My personal info can be found on my profile, so I'll just stick to the details of my H's affairs. Yes, affairs.
My H travels out of town most Monday's thru Friday's and is only home on weekends. His first A was in Oct. 2000. That's when
I joined this board. I found a note in his pocket from a OW. He confessed to the A. My H is an alcoholic. He finally admitted
that too. We we married in 1984. We thought we had rebuilt our marriage to be the best ever. I was on cloud 9 AFA happiness
is concerned. Then the door slammed in my face again with D-Day #2, April 19, 2003. This time I threw him out. That's what
I should have done the first time. We made many mistakes in our rebuilding the first time, and we've learned from them. H
was gone for one month. He never wanted to go, but he did. I let him back in and we are working on rebuilding a second time.
He is an active member in AA now. He is in therapy and we will be starting MC when his T agrees that he is ready for it. And,
he quit his job! That is something I never dreamed he would do. He has always been a workaholic too. He was so much more loyal
to his company than he was his family. He put the company first many times. He has been offered a job with another company
that will put him home every night! I can't tell you how thrilled I am about that. We have worked out an agreement on paper
that says what the consequences will be if he ever drinks or cheats again. He knows what he will be losing. I pray everyday
that he will maintain the strength he needs to remain sober and faithful.
Whew, that wasn't too long I hope. And it was the short version. I just want you all to know that I will
be here for you if you ever need anything. I will do my best to help you in any way I can. Please use the link to my profile
if you need to email me anytime. I've learned alot about rebuilding and how to do it the right way. I want to be able to share
that with you and for those of you who aren't rebuilding I want to be there to comfort you and help you through your journey
to a new and better life, because we all deserve only the best, and as one poster wrote just last night, we should never settle
for anything less........may God richly bless each and everyone of us...........found
