There are 101 short stories that will stir your emotions. Every story had me examining my relationships with my co-workers, and family. One story on special moments stands out in my mind the most.

A Houston mother of two was off to McDonalds at the request of her children to get lunch. As they drove to get the anticipated happy meal they saw panhandlers at each corner they past. By the time the arrived at McDonalds the mother decided to order 15 extra happy meals to take to the people they had passed. Feeding the hungry lunch became their act of kindness for the week. The last meal was given to a woman asking for change and as they turned to go home they were stopped at the signal with her. The mother then asked woman when she was going to eat her lunch. The panhandler explained that she was saving the meal to bring to her daughter who loved Mcdonalds but could never afford the luxury.

After reading that story I began looking at people and thinking about their needs. We pass by people every day and our attitudes effect their lives. Here is a quote from the book that I think exemplifies my experience. "What is right for one soul may not be right for another, It may mean having to stand on you own and do something strange in the eyes of others." Eileen Caddy

The Chicken Soup books come in many versions including one for work, a spanish edition and many versions available on audio. The stories will touch your heart. I would recommend that you purchase them with a box of tissue.

[Buy Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul here] Also available in [audiocassette]

You can find recent author interviews (including Tony Hillerman, Richard North Patterson, Richard Preston, Tom Clancy, and Janet Evanovich) in Amazon.com's Mystery & Thrillers section, under More of What We're Reading.

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More recommended reading:

[Affirmations of Wealth : 101 Secrets of Daily Success]by V. John Alexandrov.
Great book for those who already use affirmations and know they can change your life!

[Creative Visualization] by Shakti Gawain
one of the best guides I have found to teach visualization to attain your dreams!

[Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype] by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
A MUST read for women seeking answers to their inner self!

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