"Anger is also one of the grief stages. To skip the stage of anger would be a stunting of true normal healing. Anger is powerful... can even be frightening... but is also usually the second stage, and is the catalyst for getting you out of the first shock and denial stage. It can bring you back to being able to function daily again. USE the anger to motivate yourself! USE the anger to turn your eyes inward, making yourself your priority, rather than to be looking at your betraying spouse's priorities. USE the anger to never again be lulled into being the complaisant, easily duped, too compliant, trusting wife again. Yes, we all SHOULD be able to trust our hubby...unfortunately...we all now know that that isn't how things turned out! For some odd reason the characteristics of the above type of betrayed partner seems to breed nothing but contempt and disrespect from the betrayers. And the betrayer actually seems to think even less of the betrayed if no anger is showed, and will likely up the cruelty behaviors!"~~from denjim50s

"It will be a year in a month's time that he asked me for a D. I was angry before I found out about the A, he'd left me with no job, no real means of providing for my kids, in a province where the only family I had was his. I used that initial anger to pick myself up and dust myself off. I wasn't going to let his actions ruin our lives. Things started to improve, then bang, I end up out of a home, find out about his A, and end up back with him. I didn't do anything with that anger. It just kind of sat there. Mostly I was depressed. But after August, when I recieved an email from a girl he was planning to sleep with, then I got angry. I got myself enrolled in college, and I am now finishing out the 2nd semester of 4. I'm not angry anymore, quite content with the way my life is going, but anger helped get me here."~~from anha_silverhawk  

"Anger-it eats me alive. I try to write out my emotions and keep a journal--when I read some of the things I have written in the past, I can tell that I have come a long way-I'm still angry, painfilled, etc...but at least I'm making some headway."~~from jndavis

"take a walk...better yet, take a FAST RUN!!! Free writing: For ten minutes without stopping, write down everything that makes you angry and why...cuss them out, write what you would like to do to them (if you were psycho) and just let it all out!  meditate"~~from amyjo1088

"I'm better with it now...but I wasn't at first. My anger has consumed me completely at times. In the earlier days such as summer 2001 I would rage at times. it did no one any good and only served to make me feel so weak and depressed after it subsided. I bought "The Anger Workbook" through Amazon books and worked with it, also the book itself. Even with all of this, I would become so incensed everytime I knew he saw her. I was less explosive as time went on but no less angry. I usually dissolve in tears when I get angry (which only makes me angrier!!) I handle things better these days....MUCH better. When the triggers come I can get angry but I realize how it is hurting myself so much. I live alone now and the best way to release it is for me to walk or go out somewhere and just refocus my thoughts. I now have high blood pressure that is not being controlled well by medication. I guess we all react differently with anger, depending on our personalities and background. I would say...talk to a therapist, do physical work, change the scenery and thoughts. Anger is a necessary part of healing."~~from ladyjane154