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Woman can decorate a house better than man
Dowry system was introduced in many civilizations;
this was introduced to share the expenses for settling new house. In Athens the absence of dowry would call into question
the legitimacy of the marriage. Kyrios (Guardian) was required to provide dowry to bride. In Ancient Rome it was responsibility
of the parents to provide dowry to the bride, which was managed
by her husband after the marriage. In ancient Egypt during Pharaohs there was no sign of dowry as woman had right to inherit
parents property along with brother. But When Greeks then Roman took control of Egypt signs of dowry began to appear. 8th century BC pre-Roman Hammurabi code of conduct parents were responsible
for giving dowry. In the Rig- Veda inscription that cows and gifts given by the father of the bride to the daughter accompanied
the brides procession [Rg Ved X.85]. Dowry system was applicable in all civilizations and religions that did not permit inheritance
right for property of parents to daughter and son equally. Dowry system has become greed to many parents of sons despite the
fact that many Governments have regulated the equal rights for girls in parents property. At least a dozen women die each
day in kitchen fire, some are harassed and persecuted. Some wives commit suicide and due to extreme sufferings and mental
tortures for not paying repeated demands of dowries. Only a few cases are brought to justice. Son has become a salable property
that parents sell at premium. Aggravation of dowry situation is, when mother-in-law persuades son to ill treat and mayhem
to pressure wife to bring more dowry. Rather Mother-in-laws role has more importance in creating this situation, mother-in-law
had also gone through wifes position in her past time and same wife, today being tortured, will repeat the same with future
sons wife. What I feel as there is a woman psychology behind this (1) Mother-in-law has unmarried daughter to be married away.
(2) An ego-clash for control (one is on the queens seat and the other to invade queen seat) in the house or change in sons
attitude after new womans arrival thus two women (two grinding stones) and son in between two (grain) is ready to be flour.
Unluckily, hate of wife and mother-in-law is everywhere in the world. Also in modern European and American community this
exists, wives are lucky in this society pair can live separately but in Asian societies mother is dignity due to religious
effect and the affection he gets through out the life, so mother is above of all. Thus the new comer looses war.
Best education is the best dowry. Parents are advised
to educate daughters the best as the time has changed and it is time that education has more value in the employment market
and fields have been opened for women to become entrepreneurs. Amount of dowry may be invested for her secured future.
- Girls
parents should help reporting Governments or concerned authorities about the dowry demand by groom parents. Marriage with
such boys should be discouraged as demand of excessive dowry means they do not want girl but money this would result to extortion
after marriage by torture.
- Besides
arresting blacklisting in communities of dowry extorters most essentials. Will help not only to discourage, will also help
other girl parents to keep away from such people.
- All dowry receipts and payments as dowry need to be recorded
with marriage registration authority to help during unwanted incidents or separation. Girls parents should not hesitate to
get registered of payments. Even in ancient societies was maintained of all transactions.
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Old age is like child age they need help/ support. Just think when you reach to old
age. U do today is that not training to your child to do the same way!!!
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Woman has more things to talk so they talk,
talk, talk and more talk
If a girl is educated well by parents and employed with
adequate remuneration, would she need to face such situation? This repeats questions in me. Is marriage not a curse to women?
Dowry Deaths Project on scribd.com -The definition of "Dowry" includes any property or valuable security given or agreed
to given by either directly or indirectly: By one party to a marriage to the other party of the marriage or By parents of
either party of a marriage or by any other person, to either party of the marriage or to any other person at or before or
any time after the marriage in connection with the marriage of the said parties.
Dowry Death Author: Sidhartha Roy - The dictionary meaning of the term dowry is ‘property or money brought by bride to her husband on marriage’.
The system of taking dowry is prevalent in our country since ages. As per section 2 of the Dowry Prohibition Act.,1961 dowry
is defined as “dowry includes any property or valuable security given or greed to be given either directly or indirectly
Religions of most undeveloped/ underdeveloped countries see woman as untouchable
and are isolated during their menses period
Ego
and domination are the major causes of domestic violence
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